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hey guys..my column has been the same for soooooo long now...so im gunna change it up a bit! any ideas please let me know! anyway..heres the ordinary junk...im kayla, im 14, i like in md close to dc, i go to rhs - home of the rams! yay haha, and i dn i just love helping people!

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okay.. i have gone to everyone i could.. and nobody helped me.. so im coming here...

okay... well.. i met this guy.. and hes really nice.. and hes 17 and im 16.. okay.. well.. me and hm started hanging out... and the other nite.. we were gunna go to a party together.. and.. well.. lets just sae.. we didnt make it to the party.. we hung out in his car for about 4 hours.. well.. im so confused... i dont know what to do at all... like.. i know i care for him but i dont want to go any farther with him because he probably doesnt care about me like i do about him.. and im so confused!! please help!

it sounds like youre not really comfortable with the relationship you guys have...so i wouldnt suggest that you keep it going. maybe you should just try to not let yourself get too attatched...i wouldnt tell him how youre feeling about this bc if he is really just in it for ass, then he'll sweet talk you and make you think he really cares, even if he doesnt. just keep your gaurd up..dont give him an easy hit and see if he sticks around. thats the only way you'll really know if he cares! good luck! xo

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Hey. I'm in the 7th grade, and for my grade in math for the 3rd quarter, I know I got a 87.45% B+. Can that be rounded to an A?

depends on the teacher. if they like you, and you ask them too then they prob. will. but its really up to them..theyre not supposed to do tht though. but congrats...thats a really good grade!! xoxo

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i have a boyfriend who i love so much!! but then i met another guy and i think i'm starting to like him..i think my boyfriend is getting tired of me now and he doesn't call me anymore but the new guy does..what do i do???

if you like the other guy...go for him! but break up w. ur bf first! dont worry about the side stuff...youre only young once, just have fun!!! gl xoxox!!!!!!!!!

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hey im 13/f and i have been shaving since i was 11 but my mom doesnt know cuz i never asked her im way to scared to talk to her about anything
what do i do?
real question:how do i ask my mom that i want to shave?
boy im inbaressed

just be like "hey mom..im 13 now and i think im old enough to shave. if youre worried about me cutting myself, then ill use an electric but i want to start wearing shirts and stuff and its embarrassing." something like that!! gl

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What is a friend with benefits?

someone you hook up with and youre friends but you dont go out!

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What is a fast way to get tan...like my mom said i she would get me a membership at a tanning bed but im scared ill get skin cancer...

a fast way is that spray on stuff...but it sometimes comes out orange so i wouldnt reccomend it. the only way to get a nice tan quickly is in the real sun or a tanning bed. a tanning bed is safer because the light filters block out the bad rays from the bulb...but itll look the best if you lay outside!

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is there any advice on how to gain weight in your legs? I Only need it in my legs no where else. Thanx*-->ME!!

i think it would be better if you gained muscle in your legs, so they get bigger but not fatty! just run alot and do leg excercises! i dont think its possible to only gain weight in one area on purpose lol xoxo

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how do you delete aim screen names? i want to delete my old sn and get a new! how would i go about doing this?! i rate! :)

you dont delete them, you just make a new one. theres no way to actually delete it, so just dont use it anymore! xoxo

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And its causing my legs to hurt in pain. Ive been exerising for two days at the same place. I cant walk properly without having some kind of balance, and I've crawled most of the time even up the stairs. My mom thinks I'm faking it just because I dont want to go exerising again. I dont, because the pain will only get worse. Is doing the same exerise helping me or hurting me?
I'm 15, and female.

eventually it will get easier, and it hurts because its working! you're probably just out of shape, so the more you do the exercise the easier it will get! if its really that bad try doing it less often. tell your mom that you will still do it, but ask her if it can be less often so start. hope you feel better! xoxo happy holidays

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okay my friend got this CD of love songs from a friend of ours who is a boy! does this mean something?! i rate!

it might be a hint and hes prolly at least somewhat attracted to her! talk to him and try to find out more! xoxo happy holidays!

