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I just got a keyboard. Well, I can't read sheet music but I do understand what keys are what letter and sharp and flat. Which is a pretty good start, I think.

Anyways, my knowledge is new to the keyboards, obviously, and I am learning songs like Kids by MGMT and Happy Birthday. And I plan on learning Clocks by Coldplay and many other songs.

But I was wondering once I perfect all these songs I plan on learning will I be good at keyboards? Like, eventually, will I be able to make up anything and make it sound good or will my skill only be limited to the songs I did practice over and over.

Will it come easier? Sorry if this is a confusing question. If you are a keyboardist how long did it take you to perfect it? Any tips? Thank you.

The thing about a keyboard is that it's really easy. It's layed out in a way that makes sense and is easy to play by ear. For me, it came pretty naturally. I just play by ear, although I can read sheet music. Playing music is good, but if you want to play your own stuff, that's really good practice too :) Do some warmups each time before you begin playing your songs (scales and such) so that over time you can eventually know what each note sounds like without having to play it...that's how you learn to play by ear :)remember, practice makes perfect!

-Jess

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Hii, I need advice about what problems there are in your guys' general day to day life. If you think something needs to be improved or have something that needs a solution please tell me!! I've been thinking really hard about this but need some fresh advice. If you could please tell me about ANY type of problem that needs a solution or product that needs to be improved please tell me! I'm working on a project but really need some help thinking of things.

The more problems the better!!!!! and i will rate! :]

I procrastinate way too much as well.
I can never get myself motivated enough to do activities that I actually enjoy.
I am annoyed very easily by many people but I have to hold it all in and put up with it.
I currently can't find a job and I've been searching for months, though I'm assuming it's because of lack of 'job experience', which I can't get because no one will hire me.
I get paranoid about ridiculous things way too easily.
My parents are in the middle of this big court thing and both of them are trying to get me to speak for them against the other.
I don't get enough excercise and I definitely don't eat right and I know that it will all catch up to me when my metabolism slows down...that scares me a bit.
Constantly broke...don't have a job to fix that.
My boyfriend is very realistic and straightforward...sometimes that hurts even though I know it's completely logical.
I drive a standard and have to deal with the constant lurching as a result of my bad driving.
I really like to read but I have a increasingly busy schedule, which prevents me from doing so.
-Jess

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well me and my boyfriend tried having sex a few weeks ago but it hurt so he pulled out but then i had to leave. so we're gonna try again tomorrow but i want to get some questions answered just so i kinda know whats goin on haha

1. who usually cums first?

2.if the guy comes first is that when you stop? or do you wait till you both do?

3.what are some kinky things i can do that he will love?

thanks!!

1. Depends on the person...it's harder for a girl to cum but a girl can orgasm without cumming so you don't need to cum :)

2. You stop when the guy finishes...he'll go soft after that and then it doesn't feel as good.

3. My boyfriend loves it when I moan a lot and say his name...plus it makes it more fun for me haha :)

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Im christian but I was researching islam & they seem to be very similar, and i think islam may seem more true. I read that christians believe that mohammed was a liar about being a messenger, but isn't that what happened to jesus?, didn't people think he was a liar about being a "the son of god" ?? I think that islam may seem clearer & makes more sense. & how can christians say there is three "????'s" in 1 god? I'm starting to think that christians are hipacrits, & now I feel like one & i feel stupid around muslims. i'm really confused. & i bet christians would get mad for me thinking this, and if they do, it just makes them seem even more hipacritical. i think that a lot of christians are in the wrong state of mind. & they don't believe in evolution which is very ignorant because its highly misunderstood, its simple, god created life then life evolved. & the evidence is houses and furniture from old times because you can clearly see that people were tiny back then & have evolved, which thy don't believe

I'm an atheist, so I will tell you my beliefs on the subject. Not preaching or saying what's right or wrong...just giving opinions :)

In my opinion, I agree that Christians tend to be hypocritical. This is because the bible can be interpreted in many different ways, so Christian people have different views on what's specifically "right" or "wrong". If you feel this critical of the Christian belief, then you are lacking of "faith" which is basically the basis for believing in 'God' and 'Jesus', the son of 'God'. Don't be afraid to explore other religions or even no religion. Religion is a personal issue so you shouldn't let us, or anyone else tell you what religious beliefs are right or wrong.

-Jess

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hey, my boyfriend calls me babe.i wanna give him a nickname too but i cant think of anything.i would prefer something that will match what he calls me.but i cant think of a masculine version for babe.

