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the dreaded mixked singals
I do not know what to do about mixed signals. all i want to know is how the guy feels because he likes this other girl but throughout this year it feels like we have something but its like you dont talk about it. But he still likes that girl. One week he flirts with me alot we make eyecontact and he just comes up to me,eats lunch with me, calls me,etc. But then the next week he will just drag me along.lets just say its very dramay! How do i know wat do because i feel like i just want to know without just staright up asking him. If he has no intentions of anything then i will try to move on but i just want to know!and do u think that what he is doing is deliberate because of the drama and the "history" or is it in my head?
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You could be right that some of it, but not all of it is in your head. Guys are a lot simpler than we women are, and we are the ones that usually overthink things and attach meaning to things that have little meaning to the guys. So, my advice in general with men, even though yeah there could be exceptions, is to let his own words and actions speak for themselves without thinking about them too much. As I see it, he likes you both (multiple crushes are very common) and is having fun flirting. No one can drag you along unless you let them, so if you are not comfortable with the situation, you could consider him just a friend for now, or ask him directly if he is into this other girl. Be up front with your attraction to him and desire to be a couple if he tells you that it is just friendship. You could ask something like, "Well, do you consider us just friends, or are you like secretly hot for me?" Say it in a funny and not too serious way, in case it does not go well. Good luck, and never settle for being second place, because there is probably at least one guy around you that would love to have you as the Grand Prize.
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Ok I'll be honest. It is never easy to tell if a guy likes you. Guys are just geneticly less emotional. But thats beside the fact.
((Anyways)) You just have to trust your insticts. Let it all out.
Tell him things that you tell only your most trusted friends. you have to show him you trust him. Eventually he will trust you too.
But to make sure he likes you dont ask him face to face ((that always ends in an ocward scilence)). It is best to ask him through email or even AIM or MSN or YIM. All those are good choices. My fav. is the IMing because he can respond right then. The next day just go on like you usually do.
You have to ut your whole heart into it. Live your life the way you want. Only you can change whats going to happen. Take a chance and try your best. In the end if things dont work out then it was worth the wrld to knwo the truth.
Hope It Works Out!
~KaTiE~
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This is how you find out:
Ask him about the other girl he supposedly likes. Maybe he doesn't really like that girl, but only saying so to see if you like him. Maybe...
Tell him, "So I heard you like _____."
He'll answer, "Yeah."
And you'll say, without revealing a lot of emotion, "I don't think you'd look good with her..."
If he asks, "Why??" in a kind of mad, insulted way, it means he really likes this girl and you're just a really good friend of his. Don't worry. This world has more than a million more single boys.
If he asks, "Why??" in this sneaky way... In a way that sounds like he really wants to say, "Why, you jealous??" Then it might be because he likes you. Take a chance!!
Hope it works out!
-Jenny C
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haha,yeah, i hate mixed signals.The best and proper way is to ask straight out,but of course it's embarassing and would make you seem desperate,but that the one and only way to confirm.....unless he winks at you or kisses you out of the blue,then that is another matter.
But right now, you should just say" hi,.....I'm kinda recieving some confusing signs from you, you can make me feel like a princes one day and a nobody the next....so which is it?"
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i definitely think that youre not doing to get a straight answer unless you go up to him and ask himstraight up because something like this happened to me last year and now that i look back on it i really reget not just asking him straight up because now he STILL drags me along to make sure he still has something to fall back on.
so make sure you definitely just ask him out and see if he is sometihng worth waiting for.
youll probably regrtt it if you dont.
x3
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