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okay so recently i kinda feel like Im a total lesbian and i mean believe me i have nothing wrong with LGBTs at ALL. But I think the main problem for me is like the future. I mean i guess i can give up on the fantasy of me marring an amazing guy and having kids.
I keep telling myself it doesnt matter and i have time to figure it out but id just like to know you know?
help?
Oh and if you are just gonna be rude about homosexuality please dont even respond (link)
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You can have a beautiful wife and children.
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Well I am not straight and I know it.
I love girls, they are georgeous and ahhhh
But, I have the most amazing boyfriend!
I love him, I mean I couldn't live without him...and I know its for a companion and not just a friendshipppp!
Therefore, I think I am bi...
I mean seriouslyyy, I love boys, they attract me and get me excited, welll....girls do to!:D
The question is how do I come out to my boyfriend and my familyyyy...
I have a game with my friends who are girls where we grab each others butts and boobs, trying to make each other uncomfortableeee...
And I am a little bit weary because I don't want them to think I am copping a feel. I am NOT doing thattt...honestly, my friends aren't my type, I don't think they are attractive AT ALL. Ew.
But that doesn't matter, what should I do?
(oh by the way, my boyfriend is a very commited christian who thinks that homosexuality is wrong and disgustinggg) (link)
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First of all bisexuality is VERY rare. Most young men and women find a member of he same sex attractive at least once in their life time. This can sometimes start at age 9 lasting for a very long while. DO NOT COME OUT UNTIL YOU ARE 100% SURE YOU ARE.
I waited 7 years and I am glad I did.
Also being "bisexual" also includes the willingness to HAVE A REAL RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN.
Women in general are gorgeous, that is undeniable and it is normal to be sexually attracted to them and leave it at that. But putting a label on yourself that will follow you for a while is dangerous emotionally.
Homosexuality is NOT glamorous and coming out is possibly the hardest thing to do.
About your friends... DON'T TELL THEM! Teenagers can be cruel and truthfully it is NONE of their business.
As for your boyfriend a simple "I think we need to break up because it is not working out for me and I am just not attracted to you" works fine and no other explanation is needed.
Let this "bisexuality" sit for a while and determine whether it is real or a phase.
This is coming from a lesbian.
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My mom is friend's with this lady [40] who is gay. You wouldn't think she was but she told me. Well, I go to work with the lady and when i [13] sleep over we sleep in the same bed because i dont like sleeping on the couch. Does that make me gay because i've heard if you sleep with a gay person thas makes you gay? 13/f .. [ i dont think it is true ]
and are you born gay? (link)
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No sleeping with a gay person does not make you gay. Homosexuality is not contagious or a disease.
GAYS ARE BORN GAY. I personally did not wake up one morning and say "Hey I think I will like girls, make my parents and family cry or be discriminated against." Homosexuality is not that glamorous! Besides if it's a choice when do straight men and women decide to be straight?
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I know i have been sending a lot of questions related to this, but right now this is really bothering me and im sorry for bringing it up again.
also i apologize for how long this is going to be
to sum things up, about a month ago i was at my friend's house and her brother who happens to be a freshman was there along with his friend, who i met for the first time that night. we all slept in the basement and watched movies, it was a lot of fun. a week later i realized he liked me, and i liked him too. it was good until he told me he didnt want to go out with me because of basketball, and i did not ask to go out with him so i wasnt sure as to why he said that to me. anyways, tuesday night i told him i was going to my friends house [his friends sister, the house from last time] and i told him he should come but he said he couldnt, he said to go saturday instead because he was going to go saturday. i said okay and was really excited because i thought maybe he liked me again. thursday night he was IMing me and was asking if it would be okay if he made a move on me on saturday and i said yeah. then he asked what i would ler him do and asked if i was prude and i said no im not. he basically was plannning on using me, i know this because first of all he mentioned earlier that he had mixed feelings for me and another girl, the other girl lives at least an hour away..so im not sure how that would work out, but it isnt my buisness. so after he kept asking hor far i would go i asked him your not planning on using me are you.. [obviously a stupud question because he would not say yes, but i wanted him to know i was aware of what he was trying to do..and i dont want to get hurt] he said no im not like that. ill probobly just talk to you, but not a lot because me and [his friend, my friends brother] are going to be hanging out. and i said, we can all hang out togethor.. and then he wrote, yeah i guess. well i gotta go bye
he left me really confused at that point. he also asked my friend on friday night if i liked him and she said she wasnt sure if i did or not, he said he didnt know either and that he would find out saturday night. my friend asked if he had anything planned and he said haha nah. maybe...