My boyfriend and I call each other "babe", "baby", and "love" :)

-Jess

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why is it i did not bleed when my first sex?he is the first person im having sex

Not everyone bleeds their first time. Everyone's vagina is different so not everyone bleeds. I didn't bleed my first time either. Don't worry about it, consider it a good thing :)

-Jess

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18f.

i met this new guy, i thought he was amazingly different then any other guy i've ever liked because he has treated me so different. we're not dating yet, but he treats me like a princess everytime we're together. he knows i have a trust problem, especially with guys, and he knows i've been hurt and afraid to fall again and he's promised he would never hurt me or give me a reason to never trust him.

everything was fine, until tonight. i texted him about something, and then he asked what i was doing tonight and i said i was somewhere an hr and a half away and then i didn't know, and he said we should hang out tonight and i said yeah we should :) and he was like ok, text me when you get home. so i text him when i get home, about an hr and a half later, and i say ok i'm home ..and he never texted back..

i'm so confused, i know it sent to him. i don't know if he didn't want to see me (even though he asked ME to hang out first) or what's going on .. i'm just really hurt ..because i never thought this would happen with him.

i'm frustrated, sad, confused all at the same time. if he texts me tomorrow saying something, do i say something about him not texting back? what if he acts like nothing happened? i don't know what to say, if i should say anything at all..

Don't be too hurt by this, it's probably nothing personal. He might have fallen asleep, had other responsibilites he had to take care of, etc. A variety of things could have happened. If he texts you tomorrow, I think the best reply on your part could be something like "Hey :) why didn't you text back last night?" or something...nothing showing that you're sad over it because that might cause an argument if you start making him feel bad about simple things like this. Goodluck, I hope all goes well.

-Jess

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My boyfriend fingered me for the first time the other night, but each time before he washed his hands cause i told him i dont want to get pregnant or an infection. Well, Im just worried that something might have got on his hands, which his underwear and stuff was dry. So, I dont think he had any of his body fluids come out. So, is there a chance that the stuff didnt show up on his underwear? Or can it dry quickly? I just worry about everything. If there wasnt anything on his underwear then should we be okay?

There's no chance you could be pregnant.

-Jess 16/f

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I'm really sorry if this is long but i got no one else to help me..

Okay well at work there's this guy im 18 he's 21 he has a gf they've been together for about 5 months? but his gf treats him really bad she swears at him and so forth it's pretty bad but yet he's still with her,he flirts me with me examples: he'll tell me im cute or pretty and we always joke around,and for my birthday he offered to drop me off i said okay and then we hugged and it went for like 3 minutes it was pretty long anyways he's so nice i think i like him though i texted him saying that i think this whole flirting thing has gotta stop because you have a gf and i dont wanna fall for you and end up empty handed and i dont wanna stop talking,he didn't reply to my msg at all then when i saw him at work he wouldnt even talk to me or nothing and then on sat i saw him i asked how long are you gonna ignore me for ? he just shrugged his shoudlers i said i was sorry i didnt mean to send it i was kinda forced (which i was) and he just asked who i said my friend he goes alright thats it and then today i saw him he didnt even talk to me at all what do i do what does this mean please help.

Let him be...how would you feel if you had a boyfriend and some other girl was trying to steal him away from you? And how do you think he feels being put in that kind of situation? If he doesn't want that girl as a girlfriend, then he can take care of it by himself. He's a big boy, you don't need to control his life to benefit yourself, that's just selfish. Goodluck.

-Jess

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13/f
and i like a
13/m

BEWARE: this might be long.


OK. So i have posted so many questions on the same topic. But i haven't gotten any real good advice. All of my answers usually say "just go with what you think is right" or "its better to do it and say you did the to not and regret it later." so i hope you can give me better advice. like what i should specifically do.

So i have like this guy for a long time. Ive known him since elementary school and he lives two houses away from me. I think I'm IN LOVE with him. now don't say "i think your too young to be IN LOVE" or "you need to wait and see if these feelings leave. if they don't then....." because I've heard it all before. I know for a fact that I'm IN LOVE with him. so i know that he likes me because he asked me out at the beginning of 7th grade. I said no because my mom doesn't approve of neighbors dating. because if we ever break up then it'll be awkward because i see him all over the place. but i like him so much that i am willing to hide it from my mom. But another reason why i know that he likes me is because, not too long ago, we were walking home together and he touched my ass. on purpose. so if that's not flirting than i don't know what flirting is. lol. so i have no idea what to do. do i ask him out myself or just wait for him to ask me out? please help me. and im sorry that this was so long. thank you in advance.

