Hey everyone, my name is Kristin, there's a picture of me on my advice column.. I'm a senior in high school and im 18 years olds.. I know I'm pretty young, but I've been through more than anyone would imagine and I've been through things most teenage girls haven't experienced yet in life. Here's a few things about myself, I've gone through a very serious one year relationship that ended a long long time ago, my parents have been divored for about 6 years, I cheerlead for my high school, I do ballet and have been playing the piano since I was seven, I work at a nearby UPS Store, and I am a dedicated Greek-Orthodox Christian. I hope to get accepted into Cal Poly San Louis Obispo and major in Nutrition..I love to hear about other peoples issues and problems so I could help them deal with it by relating them to my own experiences. So if you wanna talk, I'm here =]
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Location: I live in California, I'm half arab half italian
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well you see i ahve this friend and i realy like him but i don't know if he likes me and if he does should i go out with him.. i mean he is liek one of my real good friends and if i would go out with him and then break up what if we would no longer be friends.. i have no clue what to do i need help.. can anyone help me please
Confused me (link)
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in MOST relationships, after u break up, u arent friends anymore..its sad i know. but thats just how it usually goes..thats a sacrifice EVERY1 takes when going out with some1..if he likes u back, i would definitly go out with him if ur willing to take that risk of the posibility of not being friEnds after it ends.
love kristin
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I know this sounds completely messed up, and might gross u out. but i need help. sometimes when im bored, ill just start scratching my head to the point where it bleeds and forms scabs (very little ones!) and now i cant help but pick at them and scratch them. theres no reason i do it, its just a realllllllly weird habit. i dont know whats wrong with me?! any tips on how i can make it stop? (link)
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u shOuld put on fake nails, like get them professionaly done..itll really help!!
love kristin
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well, a while back my friends all got along, but then randomally they got in a fight and split up. now we are ok but i still feel tention between us and i dont know what to do? how can i confront them and fix it all.
-needy (link)
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Im actually going through that right now..it sucks. theres really nothing u can do about it besides being there for ALL ur friends. dont take any ones side, dont talk behind backs when the other side does it..you really cant do anything about it, the only thing u can do is when one side of the friends are kinda talking about the other side, tell them whuts real..like if u think that they are kinda overexaturating, be like, well maybe u just think that cause u dont really get along with her maybe u are right though but i doubt it? or something like that..just make sure to stay neutral and everything will be fine, trust me ive gone thru this, if he stay true to both sides of the group, itll be okay..
love kristin
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i saw my first love at a football game and i think i might still have something for him. he always wants to see me and hook up but the hook up thing stops me from seeing him. 2 of my best friends like him, one obsessed and the other is a hook up girl. me and him have liked each other on and off for about 5 years but i want to be with him again.. what should i do? (link)
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talk to the one who is the hook up typa girl, cause then its not fair for you cause she just wants a hook up one night thing prolly, and u want a life time thing kinda. For the other one,thats whut is going to be difficult. Id also talk to her about it. BEcause really you have first dibs on the guy!! i mean he was ur first love, u guyz have liked eachother for 5 YEARS!! thats not fair to you that right when one of ur other friends likes him u gotta back off. they should be the ones backing off u know? so definetly talk about it with both of them. and tell them that u are still inlove with him but u dont know whut tto do.
