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Hey my name is Katie n im seventeen n im currently living in texas. Im a jr in highschool n my life is basically full of drama. Rite now my parents r in the process of a divorce n all my friends r deff not getting along. Though, advice is my thing bc i wanna be a pychologist when i get older
Website: Katie's Column
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Location: New Jersey but rite now I live in Texas
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Age: 17
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im just wondering what the most common turn ons for guys are. (link)
Well without really touching him down there kissing their necks or nibbling on their earlobes drives them wild. Also appearing inncoent but being a bad girl when the time is right is also extremely appealing


I truly want to learn Latin and i heard it was a lot of fun though i have been taking Spanish for a year and i know how useful it wuold be...i could take both languages but i am afraid it might be too much...WHAT SHOULD I DO? (link)
latin maybe a cool language but its extremely hard, i am currently in my 4th yr of spanish and i love it. Seriously more spanish signs and stores are comming out each yr and the immigration rate is really high. Spanish looks amazing on a resume and for college. Spanish is the best choice, taking both will confuse you


i was just wondering if this happened to anyone. my bely ring got infected prob cus i touched it and changed alot but i switched mi cleaning stuff to bactine i was using sea salt before n the infection went away but i liek burned it and it just never healed after that and so i went to a piercer n they told me to take it out and get repierced but the hole is taking forever to close. n i went to a different piercer n they said i woudl have to forget about it for awhile till it heals. im just wondering if anyone has had this happen or knows anything abuot hwo logn it take or if thre is anything i canput on it (link)
this exact thing happend to my friend but as annoying as it is theres nothing you can do except wait. Belly button piercings take the longest to heal and it will be about 1 to 2 yrs before it heals completely and you can get it redone. And, unfortunately, there will be a scar


so as most of you know i WAS in a relationship with a abusive guy and i told him that i want to break up with him..and he brok two of my ribs...and gave me a cuncution...:-(

but on the flip side hes goin to juvey!! and i realized (thanks to ALL of u!!!!!) that he was an a** hole. plain and simple..and all i get are threatining letters/phone calls..but what i am afraid of is his friends. his friends stick by him 100%..and my house got TP (toilet paperd) and lilke a dead rat was on my door step (says my mom) and like i got threating letters in my locker saying "bitch if u tell ill kill you" or "we know you told hoe, were ganna do what jake did" (jake rapped me.)

so PLZ help!!!!
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save the letters and go to the police, the police can help and give you a restraining order or something. Dont worry about it just tell someone but im proud of you for breaking up with that guy, it takes guts


i'm looking for a bathing suit..but i want one that is cute but not sluty..but sexy still...
please help... (link)
go to aeropostale, i get all mine their bc they are really cute n have matching cover ups n shoes all for a really cheap price instead of payin like 100 dollars for one bathing suit


this guy i "like" keeps getting me mad, one day he likes me and one day he don't. WHY. he's leaving to vegas for a week and just before he left he says he doesnt like me but two days before he said on the phone he does and the likes this otehr gurl and he doesnt know waht to do, do you think he's doing that cuz he's leaving and yeah... but thats so stupid he does it when he's here too, i dont get it HELP (link)
Guys like that are not worth your time at all. Guys do not contstantly change their minds if they really like you so because he is unsure that is not a good sign. Move on, you will deff find someone better


I'm dating a guy and I'm not shy at telling him when I want him, want to see him, or wanna talk to him, but I can't help but wonder if maybe he'd want me more if I backed off a little and played a lil hard to get. Tips? (link)
playing hard to get is extremely risky but guys tend to like it because they like challenges. But dont go too over the top because they will get mad. But since your already together I dont recommend doing it because he wants you for you so you shouldnt change. Just dont be all over him 24/7, and everything will be just fine


i am 14/f and am getting a belly ring for my bday on thurday.
is there anything i should know about taking care of it?
do and don'ts?
thanx! (link)
i got my belly button pierced about a yr n a half ago, different places will tell you different things but i used normal dial soap and i cleaned it on average 4 to 5 times a day. One time it got infected and when that happens use sea salt each time uou clean it and it goes away pretty fast. Never put alcohol or anything like that on it, it burns a hole in your belly button - It happened to my friend no joke. It takes an extremely long time to heal about 6 months to 2 yrs so dont worry about the time frame, but never leave it out for a long time before youve had it done for a yr because it closes up really fast. And when you get it done dont be nervous at all it looks so scary because they clamp your stomach and lower you down but it actually hurts less than getting your ears done. When you first get it it seems like a pain but youll love it in the end