Well my method for attracting boys has always been to flirt with them until they asked me out. First of all, I think it says more about their character if they have the balls to ask you out, especially if you rejected them the first time. Second, it's kind of traditional for the guy to ask the girl out haha it seems stupid but in my book, that's just how it goes. Anyways, that might be the one thing that is keeping him from asking you out again, because you said no the first time. No one likes to get rejected, so perhaps he just fears rejection again. So I still don't suggest you ask him out. I think you should keep flirting with him MAJORLY. DON'T let up! When you guys talk, do you ever get into discussions about who the other person likes? You should definitely bring it up if you haven't because that is a major sign that someone likes you, and hopefully he isn't completely oblivious so he will catch on ;) So my answer is just flirt with him a lot...if you are already doing so, turn it up even more! Also, don't worry about hiding it from your mom...she'll find out when she does and she'll still love you. Adults expect teenagers to screw up so it probably won't come as much of a surprise if/when she finds out :b Goodluck!!!

-Jess 16/f

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19/f

I have been dating my boyfriend for about 11 months now and I am so in love with him. We are very serious and I see an amazing future with him - but theres just one problem.

I's not that big of a deal but he has a little bit of a wandering eye. While I know he would never cheat on me, he constantly tells me which girls he thinks are "total babes" and which celebrities he would love to get with. I know this is normal, but it makes me uncomfortable and insecure. When we go to the beach, he stares at other women. Just the other day he took one of my lingerie catalogs and was drooling over the girls while I was sitting right next to him. When I get mad or upset about it he just laughs or blows me off.

And it's started to make me feel like I'm not enough, and that's why he looks elsewhere. I used to be very confident and outgoing but now I feel like if I were just skinnier or had bigger breasts that maybe I could keep his attention. Now I feel uncomfortable having him see me naked and he complains all the time. He gets frustrated because I won't stay naked after sex or strip for him.

I tried explaining to him why I've gotten so insecure and how him gawking at other girls bothers me but he laughed it off or changed the subject. It's embarassing, I don't know how else to go about it.

I realize he is portrayed in a negative light in this question but he really is amazingly sweet, caring, funny and and all-around great boyfriend. I know he's in love with me and I want to be with him but hate feeling this way. How can I solve this issue?

Thanks for all who reply.

You're definitely going to have to talk to him about it. If you don't have a serious conversation and make him understand, then the problem will just continue and possibly escalate. I think you should sit him down and be completely serious when you bring it up. If he laughs and tries to change the subject, persist and explain to him how uncomfortable and insecure it makes you feel when he 'drools' all over these other girls...and if he really doesn't take your feelings about this seriously, then that's a problem. A relationship should have communication and if you can't communicate your problems to him and have him take you seriously, then maybe this problem is even bigger then you think? With that being said, guys are very visual when it comes to their sexual side. They see girls that are hot and maybe your boyfriend just feels comfortable enough around you to tell you anything? I don't really know him though, so I'm not too sure as to why he would do that...either way, if it's making you unhappy, you should definitely discuss this with him!

-Jess 16/f

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My boyfriend and I hooked up last night, i gave him head and he came. Then about 5 mins later I went to the bathroom and peed and THEN i washed my hands :( Is there a chance im pregnent?!

I'm a bit confused as to why you would think there would be a chance of you being pregnant? I'm assuming you did not have sex, since you just said you gave him head. If you didn't have sex, then you aren't pregnant. There isn't even a chance.

-Jess 16/f

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This just randomly popped into my head the other day but when 2 people get divorced does the woman keep the mans last name?

Example:

Mary Ann White married John Young and so Mary became Mary Young...then they divorce. Would Mary go back to being Mary White or stay Mary Young? I'm confused

It is the woman's choice, but many keep their husband's name because it is a very long and tiring process to legally change your name. My mom got hers changed from my dad's last name to her new husband's last name and it took a long time and she had to get everything that had her name on it remade...

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im a virgin, and i want to know does it HURT alot the first time when u have sex???? how does it feel???

Hi there!
It didn't hurt me and I know it also didn't hurt a lot of my friends...it feels a little bit uncomfortable at first but then you get used to it in a few minutes and it feels great :) However, it does differ for every girl since everyone is different, so you'll just have to find out when you do...hope I helped!

-Jess

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Okay I just wnat to know: when you know someone's cheating on you (not in a relationship, I'm talking school work-wise)what do YOU do?

Do you ignore it? Do you try to give him/er subtle hints that seem subtle to you but not really to anyone else in the class?

Or come right out and say it?

I think everyone just ignroes it and sometimes I do too. I don't want to be a taddle-tale, but when will they ever be punished?!

