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My name is Amanda. I'm really open-minded and i have been helping my friends through just about everything you can imagine. I dont sugar coat things. I tell it how it is or how the best way to solve he problem at hand. People usualy seem to think i help them with their problems and i take a lot of pride in knowing i could have possibly made a difference. well. i think im done here. feel free to ask anything you can think of.
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i am 14 & male. my lyf is hell at da mo cos i am torn between 2 girls, one is really popular & is giving me loads of hints & i like her but these days some girls give hints to take the piss, & the other i hadn't seen 4 2yrs & i love HER tho but i dont think she has the same feelins 4 me. i went into town with her the other day & it was fantastic & she thought so too but she is movin house soon & if i dont do owt i'm afraid i will never see her again. wot shud i do?

okay lol im not sure what "ownt" means but i am going to try to help you anyway =].

so the popluar girl you like, if she is giving hints and flirting she probably has a thing for you, i would persue it and ask her to hang out or ask for her number. you can always get to know her more, who knows, she could be the love of you life or completely differnt then you thought she was.

okay about the girl you love. if she is moving and you might not see her for a while i would definitely keep contact, because as soon as you get your license you can go see her when you want and maybe something can happen then. she may have feelings for you, especially if you guys hung out and had a lot of fun. but the thing with girls is that sometimes they send the wrong signals, sometimes if we consider one of our guy friends like a brother or just a good friend we'll give them hugs at radnom times and act like we are flirtng but sometimes we aren't. the thing is is that girls sometimes tend to flirt in the same way. girls just suck like that. it can be hard to determine the difference.
so just keep in contact with her and what-not.
things will clear up.

and witht the other girl, like i said, just talk to her maybe hang out. dont do aything sexual with her because it seems liek you like the other girl way more. but if you do decide to change you mind about the girls dont forget either one of them. just uuse your head.

sorry if i didnt answer your question well enough because it wasnt that clear if you want you can keep asking me questions.
im here to try and help
xo

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what cheerleading skills do you have to know for most high school cheerleading squads?


thanks soo much.
i need to know quickly too!

=]

for my school you have to have good jumps, pointed toes, straight legs, height, etc

for dance we have to be smooth and on time

stunting, pretty much dont drop your flyer or fall

cheering, having tight sharp motions, stay on count

tumbling they tell us it isnt necassary but the people who can tumble usually always make it and on better squads or higher up like jv and varsity but you can very well make it without it.

and through all of this make sure you have good facials and smiling all the time, even when you think they arent looking because they are and also if they ask for volunteers, make sure you raise your hand first because it makes them see that youre willing to try anything.

hope i helped
xo

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I do not know what to do about mixed signals. all i want to know is how the guy feels because he likes this other girl but throughout this year it feels like we have something but its like you dont talk about it. But he still likes that girl. One week he flirts with me alot we make eyecontact and he just comes up to me,eats lunch with me, calls me,etc. But then the next week he will just drag me along.lets just say its very dramay! How do i know wat do because i feel like i just want to know without just staright up asking him. If he has no intentions of anything then i will try to move on but i just want to know!and do u think that what he is doing is deliberate because of the drama and the "history" or is it in my head?

i definitely think that youre not doing to get a straight answer unless you go up to him and ask himstraight up because something like this happened to me last year and now that i look back on it i really reget not just asking him straight up because now he STILL drags me along to make sure he still has something to fall back on.
so make sure you definitely just ask him out and see if he is sometihng worth waiting for.
youll probably regrtt it if you dont.
x3

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how can you get eyeliner (on the BOTTOM lid) to stay on all day? it basically dissapears halfway through the day,

my eyes do that too,
i stopped using eyeliner ad now i use black eye shadow in place of eye line, its just as dark only it doesnt come off.
just dont buy cheap kind.
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hi,
my girlfreind is cutting her wrists and im really worried about her and want her to stop how do i go about telling her and getting her to stop i dont want her to hurt herself.. please ..!!:(:( i love her heaps but i dont want her to be hurting herself...
im male and 14.
thankyou

hey
just make sure she knows she can call you at any time of the night (im assuming that when she does it) and that youre there for her and that you just want her to be happy and if there is something in her life that is causing her to do then make sure she knows that she always has you and that you will help her get through, she really needs someone she can count on.
who ever her best friend is, if she knows i would get together with her and your girlfriend and explain to her how much it hurts you guys and how much you care for her.
its kind of like peer pressure only in a good and benficial way.
hope i helped

