I'm 17/f and my boyfriend is 19. we've been dating for about a year now, and we're pretty serious about each other.
he swore into the navy a couple weeks ago. he'll be in it for about 5-6 years.
as it stands, we've said we are going to stay together while hes gone for now. unless something comes up etc.
its a lot of time though.
should we stay together?
dont say i should experience dating others--im not going for that reason.
If you truly believe in your feelings for him, and his feelings for you and you think you can make it through that long, i say go for it. if later on down the road something comes up, like you find someone else, and you feel that is the right decision, then go for that too. do whatever you feel is right. don't force yourself to call off being with him because you think "oh thats just too long" because you might regret it later. but don't stay with him if you feel obligated. do what is right for you, and i'm sure he'll do what's right for him as well.
good luck :D
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so my problem is that i can't make friends is it becuase i wear a scarf or something? I don't know what's the problem but i just can't make friends.
Help please!
the person below was kinda harsh =/ people are going to judge you no matter what. if you want to wear a scarf, you should. if you want to dress like everyone else, go ahead. its your life. if people are going to judge you just because you wear a scarf, then those are not people you should be hanging out with anyways. try to be more out going if you arnt. join a club or a sport. be social. people are drawn to people with the same desires or likes as them, so be open.
good luck :D
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15/f and the guy is 15 as well.
so basically, i'm going to leave out the fine details. i danced with the guy i like, a lot. the last slowdance. we talked a little and he was very sweet and cute. my best friend holly claims he was smiling the whole time he danced with me, which i assume is a good sign. after we pulled away, the lights came on and i said 'thankyou' and he smiled and was looking in my eyes (not so sure if this was intentional) and i got nervous, said goodbye, and turned away. i talked to him a lot online the next day, a very big conversation that was about nothing and full of flirting. the thing is, i don't know what to do next. i liked this same guy last year, and he liked me, and he asked me out. i said yes but then dumped him the next day because i was very nervous and scared and didn't know what to do, and i blew it.
now i have no idea what to do, and i'm INCREDIBLY shy. there's no way to tell if he likes me or not, and im pretty sure his friends dont like me very much as he is 'popular' and i'm 'not so popular'.
help is much appreciated,
thank you for reading this long story in advance!
thats so cute! :D you should tell him you really enjoy being with him, and tell him you're sorry you ruined it last year and that you really regret it. then if you need to [incase he doesnt take the hint] tell him you'd love another chance.
try not to be so shy, take a chance. even though it might be hard now, it'll be great whenever you get what you want.
good luck :D
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What should I say if I want to be her boy friend?
What do I say?
When or where should I say?
If it is on AIM or something like that, how should I get her AIM without it seeming plain out obvious why?
I read somewhere that in front of a crowd is bad, because you can both embarrass each other, either way. I think this is why: If a girl rejects the boy, the boy gets made fun of, which will probably make the girl feel sad(if she has a heart :P), and if they go out, their friends will bug her about it.
before asking her out, try talking to her more on AIM. randomly IM her every now and then and ask her how her day went, or tell her randomly one day in class that the shirt she is wearing makes her eyes look amazing. then when you get to the point of asking her out, i think you should do it if you actually do get a chance alone with her, but if you don't you can do it on AIM, but make sure its sweet. say something along the lines of "i really like you *insert name* and its okay if you don't feel the same, i just need you to know how i feel. and if you feel the same thats great, and i would love to date you. but if you don't i completely understand." be nice about it, but make sure its clear how much you care about her.
good luck :D
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Ok, I have this best friend, I'll call her Sierra. Now, Sierra is great and everything, but she's a little... well, to be honost, she's a complete poser. But instead of posing as a certain stereotype [skater, prep, emo, etc.] She copies me! She ALWAYS does what I do! Don't get me wrong, I am flattered, but it's annoying, especially when people actally believe her about things she says she does. Like art, for example. I've had a huge passion for drawing since Pre-K. My dad's side of the family were artists, so I kind of grew up around the environment. I have a sketchbook that I take to school, to doodle when I get bored in class. Ok, a few weeks ago, I had my sketchbook out in study hall and was doodling, when she comes up and asks me what i'm doing. I answered and then she goes off about how she "loves to draw too!" and "what a coincidance!". I have never, I mean NEVER, heard or saw any of this sudden artistic surge before, from her. She went on and on about how she was a "deep thinker artisticly inclined" [her exact words] person, and said she would bring her sketchbook so we could "study each other's artistic skills". Well, she goes out that night and buys her self one of those little kid's diaries, with lined, pink pages, and about the size of a regular chapter book. It was brand new, and I knew this for a fact, because it had a price tag on it.