GOOD LUCK


Its the holidays and ive been getting a bit bored, whenever i get bored i go on the computer. Its just, i dont want to have spent the whole holiday on the cumputer. Does anyone know any other good boredom busters? (link)
bored games are really good esp for the holidays. Its a great way to keep yourself occupied and spend time with relatives having fun


All my life I've had intense, frequent need to urinate, but when I do, there isn't much. Because it's been happening for so long, I don't think it's an STD or an infection... what could it be? I'm 18/F if that helps at all.

Thanks :) (link)
you can have an overactive bladder since it has been all your life, and then you will just have to take a pill. Go see a doctor to find out the real problem.


ok so this is like my 5th period and i've never had cramps really bad. today im having really bad cramps. whats the best thing to do, to stop the pain? its unbarable!

--->luvsu (link)
you can take mydol or motrin or any pain relievers and that helps a lot. Its also good if you eat a bannana because it contains irons and helps stop the pain. Also if you are at home or taking it easy lie down and elevate your feet that way the blood from your legs can go to your uterus and make the process less painful - it works within ten minutes


right down to it - do midnight snacks, or eating after 8 o'clock make you fat? If not, then why is it bad? what's the big fuss about? (link)
they say its bad bc you wont burn it up bc your laying down or sleepin, but i do it all the time n it doesnt get you fat


okay im 13 and a female and i have already had 2 bfs, but do u think this is to sudden i have been going out with my new bf for at least 3 weeks and it was like 3 days after my ex broke up with me on our 1 month annerversry b/c we we never saw eachother a lot and anyway i do love them both but my ex and i r like best friends havnt seen him scence we broke up but w/e and now my current bf his b-day is coming up on fiday and i dont know what to give him i need advice on what to give him and if u think it was to sudden to go out with someone after a month???
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after a month is not sudden at all. Actually after a decent amount of time i find it alot easier to move on if i date someone else - it really works, and for the gift my friends usually take their boyfriends out for a nite or get them something personal n sweet like a pic of both of u, y can even go the easy route n get him cologne


hey...well ive always been...skinney i guess you could say. but now im growing up and getting more and more scared everyday i will wake up chubby. i tryed thrwoing junk away... but all the other girls at my school eat snack paks and other crap. and all they sell at school for lunch is junk. i feel weird cause in the morning i pack healthy..then regret it cause all the other kids have fatty foods.
how can i stop w\ the junk
and make for a brigter future?
-Scared (link)
try to have a balance, like for me i usually have salad for lunch but then for desert i eat a reeses or some other candy bar. This way you wont have to worry about eating all junk but you get to enjoy a little. Also dont worry about your weight the older i get the more i realize that i shouldnt care about my weight bc im fine the way i am n it hasnt changed, you wont get fat over night


ok so i am 13/f and i know girls can be nasty..
i am on a sports team for school and the first day was today.. its a 7th and 8th grade team and there are 3 other 7th graders that are on it that i am close friends with.. butttt there are about 15 8th graders. half of them are wicked nice and i've known them for a whille. but the other half seem to have a problem with me and my friends. truthfully we never did anything to them! i dont even know most of them and have never talked to them! last year they were jealos of our boyfriends, but im single right now anyways. they talk crap about us during practice and they get my bestfriends ex to call us names. i wanna make it through the seasons w/o any cat fights.

thanks ill rate high*xo (link)
Dont worry about it they just have to get used to you like in highschool everyone always hates the freshman but once you get to know them they arent that bad. Give them a little time to get used to you because since your younger they feel threatened.


i sorta have a complicated situation here. well, not really, but it involves boys, what else.

