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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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Hello. Um, I have a problem with this guy who lives in my neighborhood. Everyday he harasses me sexually. I've tried telling the police, but they said without hard evidence they couldn't do anything. I'm sort of a feminist, so something like this shouldn't be a problem for me. But, I'm too afraid to tell my friends or family. I'm 16 and he's like, 25. So, I know it's illegal.
What should I do?

Oh my god! You have to tell your parents! If you don't this guy will be thinking he is getting away with the little shit he is doing and try to do something bigger. This is a serious situation. Tell your parents he is sexually harrassing you and have them talk to the police. Has this guy ever bothered you when you were with someone else? If so, have that person vouch for you and say they've witnessed him harrassing you. Get a restraining order put on him, there has to be something that can be done. If something isn't done now the cops will regret it if god forbid something bad does happwn to you, so they have to do something to prevent it. You can't go living in fear.

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my exbf just broke up with me and now im looking for people. well i didnt know this till yesterday but i met his cousin and his cousin was flirting with me and i was flirting back. his cousin even knew i was his exgf but he still flirted but i didnt know so i didnt think i was doing something wrong. now i feel like im doing something wrong! can i go out with my ex's cousin?!?! im so confused and his cousin seems intrested in me and he knows a couple things i never told any1 bfore. is it right to go out with him? i really like him and i know he likes me so please tell me or should we just stay friends? i think my exbf would get mad but he broke up with me. kk

thnx


signed,

CONFUSED

Look who you wanna be with is up to you. If your ex left you or even if he didn't, you are no longer together so what you decide to do with your love life is none of his business. If you like his cousin and want to be with him then go ahead. Just make sure you and your new guy talk and are aware that there might be some drama at the beginning of the relationship due to the fact that he is your exs cousin. If you are willing to handle it and so is he then go ahead and be with him. Its your life. As long as you are happy is all that matters.

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what is gyno? im so confused

Gyno is short for gynocologist. A gyno is a doctor who specializes in womens health issues, such as yeast infections, pregnancy, cervical cancer. Basically a coochie doctor.

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what is orgy?

This bangin desert that they serve at american bandstand!

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I really like this boy named demetri. He looks so good.......mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!~~~well i guess i dont really like him, but i wanna get to know him so bad and he dosn't wanna get to know me at all. He ignores me and he avoids me. Hes friends with these girls that are such b*tches!!She tried to pick a fight with me in the lunchroom. I know he was behind this!!!!!!I juss met him this year, but he acts like hes hated me forever. How can i make him my friend or at least talk to me??? Dont tell me hes not worth it----people always tell me that. But theres just something about him........I like it!! Amd my instincts are usually right........Help!!!!

Okay well honestly this time your insticts may be wrong. Actually it seems as though your only instinct is that this guy is good looking and that is what is drawing you to him, making you want him. If this guy doesn't want anything to do with you then that's just it. You can't make someone like you, and trying to will just make you look desperate. And trying to get at a guy who is trying to make other girls fight you makes you look stupid. Honestly girl no matter how good this guy may look he is no good and definitely not worth it. I know this is not what you want to hear but its the truth.

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hey guys it is funkyfresh.. i give advice but now i need some bad! well okay.. there is this guy matt k and a guy matt n (best friends scary i kno) they both like me (even scarier!) and i dont go to the same school as either of them! i have mixed feelings and have no ideas on what to do! any advice!
((x o ♥ Michelle))

Just think about which one really makes you feel good. Which one knows just how to make you smile or laugh and always says the right thing, things like that... Then you will know who to choose. Or you could not pick either of them that way you don't feel in the middle and you don't hurt anyones feelings.

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Hi okay i just want some advice to know if my feels for this is normal because it's been like 6 weeks and i still cant get over it. alright i started a new school for my freshman year and back in october i got asked out by this guy that was in my class with me. we never really talked but we did talk and joke around and things...so finally out of the blue he asked me out and at the time i didnt really like him because i didnt know him but i thought to give it a try because you never know. so i did and i found out that i do like him alot. then there was problem because my friend is just always around me and he feels like the third wheel all the time and to make things short he broke up with me. it didnt really hit me at the point because i was just speechless but ever since then he's still always on my mind. we dont talk anymore either because i just feel really shy. but is it normal that he's still on my mind. i mean i try to forget about it and everything and move on but it seems like it's just haunting me...maybe is it because i didnt say anything to stop the break up? i'm really confused and i hope somebody can help. please and thank you.

Yes it is normal to feel this way. You could be feeling this way because as you said you didn't really say anything when he broke up with you so there was no closure and now its bothering you. It could also be because you still like this guy. Maybe you should talk to him and tell him your sorry things ended up the way they did but you can't get him off your mind now and you would really like to give things another try. Let him know you will talk to your friend about giving the 2 of you some space because you need personal time. She should understand that because you guys are growing up and your both gonna have boy friends and want some alone time. Maybe you could even suggest hooking her up with one of his friends that way you all still get to see eachother.