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okay so we are doing this mount where you hook arms. like the two bases hook one arm together and pull the flyer up on their arms then go to an extension and then bounce down and go up to a liberty. okay well im the flyer. we had it. like we just started yesterday. well we have it but i just can't hold my liberty. like i get it up and it sticks but like i just give out and fall backwords. does anyone have any ideas how i can keep it? like hold it up. i've tried pulling up and leaning forward but nothing helps. any tips or websites will help. thanks

im a base and what usually helps with all my flyers are the basics.
try locking out your knees, squeezing your butt, and pulling up with your shoulders as much as possible

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13/f ok so this year i really want a boyfriend. i had one before but they weren't like real ones. i have a bunch of guy friends and all but how i do i get them to really notice me and possibly ask me out. thanks in advanced

aw thats so cute. but um
honestly. we have all been there. You dont want to date when youre that young because the guys are so immature. girls devlope 3 times faster then guys do and when girls are thinking of relationships they're thinking about video games or well..other thingys. little boys at your age dont really know what it means to have a girlfriend.
i say if yo want a boyfriend that bad, go for it but it will just waste your time.
xo

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theres this girl I like and shes one of my best friends.I want to ask her out but alot of other guys like her.Im not sure what I should do about it.

i say you should ask her if she wants to hang out afterschool or something. see where things go from there.

as for all the other guys. unless they are your friends you should do what you want and ask ehr to hang out. If they are your friends then they should understand you wanting to be with her and they should shut their mouths. if they say anything its only because they're jealous
xo

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is there such thing as half-sex?
like, with my ex-boyfriend,
he fingered me at the movies and was sucking my tits.
i KNOW that's not sex,
but is that considered as half-sex?
like, a halfway there sex?

one of my friends did that once. She got popcorn thrown at her and then
they both got AIDs and died.
lmao

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I feel so bad that someone i like is in love with someone else
wat should i do stay liking him or move on

okay, im kind of in the same siuation as you are.
infact same thing. but its been a while and it got a lot better because i realized that no matter what i do and no matter how happy we made eachother before that he is just going to forget about me. and it kills me to actually admit this but its true. and after i accepted my reality it got a lot easier because i want someone who wants me back. yea i want it to be him but he will never look at me in the same light as he does her. i don't know anything about your guy but i am assuming he knows you like him. dont let him use you or come back to you as a rebound girl. trust he will if you still like him, which you probably will because its hard to move on but its for the best. be strong and let him know where you stand. and if he does realize he made a mistake by passing you up make him wait until you're ready. that way you will really know.
so to answer your question.
Don't forget about this guy. but...
you should probably look for someone new. not as a relationship but just to be close to so it can develope from there.
i hope i helped.
if you need anything IM me or something

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I really want to wear thongs because I tried my friends on once and it felt SO comfortable. I don't want one just because my friends wear them, because thats just stupid. I really like the feeling of them, but I'm afraid if I wear them, it'll seem like I'm a slut. The farthest I've gone with a guy is just a PECK on the lips, one time and thats it. So I'm no where near a slut. My mom doesn't care if I wear thongs, she actually even bought one for me. I want to wear it, but I don't want to feel slutty or people to think a slut. But I love the way they feel, they are good for when I wear tighter clothing, and my mom approves of them and I have one in my drawer already, so should I wear it or not? I'm 13 and female if it helps.

definitely go for it.
is great to hide underwear lines which is then main reason to wear them.
thats all i ever wear and so do my friends.
they're comfy & convienient. lol.

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ok i am going to be a freshman and im not even going to try and hide it. i am very freaked out. my older sister says its no biggie but seriously i am a very sesitive person and i cant really handle getting teased or picked on without turning red or becoming insecure about whatever whoever happened to tease me about. and i am going to get lost (we dont get our scheds until the first day).
so does anyone have any advice about what to do on the first day or what NOT to do on the first day? advice with bullies, teachers, or red facedness will be greatly appreciated and rated.

i remember this very well because it was only like two years ago. =]
so on my first day i was so intimidated but then i figured okay there are about a bajillion other students. why would anyone single me out to tease,push. etc. i dont think you will have a problem with any one teasing you because unless you try to stand out and make a scene no one will bother you. another thing bullies like to target it on are kids they know are already scared such as a freshman would be. if i were you i would go in with my head held high (but dont act cocky like you know everything) and just be confident. have your group of friends close as you can with your schedules, you can keep eachother going.
its not as bad as most people think.
hope i could help
good luck
xo

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is it hard to give a blow job? and if youve never done it before and you give it to a guy.. if its not good enough will they not enjoy it?

blow jobs are gross. you will seriously not like it. it is the one thing most girls (girls with any sort of respect for themselves) do not like to do. plus since its ur first time and if you arent good the guy will tell all his friends and then you will feel horrible. you sound like you could be around the age of 13. no offense or anything but doing it with someone other then your boyfriend will only get you a terrible reputation. you seem young to be doing with at all, even with a boyfriend.
and just to make you think. you will be putting your mouth on the same hole of a guy that he pees through. and it might be hard to tell wheather he is ejaculating or urinating.
haha but hey, its your choice.