well, last night i got to my friends house and he was there with my friends brother. he didnt really talk to me for a long time..it took a while. i was really excited because i thought maybe me and him would do something, because he was almost begging me two days before. well, he stole my phone and ran upstairs with it. i followed him and he ran into the bathroom and tried locking the door. i opened the door and took my phone and was laughing and started walking away. then i started realizing..this was his plan on how to do stuff with me. as soon as i walked away i felt really stupid. and to this minute i wish that i didnt walk away. i wish i stayed with him. because that was my only chance. and i blew it. without even knowing until i walked away...it makes me really sad. anyways, once again, im sorry for the length of this..i just have a lot things to say about it, and i dont know how to express it. well, i was sitting on a couch with my friend in the basment and he came over and put his pillow on my legs and said this is how its gonna work. and then he put his head on his pillow and then his feet on my friend. i wasnt sure if that was a sign or not..i didnt know..then after 5 minutes he just got up and sat at the other couch. i was kind of offended..but whatever. then later my friend and i stole his phone and changed the language to spanish. it was really funny, then he kept asking me to change it back and i said no because i thought it was funny, he did too though. then, he came over, sat between me and my friend, and sat basically, on my foot and right next to me, almost on top of me. that would of been a perfect position for him to kiss me. but his friend was there along with my friend..so i didnt think he wanted to..i really liked it though. but then he got up and sat on the other couch again. i got sad after that again. i thought it was weird how he kept on toying with my emotions like that. and not to mention, he stole my phone 4 times and it was really funny, and i liked it, because i would try and get it from him and grab it but he was so fast. then he would finally give it to me..but then he wouldnt talk to me for a while. it really started confusing me. i did not like it. it also bothered me that he was being very rude about the things me and my friend wanted to do. we went out rented knocked up, fight club, and saw 3. i thought it was going to be fun, but then we asked who wanted to watch knocked up and he goes, that movie, ive seen it so many times ugh. i dont really want to watch it. and i guess that was whatever..then this morning, my friend and i were warching fight club. i sat on the couch that he sat on the whole night, number 1 because i didnt have my contacts in and it was hard to see the screen. number 2, i wanted him to sit next to me. so he came downstaits with his friend, looked around, and sat in a different chair, a single chair. i got offended by that. what makes him think he can just come and snuggle next to me for 5 mnutes but then when i set myself up for it, he just doesnt want to even sit near me. why?! what did i do to make him not like me anymore?/ nobody knows. he also announced that he was texting that other girl he likes, jenna. shes weird anyway..i saw this video of her she recorded..it was weird. and what upset me the most is that he had me right where i THOUGHT he wanted me, and he didnt even take advantage of that, nor did he care. i sort of think he decided he likes the other girl better than me..which also upset me. why wasnt i go enough..im just really hurt and what a letdown he was. making me think he wanted to do all of this stuff with me, and then showing up and barely even talking me. not to mention toying with me and realizing he was in control. it rerally, really hurt me. when i was walking out of my friends house this morning, i saw him and his friend playing basketball. i turned and looked at them, he looked at me for a second but then went back to basketball, he didnt even say bye to me. that hurt. i would really love to know what it was that i did..to make him just not even want to talk to me or even be my friend. im so sorry that this was extremely long
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Well to answer your question, he does want you, but not for the right reasons. He is using you, and from what it sounds like, thats as far as you'll get. Its not wrong to like someone who just wants to tool with you, it happens to people all the time. So dont feel stupid. You sound like a very sweet girl, and i would let go of him FAST! Delete him from your everything, thats right i said EVERYTHING! Including your phone, facebook, myspace, and mind. It will be hard to resist the urge to call him. But by doing this you are taking back your power from him. This whole "relationship" has been a power play. He is just messing with your mind. The good news is, he doesnt like you, OR the other girl. If you like someone that means you care about them and dont want to hurt them. He is hurting you by playing games with your head, trying to get you jealous, and making you feel bad. Mean while he's hanging out and flirting with you-trying to hook up with you, while he has another girl feeling the same way to you. He is obviously to imature and to self-centered to have a relationship at the moment. So my advice, is dont waste your time. Move on, you CAN do so much better, and your worth it. Dont feel bad about not fooling around with him, that was his goal. Let go and hang out with your friends. Be yourself and dont feel the need to over step your bounderies or leave your comfort zone for anybody!