love kristin
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Hello. I have been a cheerleader for 15 years, and with all the experience I've been through a lot of issues. So I started my own cheer advice column. If you need any help with stunts, tumbling, dance, jumps, team issues, tryouts, etc. Ask me! Column: DivazGirl (link)
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thanks alot!! i will =]
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I met this guy online, and he's 36. Yea old but I didn't plan on going out with the guy. He said he liked me and this guy is looking for a serious relationship. I am not, and I just want to be friends. We still talked on the phone, and online when I told him that I didn't want to be more than friends. Well he awlays got mad because he really likes me and he thought that if I talked to him more and more I would change my mind about going to visit him. He would always mumble stuff on the phone and I hated it so much. And when he did it another time, I was so pissed off. So I emailed him, told him that if hes trying to get me to come visit him that its not woking. That its rude to be saying what he says about me not coming to visit, and that he has to understand that we will only be friends. He understands but I'm scared he's not going to talk to me anymore. Because if he was trying to get me to change my mind.and if he knows its not working. I dont think he's going to try anymore. But this guy is so cool, and a great *friend* if he doesnt call this weekend I'm gonna be pretty sad. I regret sending the email, but on the other hand I dont regret it. Because I'm always hiding my feelings but this time I stood up for myself. Sorry its so long. I will rate you 5's! (link)
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Well, there's two scenarios that can take place. One, he can call and u two can talk about it. Or Two, he doesnt call and u juss gotta get over it. it puts u in a realli uncomfortable position when some1 is kinda criticizing u about not coming to visit them. like whut do u say back to that? if i were u, if he does call u, u gotta be STRAIGHT Up, i know u prolly already have been, but u just gotta keep doing it. the next time he throws a stupid remark about u not coming to visit him, be like, LISTEn buddy u love u as a friend and i dont travel miles and miles to just see a friend. i dunno i dont realli like tha sounds of this guy. or maybe the situation is just realli hard...
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hey please help! im really upset now! okay well ive had 7 boyfriends and one of them im going out with right now. well.. i love him the most out of all of the boys ive went out with! and today after school he came up to me and was like so your not gonna say ( just playin around ) i was like hi ! lol and he was like so ur not gonna give me a hug? i gave him a hug then we said our byes and then we went to our busses. well i was waiten for my bus and i looked and he was walken with 2 other girls and he hugged one of them and ive seen him with her at the ymca before with her and im really upset! what do i do??!! (link)
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dont wory bout it at all..im sure they are just good friends..on the other hand, just watch and see if hes always with her, hangn out with her on weekands, on the phone with her, etc..then u might have something to worry bout, but for now i really think its okay.
lov kristin
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i have pretty much felt like this my whole life...
i feel like whenever i do something people are watching me and talking shit about me or gunna laugh at me or something, i mean i realize that they dont really do that, they probably dont even notice me, but i dont like getting up in class to go sharpen my pencil cause im scared or embarresed or something that people will watch me and just stare at me the whole time or the teacher will yell at me for getting up...and today i was to embarresed or scared to go get ketchup and put it on my plate cause i was thinking that people might laugh and me and be like omg look at her shes using ketchup or something...i know it really weird..
i mean im not a shy person cause ill talk to a lot of people but its things like that..whats wrong with me? (link)
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ALOTAAAA PPL ARE LIKE THAT!!! theres absolutly nuthing wrong with u. u just have REALLY low self confidence thats ALL...u cant do that nemore though, u realy cant..YOU have to help YOURSELF by changing..nobody else can change to make ur self confidence higher,u know? whut u gotta do is, when u wanna sharpen ur pencil, force urself to go and sharpen ur pencil..there is nothing more than that to do. when u want ketchup, force urself to go and get the ketchup. i know for a fact that i have like sooooo much more respect for some1 who doesnt care whut ppl think about them cause they do whut they want no matter whut ppl may think or so. im sure u know all this cause its obvious, but the only way u can change is if YOU change. God wont help u unless u help yourself. FORCE urself to raise ur hand and ask a question in class, etc..its the only way..
love kristin
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Hey yawl i have a question,ok here it goes.im in the popular group (not to be conceited)but my friends are too and well they kindof get on my nerves sometimes.they brag alot,and they think they are all that and that they are the best things in the world.and they r really bossy.oh yeah we are all girls.and they are always always annoying me.should i tell them how i feel?or let them keep on? thanx Haley (link)
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well usually with tha "popular group" if some1 tries and says how they feel, tha other girls will get pissed off and be even more rude..atleast thats how it is at my schooL...s0 if i were u, id just let them keep being who they are..annoying bossy stuck up, etcetc...u cant realli complain cause thats juss who they are, hence the name, "the popular group" and if ur raelli unhappy and u know u cant change them, then dont be that girl who hasto be friends with only the popular girls cause thats just stupid...if ur realli unhappy get new friends.. i know thats hard but do w/e u can to make u happy..