Honestly, I just ignore it. They aren't helping themselves and it will just catch up to them when they get older. THAT'S their punishment, that they don't get to learn anything :b I just do my best work and if they want to cheat their way through school, then they can. Anyway, hope I helped.

-Jess 16/f

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how do i become best friends with my boyfriend. im 20 yrs old and i have been in relationships before but i have never been their best friend. i believe that in a good healthy relationship you should be best friends with your significant other. my question is, how do i do that? maybe some qualities...thank you for all your help.

Hi there :) well, my boyfriend and I are best friends, so here are some things that I think make us so close:

-We talk about EVERYTHING together...if one of us is feeling sad, the other will try to make them feel better. No matter what it is, communication is key to ANY relationship, whether it's romantic or friendly.

-I try to take an interest in his hobbies and talk to him about it or ask him to teach me. For example, he likes to play guitar, so I asked him to teach me a song or two. If he likes video games, go to his house and play some with him. It doesn't matter if you're good or bad at his hobby, just the fact that you make an effort gets you points :)

-Go on fun dates, not just the whole dinner and movies thing. There's plenty of fun date ideas all over the internet that can be found with a quick google search. Going on fun dates gives it more of a friendly atmosphere. You can even go on a double date with some friends, those are always fun.

Basically, just let him know that you care and that you want your relationship to be fun too, not just a boyfriend-girlfriend thing. Hope I helped!

-Jess

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My boyfriend and his ex girlfriend are always fighting. They fight about their past relationship and what went wrong. They fight because one of them will bring up their current love life and the other doesn't want to hear about it. I'm pretty sure this means that they aren't over each other, but don't really know it themselves and/or won't admit it. Does anyone know if this is like...a psychology term that happens a lot? What should I do? Please, any advice will help.
Thanks.

Yeah, it sounds to me like he's still hung up over her. I guarantee that if you two break up, him and his ex will get back together. If I were you, I would talk to him about it. Really try to get to the bottom of things because he might know the truth himself or he might just be in denial. And you shouldn't feel bad at all if you two do decide to end your relationship. It's not your fault that he might still have some feelings for her. Shit happens, ya know? Goodluck :)

-Jessica 15/f

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i just got my belly button pierced on wednesday and it didnt hurt at all. later that night it was a little sore. when i woke up the next morning i had the worst abdominal pains ever. its not infected but it is red and extremely sore but thats how it should be. its now saturday and my stomach pains keep getting worse and no matter what type of medicine i take it makes no difference. can anyone tell me how long my stomach is goin to hurt for? not my belly button my actual stomach.

Go to a doctor. Belly button piercings have been known to, if infected, not only infect the skin around your belly button, but also infect your stomach.

-Jessica 15/f

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16/F
I have been in a relationship for just over 9 months and its that time once again and I have no idea what to get my boyfriend. Throughout our relationship I have made him various gifts including:

A book with pictures I drew of times we shared together, with song lyrics to a song he really liked at the time

Coupons, a summery of our msn conversations, surveys and a one of those post it things that was named after each day of the next month with a little message on each

A flash music video saying 17 reasons why I love him to a song he really likes.

So pretty much I have begun to run out of creative ideas and I really want to make him something he will love. He loves music, is not really a party person, plays hockey, guitar and sings. I want something that could maybe show how much he means to me as well as some look at the past type thing... any ideas would be super greatful. I dont want to do a scrapbook though since hes not a huge fan of them

Thank you :)

Well for my boyfriend this christmas, I wrote down a hundred reason why I love him on little pieces of paper and put them in a jar and painted hearts all over it :) he really loved it.
I had a boyfriend a couple years ago that played the guitar so I did a few google searches and found this site where you can get a silver guitar pick and have it personalized. I put his initials on it and he really liked it. It cost around 40 dollars or so, but I think it was worth it :) just type in "personalized silver guitar picks" or something like that on google and you'll find it. Hope I helped!

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18/f

I just turned eighteen. I have never had a boyfriend before my current one and am very inexperienced. He isn't very experienced either, but he is starting to want to do more than just kiss. I am ready too, I just don't know how to do anything. Can anyone give me advice as to how to go about this? thanks. I really appreciate it.

No, you don't have to watch porn to know how to do sexual things, as the person below me stated :/ actually, porn is a very unreal portrayel of these kinds of things.
Anyways, don't worry about it at all :) since both of you are unexperienced, you can be unexperienced together and learn how to please each other as you go. Both of you just need to be open about what feels good, what doesn't, etc. It's really not as awkward as it sounds :) Hope I helped a bit.

-Jessica 15/f

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