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I have been best friends with someone for about a half of a year. Afer she hooked up with a new guy, after dumping her old bf, she has completly ditched me. We go to different skools, but she still called me every nite to tell me something or other. And now, she doesnt call me @ all and never returns my calls and evertime tat i get ahole of her, she always says got to go, and says call u back in 5 minutes, and never does. I dont know what to do because we havent been fighting or anything and everything was kewl last weekend. Could it be that i have been not home at all and she is jealous or something that i am hangin with other people?I am very upset though because she is my best friend and i tell her everything and now i have no one to tell all my stupid stories about skool. Please help me and fast, anyone that gives me advice in the next 1o minutes, i will give a 5!

I know this sucks but it happens all the time, best friends drift apart because of a new boy friend or new friends. Maybe your friend is ditching you because she is all stuck on her new guy now or maybe she is pissed or bothered that you have new friends or maybe she doesn't even realize she is ditching you. You need to tell her how you feel. Tell her you feel like you are drifting apart and what can you do to make things feel right again. Good luck!

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My sister is seriously a devil, she can't keep her hands to herself! She abuses me by hitting me really hard and throwing furniture at me! I hate it when she does this and I can never make her stop! She swears at me and the thing about it is, is that she is my younger sister! I 've already told my parents and they don't do much excpet ground for a week! i am seriously getting hurt and I don't know what else to do! what should i do?

Do you have any marks? Show them to your parents. Tell them you seriously can not take the abuse anymore. Maybe your sister has some type of emotional imbalance like bi polar or something. Tell them you want them to get her help because you can't tolerate the things your sister is doing to you and that if they don't you have no choice but to take it in to your own hands and tell a higher athority like a school councelor or the police.

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i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and i love him so much but just recently, i have been getting close with my sisters boyfriends couin, who is 23 years old and i am 17. we ended up getting closer and closer over the past few weeks and talked every day on the phone and he came over to see me everyday and hang out. then, 2 nights ago, we ended up having sex and we stayed up talking for hours and he told me how he liked me and i told him about how i felt the same way. he knows about my boyfriend and he respects the fact that i have a boyfriend but i don't know what to do because last night he came over to hang out with my sisters boyfriend and he didnt talk to me once. usually he wont talk to me in front of them that much because they would suspect something if we did. but, even when my sisters boyfriend was in the bathroom and what not, he still didn't talk to me. i don't know what to think. what are your thoughts on all this? should i tell him i really care about him? this is the first time ive cared for someone like this besides my boyfriend in a while. but, theres something about this boy. please tell me your thoughts.

Okay I will give you my thoughts, but don't get upset, I am only telling you based on my own personal experience. When I was like 15 I thought an older guy cared about me and then things changed just how they are with you. He told me all the things he told you and we became good friends. And I also had a boy friend too. I trusted him and grew so close to him that we ended up having sex. And just like in your situation, afterwards he stopped talking to me. here's where the mistake was... SEX. You should have never slept with him. He was just using you. See a lot of older guys do this shit to younger girls. They act like they care and really want you despite the age difference and what others think. They tell what you what you wanna hear and reel you in. Then when you give up the drawls they act like they never knew you. I know its some fucked up shit but atleast you went through it now while you were still young and you can take it as a lesson to learn from. I know I did.

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I keep having dreams about the guy I used to go out with. I guess I kind of still like him. Well anyway first dream was where I was yelling at my friend in the art room. (I'm in art with the guy I keep dreaming about.) He was sitting with other people at a table and not even noticing our fight. Then last night for the dream I was sitting in the art room once again. He was answering a question that the teacher asked. He answered it really good but the teacher didn't really care. I was amazed at his great response to the question. When I woke up this morning I had a headache and I never get those, especially when I wake up. Are my dreams trying to tell me something? If so, do you have any idea what?

It is true that messages do try to be sent through dreams. Maybe these dreams are coming to you because you need to give this guy another chance. You obviously still like him and think about him outside of dream world, so why not give it a shot and tell him you want to give your relationship another try.