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my friend hates my crush and my crush and i are friends! but my friend thinks that my crush is runty and that i deserve better! what can i do to change my friend's mind? i rate!

well maybe you should tell her to back off because even though you are good friends with her, its really none of her buisness because YOU would be the one having a relationship with him, not her. if they want to hate each other, just let them and dont get in the middle of it but just try telling her to back off some because she shouldnt be so mean to someone you care about! xoxo happy holidays!

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i recently got an ipod mini... ive looked over the directions a ton of times after sum1 told me i cud get songs from CD's i have onto my ipod.. can any one explain to me how to do it? love, aLi

MerRy ChrIsTmaS

you just get iTunes software, and then you put your CD into the CD drive and it brings up a playlist of the songs and you highlight them and then click them all when theyre highlighted and drag them to "librery" and then they start to copy, and when theyr done you take the cd out. then hook up your iPod and it automatically copies! merry xmas!

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Ok well I heard that a girl can "pop her cherry" by horseback riding...Im a horseback rider N like...I think its true bc awhile ago I had a spot of blood but it wasnt bc of my period or anything...So I was just wonderin if anyone knew if it is true or not...

I also heard that ya can get orgasms from riding N thats deffiniately true...so...lol

yea you can pop ur cherry from pretty much anything physical!!

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Ok, i met a boy online....THROUGH A FRIEND, lol dont worry! Yes, my friend knows him and i've been talking to him for a few days now, and i wanna meet him, but i'm not exactly the thinnest girl in the world (not fat really just not thin like a lot of boys like) and i am really scared to meet him, because i don't have confidence. what should i do? also, if i wanna call him, what are some good conversation starters? thanks!

who cares! "too skinny" isnt in now! lol. alot of guys like "meat on the bones" haha and they find stick thin unnatractive -- thats SOME guys. and im sure ur b-e-a-utiful!!! lol! and you should have more confidence because if you feel good about yourslef others can sense that and they'll like you for it! just have confidence and have fun! dont think about what you look like bc if he doesnt like you for ur looks hes not worth it! if you call him good convo starters are anything about cars, sports, what you guys like to do for fun, what hes doing this weekend, blah blah blah! ask him what interests him and stuff! make it about him bc people love 2 talk about themselves and it'll show a genuine interest in him! have fun and BE CONFIDENT bc im sure ur great! x0x0x!!!!

after feedback: yay im glad it made you feel better!! especially because its true! gl!

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okey doke...heres the situation...i have 2 groups of friends that are totally different. One group is the people that arent the most popular, but they arent nerds...then i am freinds with who some people would call the "preppy" people. well i like the both a lot and they dotn like eachother, so im stuck in the middle and for parties i can invite both groups bcuz then there are fights and if i spend more time w/ one group then the other group gets mad...sooo what shoudl i do?

just stay friends with both of them but maybe with parites and stuff you can invite both but explain to them BOTH that they need to get along or it isnt gunna work.maybe try to get them around each other more so they can get to know each other better and become better friends! gl

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ok my hair has bin really really fruzzy latly and i dont no how too make it stop i go new shampoo that is supposot too help but it doesnt HELP?!?!

when you blow dry it, point the blow dryer down because that eases fly aways..and flat iron it because that makes it straighter longer!

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my boyfriend is awesome on the phone and stuff but then in person hes like distand he doesnt hold my hand, put his arm around me or anything like that...he hugs me when he says good bye and soemtimes kisses me ..i know hes not prude or anything like that because ive seen him with his ex girlfriends and i know hes not a virgin but i hate it like i hangout with my friends that are dating and theyre all over eachother and im lonely which is pretty sad when i have a bf what should i do

maybe you should try 2 make some more first moves! and if hes still distant then id say maybe spend some time apart..and that could go one of 2 ways. either you guys will realize how much you miss each other and want to be more "intimate" i guess you could say [im not suggesting sex lol] or you'll realize that you're not right for each other and you can find other people! hope this helps! x0x0x