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I think my two best friends are bullying me! They act like my best friend when its just one of them indivally. but when they're both together with me they call me names and then say its a joke and take the piss otta me.
plz help
Madi
xxxxxxxxxxx

they probably do it behind your back too...:/

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Okey, I've tried working out, eating healthy and even counting every single calorie, and it STILL hasnt wokred! So please, don't give me the doctor-answer. Spare me the "healthy-talk".

If I skip dinner, and eat as much lunch as I do now, no more, no less..will I lose weight?

Just a simple yes or now, not "eating helthy, skip the sweets, try the gym" because I've foine that already. I've even tried making myself throw up, but my mother caught me.

So please answer truthfully, will it..or will it not? And please know what you are talking about.

its not very healthy but it will most likely work depending on what eat for lunch. But what would probably be easier on you would just to eat lunch and dinner but less of each and then the obvioius one, don't eat anything inbetween. hope i could help

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I am 14 and all my friends are the same age. (we are not punk rock or emo people, just so you know). A lot of my friends tell me sad things or problems in their lives. (boyfriend problems, cutter problems, ect.). Whenever I hear about this stuff I usually don't care much, it's sadly just not in my character. But when I get home I'll do all the normal stuff I normally do, but I'll end up crying for no reason. I'll feel horrible inside but I won't know why.

So what my question is: How can I make my enviorment less negative other than getting new friends? I can't tell them that they can't tell me their problems. If I did then they would be keeping their problems inside them, and that would be giving my depression problem to them.

Last summer i played softball with a girl like that. Heres the thing. Get new friends. Don't stop hanging out with your old ones and keep talking to them and continue to help them but get new/more friends who you can also hangout with, friends that arent as open. I know it sounds cold but it really helps.

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alright so me and some friends are going to the movies tonight. and the guy i really like is going. the problem is that when im around a guy i like im really shy and dont know what to say. he knows i like him cause my friend told him and he says he thinks im cute. so how do i make conversation with him to let him know that i am definantly interested in him.

ILL RATE 5'S!!!
BUT I NEED ADVICE BEFORE I LEAVE!!!!

aw man. I hate it when this happens. You should definitaly just ask him how his day was. Or ask him a question, even if you already know the answer to it. ex.) what are we seeing again?, whats thos about, whats the name of that actor/actress?,. Just random things should make it easier for a conversation, or tell him about what you did today. but remember to just be yourself. hope i helped

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ok im 15 and theres this guy that always flirts with me his friends say we should go out but when they say it hes like no hes really nice hes athletic hot but my ex said if i go out with him hes goin to beat his ass i know brody the guy that flirts with me could whoop him but i dont want him to get into a fight so what do i do do i go out with brody or not just so my ex dont get into a fight and get hurt pls help me
thanx õxõxõxõ

You need to ask your ex what the deal is because he has no right to stop you from doing what you want. If he still has feelings for you, that is his problem and trying to control your life is definitaly not going to get him in the direction he wants to go. I think you should be willing to talk to him about and see how he feels, if that doesnt help get an adult involved.

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So I'm 15. And I'm a female,
is there something wrong with me?
I'm attracted to older guys, I'm sure they dont like me. Or wont ever, but I find myself wanting older guys, like they seem more appealing to me, because like ALL the guys in my grade are so imature. I wish theyd grow up. I dont know though.
I just hope its nto wrong for me to like odler guys? Because I have no interest in any of the guys in my grade =/

That is perfectly normal. I cant stand any of the guys in my grade. They are immature and degrading. I've dated older guys too and they make me a lot happier. As long as they don't take advantage of you its okay. Sometimes you just need comfort and 15 yr old guys definitaly don't know how to do that.

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there's this boy that lives like two houses down from me and he's like sooooooooooo cute. he's 19 and i'm 15 and i really like him but i don't know if he likes me. he's always staring and smiling at me like he as something to say but never says it. should i go up to him and ask him does he like me or should i just wait and see what happens?

hah wow this problem seems to be really popular in the teen world. I did the same thing only a few years earlier. It was my summer going into 8th grade and he was going to be a junior. i talked to him a lot online and we texted and set up a date for me to have a sleepover with his little sister. It was wrong, i know but it was so much fun. we made out for like 1am - like 3. it was great. i sparked the first conversation because i thought he looked interested. i still talk to him and we might even get back together. So i would definitaly go for it. talk to him. even if he says hes "not interested" it probably wouldn't be too hard to change his mind, talk to him you have nothin to lose.

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