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Help me!
20/female
I met this guy online, and he's 36. Yea old but I didn't plan on going out with the guy. He said he liked me and this guy is looking for a serious relationship. I am not, and I just want to be friends. We still talked on the phone, and online when I told him that I didn't want to be more than friends. Well he awlays got mad because he really likes me and he thought that if I talked to him more and more I would change my mind about going to visit him. He would always mumble stuff on the phone and I hated it so much. And when he did it another time, I was so pissed off. So I emailed him, told him that if hes trying to get me to come visit him that its not woking. That its rude to be saying what he says about me not coming to visit, and that he has to understand that we will only be friends. He understands but I'm scared he's not going to talk to me anymore. Because if he was trying to get me to change my mind.and if he knows its not working. I dont think he's going to try anymore. But this guy is so cool, and a great *friend* if he doesnt call this weekend I'm gonna be pretty sad. I regret sending the email, but on the other hand I dont regret it. Because I'm always hiding my feelings but this time I stood up for myself. Sorry its so long. I will rate you 5's!
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If he doesnt call cuz he knows ur not gonna come visit him... hes not worth ur time... he should respect ur decisions!
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well you shouldnt feel bad about sending the e-mail number one. number two you told him that you didnt watn to be more than friends and he was still trying to get to to feel bad about it and trying to get you to go visit him. I think that you should explain to him some of the reasons on why you are not looking for a serious relationship. when you sent him the letter you were letting him know that you didnt like him mubling stuff under his breath trying to get you to go visit him and you tried to tell him over the phone and he didnt pay that much attention to it. I also think that if he dosent call you then hes going to be hoping that you realized how much you like talking to him and stuff. because im pretty sure that you have heard the remedy that you dont realized ho wmuch you need someone or love someone untill they are gone, and he will be hoping the you will call him to show him that you cant stand not talking to him. if you need any more help you can im me at seksielilchick09@aol.com or you can e-mail me at prtygrl2009@yahoo.com
signed~:~Des~
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Well, there's two scenarios that can take place. One, he can call and u two can talk about it. Or Two, he doesnt call and u juss gotta get over it. it puts u in a realli uncomfortable position when some1 is kinda criticizing u about not coming to visit them. like whut do u say back to that? if i were u, if he does call u, u gotta be STRAIGHT Up, i know u prolly already have been, but u just gotta keep doing it. the next time he throws a stupid remark about u not coming to visit him, be like, LISTEn buddy u love u as a friend and i dont travel miles and miles to just see a friend. i dunno i dont realli like tha sounds of this guy. or maybe the situation is just realli hard...
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If he is your *true* friend. He`ll call. If he is worth it to you and if he cares as much as he says he does. He`ll call. Good Luck.
xO.Carrie
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He doesn't sound too mature to me. I wouldn't consider any 36 year old man who mumbles stuff under his breath because he can't change your mind mature. How well do you know him? Since you've never seen him, for all you know he could be looking for another body to add to his list as opposed to someone to spend the rest of his life with. If he really valued your friendship, then he'll contact you, if he didn't then he won't. It's that simple. Unless, of course, he is planning to kill you, in this case he'll call and try to schedule a meet again. if he doesn't call, don't lose any sleep over losing his friendship. He didn't value it anyway.
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So...you never really stated your question, but I'll answer with what I think you may need/want to here. Internet relationships/friendships are ALWAYS a risk because you never FULLY know the person because it's never in real life. You may thing you know him, but for all you know he could totally be a liar and all that. You have to use your head. If the age thing doesn't bother you, than that's fine, that's you preference. In my opinion, you did the right thing by sending him that email because you should never put/keep yourself in uncomfortable positions. It wouldn't have been safe for oyu to go visit this guy. The guy may not call you ever again, and if thats the case you just have to deal with it. If he does call you, well contiunue talking but maybe not a "friendly or personal" and maybe not as much so he can CLEARLY see the answer is no. Remember, be smart, be safe. Everything happens for a reason. What's meant to be will always find a way. :)
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