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being depressed by others
I am 14 and all my friends are the same age. (we are not punk rock or emo people, just so you know). A lot of my friends tell me sad things or problems in their lives. (boyfriend problems, cutter problems, ect.). Whenever I hear about this stuff I usually don't care much, it's sadly just not in my character. But when I get home I'll do all the normal stuff I normally do, but I'll end up crying for no reason. I'll feel horrible inside but I won't know why.
So what my question is: How can I make my enviorment less negative other than getting new friends? I can't tell them that they can't tell me their problems. If I did then they would be keeping their problems inside them, and that would be giving my depression problem to them.
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My best friend Angela went through the same things see I did not notice that what I was telling her was to much for her to handle its kind of a smaller version of depression you need to talk to your friends about how you are feeling to. Don’t bottle things up k get back to me? P.s you are the same age as me you don’t need to be worrying about all that stuff be a kid
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Last summer i played softball with a girl like that. Heres the thing. Get new friends. Don't stop hanging out with your old ones and keep talking to them and continue to help them but get new/more friends who you can also hangout with, friends that arent as open. I know it sounds cold but it really helps.
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Ah yep, know that one. Best thing to do is be there for them, cry or whatever you have to but make sure you get enough time for yourself (i'd underline that if i could). Set aside some time at the weekends or something just to do things that make you feel happy without having to cater to anyone else's needs. It's easy to get bogged down in other people's problems.
Also it's really not uncommon to cry a bit for no reason at your age or around your time of the month. I was and sometimes still am reduced to a spluttering, sobbing mess for next to no reason when feeling hormonal-welcome to being a girl! Just look after yourself a bit and hopefully the pressure of being everyone's confidante shoul ease off a bit. x
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Sweetie...there are plenty of things to do. Listen to their problems...if you don't care about their problems then you dont care about them. Problems come with everyone no matter their shape size whatever...issues occur. Let them know that each problem has a different solution, let them know that if they ever need you to come to you...but don't just not care.
Now...to answer the question, let them know that their problems are a little over bearing on the ones you have going on. Simply explain that you need a break...kind of like a rest time to gather yourself back up. Let them know what's been going on, I mean the crying and feeling bad thing afterwards. Just be open and honest, like their being...but choose your battles wisely. You can tell when some one is telling you a huge story, and when they really have a problem.
XO
Woven~
I hope I helped.
Let me know how it turns out
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O im sorry!! Thats really hard! I used to have to go through stuff like that....I always felt like everyone hated me. But then this guy asked me out and I have more confidence. I got the confidence from him, becuase he isn't negative about anything. So what I suggest is to just find some more friends *I'm not saying ditch your other friends...i'm just saying find more* and soon you will find a really positive person that is just way fun to be around! That gets rid of a lot of the negative energy. But you could also try these things to help you cope:
~eat food...*ice cream really helps!!*
~listen to music *not sad songs*
~write in a journal
I hope one of these Ideas can help you! Good luck with your friends!
**BeLLe**
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Sadly, there really is nothing you can do.
At your age, everyone is changing, & there is no way avoiding it.
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