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kinda long, sorry
trying to make this part of the story shorter
there was a boy (y) i met 2-3 years ago
we went out the first time for about a month and i broke up with him for some ridiculous reason
then we ended up going out again like 2 months later for around 9 months, we ended up breaking up because he was wayyy to clingy and i couldnt take the jealousy anymore
3 months after we broke up we started going out again on new years
we made it until last week, when i found out he was at a party, drinking and smoking and possibly kissed a girl behind my back.
i obviously broke up with him for that
a few days ago, we just got back together. i think he apoligized and really meant it and a lot of other stuff
we are eachothers first pretty much everything, real relationship and all that other stuff
he says he loves me and i really do believe it
im 14/f, hes 16/m
alright now insert another guy (r)
i met him sometime around when i was going out with y for the second time
as i started talking to him i thought i liked him but i think it just faded or something.
months later, new school year started. (for me and r, first yr of high school). were in the same homeroom
while im still going out with y i knew r liked me
but nevertheless we were just like best friends he never tried anything on me or anything.
he made me the most amazing birthday gift ever (hes really creative, he made me this whole book of drawings and things he wrote)
when me and y broke up, he hung out with me and took me to the mall and all this other stuff
why it never worked out with us during that time period is still something i dont understand
alright now to the present
i just got back together with y and think i might like r
i got back together with him because i really thought i loved and cared about him, but if im having so many thoughts with r then maybe i dont?
i mean theres a lot of pros and cons about the both of them
but i have no idea what to do
help please?
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Wow. That’s a lot of seriousness haha, your relationship with Y has been pretty hectic, I’m sure there has been a lot of amazing points though too. However, maybe you need something new. I think you should try to be more than just friends with R. Maybe things will work out and he will turn out to be the perfect guy you’ve been wanting, and if they don’t and you keep having thoughts of Y, then maybe you’re really meant to be with him. I just say go for it with R, see how things work out, and go from that. Because if you don’t try anything, you might seriously regret it later, you never know til you try right?
Good luck :D
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Well, the way I see it you have given y a lot of chances and it still isn't working out for you two. No offence, but maybe you and y aren't meant to be together or maybe it's just the wrong time for you and him to be in a relationship. I know you are only 14, but can you see yourself ever getting married to him? One main reson for being in a relationship is so that you can get to know what kind of a guy you want to marry. And if you really do like r, then you might as well give him a chance and see how it works out. The worst that could happen is that you realize that you don't like r that way and if that happens you could just break up with him. If you really like r then just give him a chance.
Hope I helped.
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