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Boyfriend going into the navy
I'm 17/f and my boyfriend is 19. we've been dating for about a year now, and we're pretty serious about each other.
he swore into the navy a couple weeks ago. he'll be in it for about 5-6 years.
as it stands, we've said we are going to stay together while hes gone for now. unless something comes up etc.
its a lot of time though.
should we stay together?
dont say i should experience dating others--im not going for that reason.
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If you truly believe in your feelings for him, and his feelings for you and you think you can make it through that long, i say go for it. if later on down the road something comes up, like you find someone else, and you feel that is the right decision, then go for that too. do whatever you feel is right. don't force yourself to call off being with him because you think "oh thats just too long" because you might regret it later. but don't stay with him if you feel obligated. do what is right for you, and i'm sure he'll do what's right for him as well.
good luck :D
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Well, you're right. 5-6 years really is a lot of time. I think it really depends on how attached you are to him and if you think you're stable enough to wait it out. It's going to be extremely difficult to have a successful long-term relationship with somebody who is going to be so far away for so long. If you think you can handle it and you honestly believe that it'll ultimately be worth the wait, I say go for it. If you're really serious about each other and think you can make your relationship work in your situation, then my suggestion to you would be to stay with him for now. If you find it getting difficult down the road or feel like waiting that long won't be worth it, then maybe you two should go your seperate ways. It really all depends on how badly you want your relationship to work out. Another suggestion: if you find being in this situation too difficult and find that it's causing you mental distress or whatever but you do want to be with him, maybe you two should agree that you'll keep in touch over the 5-6 year period but try picking up your relationship again when he returns. Hope it all works out for you. Good luck! :) xxo Hannah
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If you really feel strongly for him and believe it will work, then stay with him. If you're just doing it because you're afraid to be without him then you really shouldn't, but its your choice. It all comes down to the feelings you have for him.
Example, my cousin's boyfriend (now husband) went to Iraq over a year ago. They only get to see each other once a year, but my cousin still feels very strongly for him and doesn't even think of leaving him.
Hope that helps.
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