need anymore advice or if you would like to further discuss this, email me:
d-rainkrueger@hotmail.com
good luck!
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im 18 years old. a girl. and ive had sex with 16 guys. I don't know why I let myself get that bad. It's wayy too many guys and only a few of them have been my boyfreinds...others are just hook ups.
I always tell my self to not let things like that happen, but I just can't help it, I dont know what to do. I like the feeling of being with a guy because it makes me feel wanted and accepted...but it needs to stop. I just don't know how. (link)
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You need to look into your life and find what is making you feel that way. We all need to feel loved but there are better ways of going about that. Talk to your parents about seeing a therapist who can help you look back into your life and find the causes. Stop having sex. Sex is like a drug, so when quiting take it a day at a time. If you need anymore advice i have tons. if you need to talk about this more in deapth email me:
d-rainkrueger@hotmail.com
You are worth so much more then a one night stand, think about yourself and your body. Stop doing this.
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okay there's this guy that i liked since last year May he was in my english class. Before i started liking this guy, i would notice that he would stare at me all the time in class..then i eventually started liking him and i told him on msn that i liked him. He didn't believe me at first then i asked him: do you think i'm joking? then he said: i dunno, but i don't want to waste your time b/c i have a g/f. So i said ok, but i noticed that even after he told me that, he would still stare at me and sometimes look away. i asked around and they said that they don't think he has a g.f. so tonight i was talking to an old friend of mine and it turns out that my friend knows the guy i like so i told him that i wanted him to be my prom date and i asked him not to tell him b/c he told me hehad a girlfriend...so my friend said: wth? he doesn't have a girlfriend...so he lied to me! what does this mean? (link)
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might just be trying to make you jealous, or he feels insecure and wants to make himself look a little more cool
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ive never had sex with music before and i kinda want to. The thing is i cant find enough songs that would be good to put on a cd. me and my bf both like rock and rough sex so i'm looking for music that wouldl be good for that. I like songs like closer by nine inch nails and crazy bitch by buckcherry so maybe some other ones like that. The also dont have to be like explicitly sexual songs as long as they have a good beat for rough sex. Thanks :) oh and btw he's 23 if that makes a difference (link)
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Marilyn Manson. Really any song, is good.
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I am 16, female.
At age 14, I had a boyfriend, a best friend, all A's, confidence, I played volleyball and I was a cheerleader.
I am now 16, I have no best friend, no boyfriend, a B average, no confidence, and I recently had to quit all sports for 2 years due to a Spinal Disease. I'm not sure what to do anymore. My best friend and I have tried to go back to the way things were before she and I tried drugs, I quit but she took longer and we were not permitted to see each other.
I miss my life. My parents are worried sick about me because I spend all my free days laying in bed watching TV. I hate it. I used to be a fun-loving flirt that was able to bring the best out of people.
But now, I second guess my every thought, blame myself for everything, and just can't seem to find my way again.