13.f
i have this really good friend named sarah who's dating michael. michael & katy are really close. well, they're going out, aren't they? its just that, michael's in my art class, and hes really nice and reminds me of this boy i totally fell for who moved away. today in art class this one girl said, "you two should get busy," but she didn't mean it like, you know, she meant it like we should start our project. and he just smiled at me. whats going on? (link)
You really cant tell much from a smile so I wouldnt think too much of it, but you shouldnt go for him anyway because he has a girlfriend and you dont want to be caught up in all that ugly drama. There are plenty of nice guys that are single.


I'm 13/f. Whenever I sometimes pick on my sister or don't let her touch my stuff, my mom keeps calling me b*tch. Even when I do stuff that's not even that harsh, she still says I'm "b*tching" around. But I'm not a biatch! And I get hurt when my mom calls me so but I don't think she feels I am. What should I do? (link)
Lets put it this way my mom is known for her foul language so when she says those words she doesnt really mean it. I got really upset over the same thing so I told my mom n she felt really bad and didnt do it again. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel, it cant do any harm


okay...i started talking to this one guy. he's really cute and nice. i have always thought that he was hott. so i started talking to him and i told my friend that i was starting to like him. so now she started talking to him and she likes him too. she's prettier than me and always gets the guy she wants. she did this last time i liked a guy too. she started talking to him and then he kind of started ignoring me and only paying attention to her. then in school today she told the guy's friend that i liked him. which i dont think is right cause the the friend will tell him and i dont want him to think that im weird cause i just started talking to him like 4 days ago. plus i dont know if the guy still likes his ex girlfriend cause she is always around him. well my friend flirts with him online even though she knows i like him. she goes from guy to guy to guy. and one time even a girl. what should i do about her? i already told her that i really like this kid and that i am mad that she is trying to take him. plus she is probably gonna go out with another kid soon? what should i do about her? and what do i say when the guy i like askes me about what his friend will tell him?



PLEASE I NEED HELP.ILL RATE 5'S
K THANKS IN ADVANCE
LOVE YOU. (link)
What she is doing actually shows that she is really insecure, but be confident and dont shy or be intimidated of her. The guy chooses who he wants to go out with too, and if he picks her over you he isnt worth it. Dont say anything bad about her either because it just makes you look as low as her. And if the friend tells this guy it is actually better, I know i am really shy so what a better way to get the news out if u like him. I know its kind of soon but this way your feelings are out in the open and usually guys wont feel weird around you if they know

Good Luck with everything


ok so i REALLY love my boyfriend..but lately since i told him that his best friend rapped me..he started getting...controlling and like now whenever i say somthing hell scream and say BITCH SHUT UP...then hell say "oh im sorry baby" and everything is fine but he hit me a couple of times..i told my best friend and she told me to break up with him..but i LOVEE him! and..if i i do decide to break up with him..im scared hell like..kill me or somthingg!

plz help me.i dont know where else im going to get help!

~lila (link)
I know you love him but u deff need to sit down and talk with him first. Tell him that this is unhealthy and it needs to stop bc things cannot continue like this. If it does not get any better I suggest that you go find help or tell someone so that you can be safe and so he can get the help it needs. Also this problem doesnt get better, it only gets worse so it can be left unsettled for a long time.


Well theres this guy....

I'm sure most of you are tired of seeing that, my apologies.

Anyway, I've known him for almost two years now and hes one of those guys who teases me all the time, in a friendly way and I'm starting to fall for him.

It's just that when I'm not around him I want him more but when I'm actually near him I dont want anything to do with him.

Does anyone have an explanation as to why I feel this way? I don't even know if I like him or not.

Thank you very much. =) (link)
sometimes when you know someone a long time you develop feelings for them... wut they say is to wait a month before you do anything about it if they r your friends. i went through a similar situation with my best friend but i didnt like him as a boyfriend i was just really lonely so the waiting really paid off




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