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Okay I have this friend and she has been my friend for about a year. Anyway she is like always bugging me she never shuts up and she always bugs me and my boyfriend. She is always trying to get us to do things, and she makes us on the sims 2 and made me get pregnant on the game and him have an affair with the maid. I mean she is a really good friend but she is always like butting in to our relationship and it gets on me and my boyfriends nerves. I just wish that she could but out of me and my boyfriends relationship. My boyfriend thinks that she likes to try to make us do stuff because she can't get a boyfriend.
Please Help Me
(*)Haleigh Ann(*) (link)
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Hey..wow thats kinda a weird friend?? hehe jk..but like every1 else prolly said, u gotta talk to her about it..thats the onlyyyy way shes gunna really get it..i mean there are other ways to hint it, but itd be mean, so tha only nice and mature way to do it is by telling her how u feel..the next time she doesnt something stupid like that and she laughs or thinks its funny, kinda roll ur eyes and be like, "listen u and me are hella good friends..and if u ever had a prob wit me id want u to tell me..i dunno it kinda makes me feel uncomfortable when..."etcetc..u know whut i mean?? whut shes doing it totally outta line and not her place at all...she does it cause she knows she can..cause u havent put ur foot down u know? shes disrespecting u and ur bf so u gotta take care of that...if u need ne more help leave me one in my inbOx..k?
love kristin
oh yeah and if she wont leave u 2 alone, dont invite her places, dont take her with u guyz when u hang out, dont pick up her calls when u 2 are together and if she asks to come with u guys if u ever go out be like..we are gunna go just tha 2 of us like kinda a date thing....sorry :-/..say that or something
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Hey,
i just broke up with my boyfriend and i love him still ALOT n i want to get back with him but he doesnt want to. it hutrs so much n im trying reallyhard to deal with it all. when i found out he doesnt like me like he used to ((i heard it from him over the fone)) i completly smashed it on the floor n went screaming into the living room crying. im a bit of a drama queen n i tend to hold on to ppl but i reLLY LOVED HIM ALOT N IT HURT SO BAD N I WANT SOME WAYS TO COME ITH IT ALL. YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS? and do you think you can instant message me personally? i dont really have anyone i can trust and actually talk to bout these things without feeling really hurt about stuff.
xOx HaNa
screen name:papercutheart318 (link)
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we should talk on AIM sometime cause i have sooo much to tell u to help u out!! my sn is pureluver143...for now, girl PLAY IT OFF. I am telling you, it might even get to him alittle bit. Like if he sees that u are kool about the break up too he might be like, waittt i miss the attention, and try to get back with you..also, even if u might not see it, from what your saying it kinda sounds like ur making it obvious that u still REALLY like him..which is totalllly normal and fine..but that is going to push him away even more.. u gotta play it off, act like u dont care at school..thats step number 1, but u gotta IM me and well talk more caus ei have sooo much more to say!!! okay i have gone thru tha exact same thing..i went out with my bf for a hole year..totally inlove with him...after a week of being broken up he got over me..and till this day im not even over him...so i know whut ur going thru..IM me asap
love kristin
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im 15 year old male.
okay i got a prob. I like this one gurl and she asked me to go to the movies with her. When i went to her housr to pick her up her friends were wit her. i kinda wanted to be alone wit her. well in the movies we were about to kiss wen her friend intterupted. 2 weeks later we go alone i try to kiss her but she shyly pulls away saying not here. I no she lkes me.
Wat do i do? WAt do u think hapened in between those times.