Help, please. (link)
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I'm sorry to hear that so much has changed for you. The past is the past though, so you can not dwell on it. There is no going back and you really need to work on excepting that. It is very hard, and personally i have had to do it and i am still working on being realistic about that to this day. Not having a best friend sucks, i know that for a fact! but unless your best friend from the past has changed her or his drug using ways, it is a waste of timne trying to go back, things wont be the same. bummer! Try not dwelling on what you dont have and focussing in on what you do have. Things can be pretty shitty in your life, but they can be worse. Look at what you have done, the people you have surronded yourself with and the actions that have led you to this fall out from your past. Except they are not good and go through the grief stages. (1.anger 2.sadness 3. exceptance) then forgive yourself whether it was your fault or not. You sound as though you are suffering from deppreassion, which is tricky to get out of. TALK TO YOUR PARENTS! I'm 17 and believe me im not super christian girl, but i have fucked up a lot, and the best thing i did was tell my parents. They will help you get the help you need. Tell them you need to see a therapist or find someone to talk to. Stop focussing on bringing out the best in other people, and try doing that for yourself. You cant make yourself happy by only pleasing other people. Turn off the t.v., find some friends (be picky with who you choose), talk to your parents, see a therapist-talk to someone, dont be a victim, and look at what you have not lost.
if you need someone to talk to, feel free to email or facebook me.
d-rainkrueger@hotmail.com
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ok so i have been told that i am hot really hot and i hate it i get horrible comments i have almopst been raped about 6 times and i am skared sometimes i dont no why but i wantsome attention but when i get it it always comes on like a 100 times stronger then i can handle my friends dont want be to meet there boyfriends or were make up when i go some were with them and i am 14 and like 20 year olds hit on me it is really skarey i cant tell my parents because they are allready stricked and they will probley not let me do anything if i tell them i just need some advise and before i end this i dont dress slutty at all and i dont wrere dark make up so dont say its because im a slut thanks please help
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First off, stop looking for validation through guys. I know your saying your trying to avoid that, but its a two way street. What you put off and how you act is what you get back. Also keep things that are personal personal. Rape isnt something you should belt out. I would go see a therapist or talk to someone about how your feeling. Its good that you recognise you want attention. but your 14! you dont need to be looking at that via guys. 20 year olds will hit on a lot of people. To a lot of people age doesnt matter. Work on how your presnting yourself. And maybe think about looking at your actions, if your friends dont want you meeting their boyfriends then that is a red flag that somenthing is wrong, most likely with your actions. Be good to yourself and get some help before these issues escalade.
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sorry in advance if this is to much info haha its so weird writing this but whatever, i really need to know..
so im 16/f and my bf says he wants me to lick his ass haha i know that sounds really weird but yeah. What i wanna know is like how to do it right. Like i guess id be on my knees giving him a bj and then i'd want to go from that to his ass but like you cant really lick a guys as from a front can you? so i guess im asking how to switch from a bj to a rim job... and i looked up positions to do this online and what i found was either on a bed (which wouldnt work it would be either in or outside of a car) or like with him bent over and that wouldnt work either cuz bending over would make him feel like the bitch haha. and also jw how do you give a really good rimjob? and is it like gross? haha thanks lol sorry this is so weird (link)
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Truthfully. I would not lick his ass. Thats not right for a guy to ask you to do that, its almost as though he is testing to see how far you'll go for him. I would imagine that would be pretty gross, your licking from where he shits, ive personally never eaten shit, but use your imagination.. that sounds pretty gross.
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ive been trying to get a little further with my boryfriend. we have been going out for a while and i dont mean to sound sexual but well to bad. like i want to give him a hj thats all i ever done before but i want to give him a bj too, so say im at the point where hes all "ready" lol what do i do now?? how would i go about to performing either bj or hj? (link)
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If you havent gone that far yet, sometimes it's good to talk about moving further with your boyfriend. Sometimes its suprising and gets awkward, (not always in a positive way). If your sure he's ready, then just start out as you usually would and brush your hand against his crotch area (not to noticably) to make sure hes hard. If he is, go for it, it should feel pretty natural, and thats if your ready or if he is right for you. Also use a condom, or some kind of protection, EVEN for oral!!
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