That's just one example. Another;
My dad and I absolutely LOVE the Beatles. My dad has almost all of their cd's and some records and I've got most downloaded on my ipod. I've loved them for a while, and all my friends knew it, but until Sierra came along, no one really cared. She came along and decided she suddenly "loved the beatles" also. She only knows one song by them, but she acts like she knows all about them.
There are many other circumstances too. It has gotten to the point where she has even begun to dress like me! She wears the same shirt I do every day in gym. Don't get me wrong, it's flattering, but it's gotten to the point where it's a little infuriting. However, we happen to be best friends. I don't know how that worked out though, but we are best friends, since I DO like her as a person. It's just annoying as hell for someone to copy every move you make or thing you say. How do I let her know how much it annoys me, without actually saying it to her face? She's a tad Bipolar and gets set off very easily. I just don't want to ruin our friendship. Thanks.
well the way i see it you have three options..
1. ignore the fact that shes doing this.
2. stop being friends with her.
or 3. confront her about the situation and explain your feelings about it.
all three are hard and i think only number 3 is the best.
you don't have to say anything to her about it, but if you do you could say something along the lines of "lately i've noticed you've become a lot alike me, don't get me wrong you're my best friend, but i think it'd be better if we were more individual ya know? had as many differences as similarities. i like who you truly are not who you try to be. i'm not being harsh, i just want you to start being more yourself."
good luck :D
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I really like this guy. And in school, even though we don't have any classes together, I always "seem" to run into him. I catch him looking at me sometimes, but I don't know if he.s just daydreaming or actually looking at me. Also, whenever I'm standing next to one of his friends, he always makes a point to talk to them when I'm there. Is it just a conindinince or is he actually like trying to get me to like notice him? Thanks! :)
from what you just said, it sounds like he is very interested. infact i would bet money that he is (:
good luck :D
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well, i know this is really weird. but should i be shaving down there like around the crotch. i asked my mom but she didnt give me an answer. im afraid to ask my friends cause im afraid that they'll call me a perv or something. please answer.
its all up to you, maybe you should try it atleast once and see how it goes. i shave, because i think hair is disgusting other than on my head plus it feels better that way. but if you only do it once keep in mind that it might itch, but after you do it multiple times, it doesn't anymore.
good luck :D
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trying to make this part of the story shorter
there was a boy (y) i met 2-3 years ago
we went out the first time for about a month and i broke up with him for some ridiculous reason
then we ended up going out again like 2 months later for around 9 months, we ended up breaking up because he was wayyy to clingy and i couldnt take the jealousy anymore
3 months after we broke up we started going out again on new years
we made it until last week, when i found out he was at a party, drinking and smoking and possibly kissed a girl behind my back.
i obviously broke up with him for that
a few days ago, we just got back together. i think he apoligized and really meant it and a lot of other stuff
we are eachothers first pretty much everything, real relationship and all that other stuff
he says he loves me and i really do believe it
im 14/f, hes 16/m
alright now insert another guy (r)
i met him sometime around when i was going out with y for the second time
as i started talking to him i thought i liked him but i think it just faded or something.
months later, new school year started. (for me and r, first yr of high school). were in the same homeroom
while im still going out with y i knew r liked me
but nevertheless we were just like best friends he never tried anything on me or anything.
he made me the most amazing birthday gift ever (hes really creative, he made me this whole book of drawings and things he wrote)
when me and y broke up, he hung out with me and took me to the mall and all this other stuff
why it never worked out with us during that time period is still something i dont understand
alright now to the present
i just got back together with y and think i might like r
i got back together with him because i really thought i loved and cared about him, but if im having so many thoughts with r then maybe i dont?
i mean theres a lot of pros and cons about the both of them
but i have no idea what to do
help please?
Wow. That’s a lot of seriousness haha, your relationship with Y has been pretty hectic, I’m sure there has been a lot of amazing points though too. However, maybe you need something new. I think you should try to be more than just friends with R. Maybe things will work out and he will turn out to be the perfect guy you’ve been wanting, and if they don’t and you keep having thoughts of Y, then maybe you’re really meant to be with him. I just say go for it with R, see how things work out, and go from that. Because if you don’t try anything, you might seriously regret it later, you never know til you try right?