PLEASE ALOT OF PEOPLE ANSWER I NEED AS MUCH HELP AS I CAN GET (link)
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There's nothing at all wrong with how she's acting!!! TRUST ME! She's just a shy girl..She sounds EXACTLY like me. For the first couple of weeks she's going to want to go out with you and her friends at the same time because she's too scared/shy to go by herself. About the kissing thing, she prolly thinks she's going to do something wrong, etc so she makes up excuses not to kiss you. I've done that a million times!!! As for her friends..that prolly annoys u alot that they are always around and even intruppting you two. If it's always like that, then talk to the girl about it..this is what I would say if I were you, "Listen..I REALLY am starting to like you alot..i think ur an awesome girl and really cute, but it's kinda getting hard to get to know u better when ur friends are ALWAYS around..i think they are totally kool n everything, but i would like to take u out on a date, just the 2 of us..how does that sound to you??" good luck
kristin
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One day me and my friends were hangin out and this gurl came up to me and smiled. WEll that day she hung out with us. The next day at lunch she sat by me and we talked. the next few weeks we got closer. And we started to kiss and go out. Well one of my friends likes her and i dont want to hurt him. To make matters worse i over heard him and her talking and she really seemed to like him.
Im confused should i bring my game up and not be friends or should i let him have her and still be friends. I dont want to give her up (link)
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It sounds like she's playing the both of you. Talk to your friend and ask him whuts up with him and the girl..Then tell him about how you thought in the beginning that she really liked you, but now you dont know what to think anymore. Basically, just talk to your friend about her. And if worse comes to worse, end it with her, and stay friends with the guy.
love kristin
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my best friend and my ex boyfriend have done stuff before and they still like each other on and off. and thats the same for me and him, but i want to do stuff with him but i dont want my best friend to find out and get mad. should i do it or just forget about him? (link)
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Hey, I really don't think you should do anything with this guy. If I were you, as hard as it is, I'd try to forget about him. He's messing around with you AND your best friend..? Not cool at all on his part or yours. Im just being honest..
~~kristin
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ahhh im soo confused and scared... ok this weekend me and my friend went over to my boyfriends house and we were hanging out and then everyone had 2 go off to different places, so my boyfriend told us to call him after we were done with watever we were doing, so we did and he was like "we're trying to figure out what we're doing so we'll call you back wen we figure it out" and i made him promise... well me and my friend we're sitting in side my house waiting for his call and he never called, so we just went to this party for a lil bit then came back to my house, well my friend called my boyfriend back up and they were like "yo come over to my house" and this mad me mad, because he never called us back and then hes gunna tell us to come over (and all this anger was building up inside of me cuz he never calls wen he says he will anymore) so i took the phone away from my friend and i was yelling at them (i didn't know wether it was my boyfriend or his friend on the phone) saying "how the he** was he gunna not call us and then tell us to come over after us sitting there waiting for his call and we ended up having to call him" and they said to just come over and i said watever and gave the phone back to my friend and they said to call back in 10 mins and they wud pick us up. well we called back in 10 min and they were like "we dunno wat we're doing now so call back in 5" so we called back in 5, and the phone was shut off!!!! so i was soo mad the rest of the night... but anyways wat im getting to is, i feel bad for blowing off on them yet still mad because they did that to us... so how do i approach them 2 apologize, and wat shud i say... and what do you think about how i acted and wat they did to us??
PLEASE ANSWER!!! i rate high (link)
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EW. girl if I were you, I'd break it off with him!! He hella disrespected you. Even if all they were doing was sitting around watching tv, he said he was going to call you back like 20 times, but did he? No, and oh wait..he even turned his cell phone off?? He obviously knew that even if he did that shit, you wouldn't break up with him, cause if he was scared you were going to break up with him because of that, he wouldn't of done it in the first place. SoO break up with him!!!
LoVe KrIsTiN
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well to be honest i'm worried about my bestfriend.. her boyfriend still talks with his ex girlfriend (she moved 3 years ago, outside the country). she found emails were they said that they cared a lot for each other. he said it didn't matter because it was just by emails, nothing would ever happen, it was just a scape of reality, a game.. she loves him a lot.. i don't know what to tell her. i'm her bestfriend i don't want to break her heart, but i personaly think she should break up with him .. what do u guys think?? (link)
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Hm, to be honest, that's not enough to break up with someone..That's only my opinion though. Yeah it is kinda weird on her bf's part with those emails, etc. But is there anything else that's saying that she needs to break up with him?