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My friend (alex) likes this guy matt. Well there on the same sports team, and they are somewhat friends, but alex likes matt. She wants to take it to the next level (going out) but is kinda of nervous about getting his number. I dont know what to tell her so i figured id ask a complete stranger. Please help my friend, she really desirves a nice guy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

just on the next "group outing" tell her to invite him and stuff...and when she invites him tell her 2 say something like "ok well can i get ur number or something so we can work out the details later and stuff" or something casual! if she doesnt make it uncomfortable, it wont be! gl w. everything!

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Okay. This is what I go through, about once a month, sometimes more/less frequently. I start changing. I really don't know what it is, it's hard to explain. But I'll try.

It feels like my heart is becoming empty. Like I'm becoming hungry, or like I'm enraged, or like I'm in love (they all feel the same to me.) You know, that feeling. In my heart. It feels like something is trying to change me from the inside, like trying to change my personality. My personality is weird. I think differently. I have no mental problems. O__o;;

I'm thinking that maybe my way if thinking is correct and maybe....God....doesn't want me to know whatever it is I know. Anyway. Back to what happens. The first time it happened, at my friends house, I started getting the feeling and for some reason I knew what was happening almost immediately. I started crying and pounding my chest really hard and saying "Don't change....don't change...." And I was grabbing anything to pound my heart with, I almost went for the silverware ;_;

My friend was really concerned xD I don't think she had any clue what was happening.

The second time, just recently, this happened again, only it wasn't as strong. I have gotten rather good at fighting it. But then it felt like there was a pressure in my head...like something was gently squeezing it.

This isn't puberty. This is something weird happening to me and if it has happened to anyone else I would like to know. I would also like to add that I am not insane. This is a FEELING, not a twisted thought or action. My apologies for the length of this question.

i dont really understand what you mean...but i can try to help. maybe its just a massive mood swing? you might wanna see a shrink though before it goes too far, because thats deffinitly not normal. tell the shrink what you told us and see if she can help you! sorry if my answer sucked lol but i did the best i could from what i understood! x0x0x

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Alright, I'm a 13 year old female, in the 8th grade. There's this guy I really like... he's smart, gets way good grades (like the only guy I've liked who gets better grades, haha) athletic, nice, popular. I could go on, but let me get to the point. I've liked him for about 2 months now, and I keep thinking he likes me. I've heard 2 people say he does. So a few days ago, lots of my friends found out, since we were playing truth or dare, and everyone was like "Aww, how sweet you like so-and-so." And most of them seemed to think that he likes me too, but I'm not really sure anymore. Today at school one of my friends who found out totally wanted to tell him I liked him, and then I saw her go over and talk to him... She said that she had asked if he liked me, and he said yes. I was like, in a sarcastic way, right? But she said no that he was serious. I find that hard to believe though. So then she said he should ask me out and he's like, why, so I can face rejection again? And my friend was all, well maybe. Ugh I was sorta mad cuz she pretty much made it obvious I like him. I'm just wondering what I should do.. should I tell him I like him or what?!! I'm just worried that if I do he won't like me back and then things will be weird between us. And if he does like me, and we decide to go out.. well that worries me a little bit too because I heard that he's sort of perverted, he just doesn't show it as much as other guys. And the only thing I've ever done is hug guys. I'm willing to go as far as kissing/making out but I think my parents would freak if they found out. Arrgh.. please help! Sorry it's so long.

just tell him you like him and see what he says! if he doesnt like you back just be like "o ok well thts cool we can just be friends" if you dont make it awkward and uncomfortable, he wont either because he wont be getting those vibes. and if he does like you and you end up going out, just do hwat you feel comfortable doing and if it goes beyond that tlel him you just wanna take things slow and he should respect that! x0x0x

After feedback: thanks! yes yes yes deffinitly let me know how it all works out! gl!

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