Good luck :D
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my boyfriend and i were havin sex or wateva and he nutted in me(but usually he pulls out) and you kno how you scoot 2 get out of da bed it was comin out on da bed (da nut) n i got my period 5 dayz early does dat mean im pregnant can you help me?
I’m pretty sure that’s not what it means.
But to be sure, take a pregnancy test.
Good luck :D
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When my bloke touch me it is all good untill i get this tingle feeling come over me and then i have to stop. What is it? And what can i do to get over it?
it means you're about to orgasm. stop stopping! aha if you keep going an even greater feeling will happen. you can't really get over it unless you force yourself to keep going, but if you really don't want to keep going, don't.
good luck :D
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Well, I'm 5'6 1/2" and I weigh somewhere around 135-140. I was just wondering if that's average or overweight? A lot of people say,"Oh my gosh, you're a stick! You look like you weigh 110 pounds!" but I know that I'm not that skinny, I look like it, but I'm not. So, am I overweight for my height!? Thanks, I rate high!
no you're not over weight! that is a good weight for you height. and it's probably just muscle, because muscle weighs more than fat.
i hope this helps :D
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okay, so i really like thss guy like alot. and he likes me too. and we've made out a few times before. but his best friend is my somewhat of an ex.. and how am i going to be able to hang out with him if his best friend is always with him?! i mean i know he should understand but it's just going to be so akward.
but me and bob ( the guy i like ALOT) are really hitting it off. we were first best friends now, more. and he's the most amazing thing..
HELP?!
talk to him about it, tell him you're kind of uncomfortable with his friend being there. he should understand, and he will probably want you all to himself anyways. or you could talk to your somewhat of an ex and explain that if you and him have to hang out because of "bob" that it shouldn't be awkward and that you two should just put the past behind you.
good luck :D
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My brother reads my text messages
and it really pisses me off. I was going out with this guy Joe Hullenfield and he was like "Whose Joe H and why does he call you baby?"
Cuz i left my purse in the kitchen and he took me phone out.
i tell him to stop but he just keeps doing it
its so annoying and an invasion of provacy and im mad because i ddint want him to see any of my txts. and yes he read ALL OF THEM. not just that one.
tell him how you feel about it, and explain how he would feel if he was in your shoes. and if he doesn't stop, start locking your phone.
good luck :D
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14/F
has anyone ever liked 2 guys at the same time?
Its a killer.
Anyways ill get to the story
Lets call one guy Jon, jon is my best friend, and we do everything together....were best freunds! We went out once, and after that i liked him for a really long time, even after he dumped me...i still have feelings for him today.
Then theres Paul.
Paul is extremely sweet and we went out for about a week once before, we said i love you and suff, and i really meant it. I had to dump him becuase JOn wanted me to. He never told me why,, he just said that paul wasnt a good person....then wen jon asked me out a second time (after i dumped him) begging for a second chance, keep in mind i still liked him, i said ok. Jon got furious, and these kids are best frends, so i said "If pauls your best friend, how come you wont let himm date who he wants".....then jon admitted to liking me. I said if you like me so much why did you dump me the first time. He said it was because he never gets to see me, but now that were best friends we wont have that problem anymore. But hes in 8th grade, and im in 9th, and hes going to come to the same HS as me, so he wants to wait until then to go out. Mean time, i still like paul too! I have no idea what to do and im massively confused. Paul ... i think i lovr paul. Jon.....him too. I dont know what to do....please...please help me.
before dating either again, and making the situation even sticker, you need to think about who you truly want, now and later on down the road. don't have one of those stupid relationships that only last a month because you only like how "hot" he is. i'm not saying you're that type of person, i'm just saying avoid that. really think about your decision. i really hope this helps, i'm sorry but i can't just pick a name and tell you thats the best choice, only you know for sure.
good luck :D
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why is cracking your knuckles bad for you? what are the effects? I do it a lot so how can I stop?
over time it can cause your knuckles to get bigger and it weakens them around your ligaments. but thats MANY years down the line. i wouldn't worry too much about it unless its beginning to bother you.
good luck :D
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soo i have a short tongue. and i basically wanted to know if like making out with someone with a short tongue sucks or not? cause i heard that long tongues are better. are they? if so..any tricks? to make it better and all?
it should be fine (:
don't worry about it.
good luck.