Love kristin
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I have a boyfriend who i see every other weekend.i just saw this kid who i havent seen in three years and i still like him. wat do i do? do i stay with my boyfriend who ive known for a month and have been together a week or do i break up with my boyfriend for the kid ive liked for three years? some1 help please (link)
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If I were you, I would first make sure that this guy I haven't seen in forever liked me back and wanted to pursue a relationship, if he does, then make your move and break up with your boyfriend. To me, that's a kinda fucked up thing to do, but you got to do whatever makes you happy. Also, if this guy u haven't seen in 3 years doesnt like u back, etc, id still break up with your bf because what if something like this happens in the future? You don't want to hurt him even more.
Love kristin
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i'm a 15 year old gurl wit hella regrets. this weekend i went to a party and got drunk...hella drunk! well when i get drunk i get really horny..and i was all over this really popular guy frum skoo! the gurl hosting the party hella liked him and i knew this..i tried to stop myself but i kept making hella bad decisions. the desision worst one was giving the guy head. well the next day hella people knew about it and are hella mad! some of his friends wont even talk to him cuz he messed around wit a slut and a gurl as low as me! i'm hella not a slut im usually hella innocent..befo that i only been fingered and never even touched a dick!i have no idea wut i'm goin to do tommarro at skoo...how shud i react to people that ask me bout it? wut shud i do how shud i handle this ?!sorry so long (link)
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I'm really sorry about what you are going through. If I were you, if people yell things out in the halls, you seriously just have to ignore them. I mean what else can you do? Go and say, SHUTUP! and make youself look stupid? If someone approaches you about it, don't deny it, but be like, I was incredibly drunk and made such a bad move, and if I could re-do the night I would've never ever done that. I think you should call the guy, if he knows your number, then block it, and tell him those exact words, and I could call the girl too and tell her that. Even if you're scared, etc that's what you HAVE to do to atleast try and make things better. Then leave the rest up to God. Remember, God won't help you unless you help yourself.
Love kristin
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ok...im 17/m senior and ive never been n a relationship...ive been on dates with 2 ppl in my life and the last one i went out w/ 3 times...but thats done...i been told a lot recently how good ilook and how hott i am, but this is way new for me....i dont think ive ever even gotten a look from a gurl till now...im a popular guy, not the most, but every1 knows me...im a funny guy...but wats wrong w/ me...i mean i just got my first kiss! wtf...help plz. ha (link)
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Okay, I think I know what kinda situation youre in. you probably just recently got really hott, maybe u know like u just got more good looking over the summer, even if u dont notice it, and alot of girls are becoming more attracted to you..its as simple as that. i can name like 5 guys off the top of my head who every year coming back to school after summer, who are totttallly hotter than the year before. sometimes they dressed better, got their braces off, got more buffer, etc. maybe you fell in one of these categories?? i know u prolly dont notice yourself getting better looking, nobody ever realizes when they become good looking if they never have been before. Try to be totally outgoing and funny with girlz, thats an obvious one. Also try and get to know girls personally, they like that trust me..like ask girls what their nationality is, if they have ne brothers or sisters, etc..even if uve gone thru highschool with them since freshman yr, ask them those typa questions and trust me they will start noticing u more. dont like scare them off by asking them personal quesotins, say it in a totally casual, kick back sorta way..
good luCk
love kristin
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I went on vacation and met this perfect guy there. We hung out everyday for 2 weeks. We "were a couple" for about a week. I havent seen him now for 2 months and it has been the hardest thing ever. We both still have really strong feelings for eachother but i am kinda starting to like this guy at skool. I am going to go see him for Thanksgiving. Should i totally forget about this guy and go for someone who lives in the same state (since i will only be able to see him about 3 times a year)?? I dont kno what to do so please help me!
Thanx a lot (link)
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ofcourse u shouldnt forget about that other guy!! but i think u shuold defintly move on and go for this other new guy...ull always no matter whut have that guy u met on vacation in ur heart, ull never forget her, but u needa move on from that..and thats whut u shuold tell him.
love kristin
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