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ok here is the thing my mom is really annoyin she is always gone with her boyfriend but it "also has to do with business". And me and my brothers don't like my moms boyfriend but if either of us tell her that she will say ' what i can't have my own personal life' but the thing is she always asks us if we like him and if we say how we really feel she will just change it around so it is our fault and she can't have a life. O yea and she is ALWAYS down where her bf lives on business and stays there for weeks at a time sometime. but my question is how can i tell my mom how i feel with out her changing it around so it is my fault cause i have tryed telling her how i felt before and she started crying and said fine then i won't have a personal life or make us more money when i would rather have less money and a mother then more money and a mother that is NEVER home??? i need help because this is ruining my life please help i don't know what to do anymore!!!!! thanks

I'm guessing the reason you don't like your moms boyfriend is because he takes all of her time. Maybe you should explain to your mom exactly what it is that you don't like about him. Tell her you love her and of course you want her to have a personal life but lately it seems like all her time is being put into her personal life or her business and it saddens you because you would like to see her put more time into her family life too that way everyone can be happy.

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Do you neciserrily have to think a guy is cute to like them? Like can you be attracted to just there personality and still have a crush on them?

Of course you can be attracted to just a guys personality. That is actually a good thing. It shows you are not shallow because you don't think about looks you think about what's on the inside.

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I was wondering if it's possible to get pregnant from swallowing...my boyfriend and I have been messing around so this question came up. Thanks.

No you can't get pregnant from swallowing. You can only get pregnant if semen enters the vagina. Don't they tell you these things in health class? If they havnt yet or you really didn't know that then maybe you are too young to be doing sexual stuff.

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i have a puppy she is about 5 months old and my mom is very alergic to her .. she is now living in teh gaage bcz my mom almost died ! we wanan give her away to a family taht loves her but dont know who my question is .. how could i let ppl know about my dog ??? thank u soo0o much and p.s she is a girl if that helps

Ask a school councelor if it would be okay to post some flyers around the school saying that you have a dalmation who needs a good home. Make sure you put that it is potty trained and all that good stuff. You could even see if they will announce it on the loud speaker.

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How do i get rid of zits FAST! im already doin the daily face wash and the hot water thing... but whats the best clenser to use that works really fast? Plz help, and to those who do... thank you som much! (i rate)

Use clean&clear astrigent after you wash you face. Also try applying clean&clear gel on just the pimples. It has salicylic acid in it and works pretty fast and keeps the pimples away.

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i got my cartilage pierced yesterday. is it normal for the cartilage to be a bit swollen? thanks

Yes its perfectly normal. Just keep cleaning and turning it. It should be fine.

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my boyfriend told people he dumped me even though he didnt and we sorta went to far one day n we did it it felt good i guess but it wasnt mi first time the thing iz wuz he just using me but he neva told me it was over so technically were still going out but the people he "told" hate me and they know that were hella close n sexually active but im scared that hes going to break up with me like rite after we had sex and i realli dont know what to do i was cryin all day because i thought he was cheating on me but i told him a lot of personal stuff and i realli like him alot i kno itz cheesey 2 cry bc mi bf wuz supposivly cheating on me but i cant help it were thos ppl he told really telling me tha truth? was he realli using me? im realli confused n i kno if i ask him hez guna act all sweet n tell me it wuz all liez n try 2 get in2 mi pantz agen

please help

signed
CONFUSED

If he's telling people you guys are not together then you're not. Don't be acting all desperate like you still are. I know its messed up that he used you but you're just gonna have to be strong and learn from it. But if you really think there's a chance with him then you are gonna have to talk to him. If you know him well enough you will know if he's sweet talking you.

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Ok i have a puppy, i just got the other day and she will be 7 weeks old tomorrow...well my problem is...she wont stop useing the bathroom on my floor in my bedroom and everywhere else in the house...even though i tell her no...thats bad and not to do it again but she keeps on and on whenever i see that shes about to go to the bathroom i pick her up and rush her outside....its annoying and i need advice on how to get her to stop useing the bathroom on my floor...thanks...i'll rate anyone who answers this for me!

If she can't go outside you should try wee wee pads. They aren't expensive abd you can find them in a lot of pet stores. You need to work on training her. 7 weeks is old enough for her to understand. When you get the wee wee pads show her where they are. Put her face real close to it and then look at her and say this is where you go pee. I know it sounds funny but it works. But she's not gonna understand in a day. When she makes on the floor grab her and put her face where she went at, not in it just close to it, so she can smell it and realize its hers. Then look her in the face and say no you don't go here you go here and show her the wee wee pad again. you can also run her to the pad when she's about to go and after she's done tell her good girl this is where you go and show her. Eventually she will get the point it just takes some time and patience. But this strategy does work, its how my mom did it.

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hi im 14/f/uk and all of a sudden my breasts and under my arms have started 2 itch. i dont no what it is and im really worrid.
can someone please help and if you have any advice that would be helpful
thanxz luv nicki xxxxxxx

Well sometimes your breast itch when they are growing. Because the skin is stretching sometimes it can cause itching. But don't scratch because it may create stretch marks or even a rash. Try using cocoa butter, if the itching continues then I suggest you see a doctor because it could be an allergic reaction to a laundry detergent or maybe the material of your bra.

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