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would you go out with someone who is going to graduate at the end of may. he's a year ahead of me and im scared that i'll get too attached. would you forget the risk and take the fall?
i seriously think you should take a chance.
be with him. and if you get attached, maybe he will too.
who knows what could happen,
which is kind of scary, but could be an amazing thing (:
good luck.
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Ok,I'm a 14/F and I've liked this boy for already about 8 months now.ever since Setepmber I've noticed that he kept looking at me from far away and staring at me during class.
Ever since January began this girl over heard one of my friends telling one of her friends.((she's my friend too but she did'ent know I liked the guy))
Well when she heard my friend,uh,lets call her Cathy.Well she went over to Cathy and told her that she was gonna do something nice for me.((Which I knew both cathy and the other girl,lets call her Lucy, were gonna try and hook me up with my crush))
Well, last thursday, Lucy asked my crush if he liked me and supposedly said no that he did'ent like me in that sort of way.Cathy did'ent tell me until friday in the morning because thursday I left early because I did'ent feel so good.
And yea, I cried,but I have this feeling that maybe he lied.I mean,some person that you only know his or her name and hardly ever talk to,they come up to you and ask you who do you like?Would you tell them up staright?I mean thats a mistake if you just tell some you hardly know and tell them you like this girl or this guy,you know what I mean?
So yea,I have a feeling he must've lied.Because also on friday during my 2nd period class,A girl,uh,Molly asked me if I liked my crush.I told her straight up no because I don't trust her and her some reason I hate her((I still don't know why))but also because of the same reason I just said.
Anyways,I'm thinking that maybe I should confess to my crush this week just to see if what he told Lucy was the truth cause now i'm really confused,he gave lots of signs saying that 'Yea,I like you too.'So,do you think what I'm doing is good?Or should I just leave things the way they are?Even if I do confess and get rejected I at least want to be his friend because i don't think it's right just to stop talking to him just cause he did'ent like me back.Also, he still keeps staring at me after all this of him supposdly saying no that he dos'ent like me.
Cathy says I should ignore him,but it's soo hard!
I can't ignore him cause he's a really nice guy and a funny friend.
So,should i,or not confess...?I'm really confused of all this((even if there are some people reading this it may not seem confusing))
((I'm sooooo sorry it's long!!!))
TELL HIM!
i'm pretty sure he lied.
if you get a feeling he likes you, he probably does.
i wouldn't just tell some random person who i like,
and i think thats why he didn't.
take a chance (:
good luck.
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ok my boyfriend has A BBUNCH of stuff on valentines day weekend for me and him to do that he's keeping a surprise but idk what i could do because i have no money and i cant drive or take him anywhere what can i do?? please help!! :(
write him a note and tell him all the things you love about him +include insiders and things that have happened in the relationship
i'm sure he will think its the cutest thing ever if you put your heart into it (:
good luck.
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16/f ..first boyfriend. 15/m.
i'm not very experienced with relationships.
we've been going out for a month, and this guy has already started touching me. and telling me that he loves me. and discussing future plans to have sex. and all that.
i'm a good student. well, i used to be 2 months ago. my grades have dropped. i've stopped caring about certain subjects. i can keep a steady, mediocre gpa..but...its just NOT enough for me, you know? i just turned 16. i want to know what to do with my life. all this new overwhelming attention from a boyfriend...is..well...overwhelming...
and im not in love with him. i dont even "love" him. i think i just like his attention. i'm very attracted to him. i know this is very bad. but maybe not as bad..since i get this feeling..that he's using me just to let go of some of him horniness [according to half of my friends...] i even catch myself flirting with other guys.
i dont want to do something foolish with a guy...and give myself away to a guy that doesn't even like me for me. that i dont even "love". even though...it's probably not "love". there is no love at this age, i guess...
and, even for this ONE month...SO much has changed. i've gone from socially-challenged quiet/shy girl...to this social butterfly...a newborn.
but i dont care for these social gatherings of friends and my boyfriend anymore. they make me sick now. i want my shy and quiet life back. i don't know what to do.
if i break up with him, i know i'll be really heartbroken. he probably wont care though [maybe he will]. but im just really clingy like that, ive noticed...towards anything.
so. i don't know..
thank you so much in advance.
you can combine who you once were and who you are.
you don't have to pick one or the other, and you don't have to hang onto a guy.
if you don't really care about him, i say breakup with him.
be single for awhile and have fun with your friends and flirt as much as you want.
get focused on your grades again,
don't change if you don't want to.
be whoever you want.
good luck (:
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