I am a mother of 2 small kids and I love it. I have however noticed over several years now that alot of people I know come to me for advice, so Im wanting to see if I have what it takes as an advice comlumnist. Maybe add something new to my ever expanding list of things I can do. I hope that I am as useful to you as I have been to my friends.
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For a long time I had a friend who I didn't know so well and wouldn't see very often, who really liked me. He told me he liked me but at the time I really didn't feel the same way. In all honesty, I never thought I'd like him and I told my mom about the situation. I really cared about him and knew that he was really hurt because I didn't like him. So months went by. Then we hung out again, and I felt something small for him that day, but I denied it and tried to make it go away. Then we hung out again. My best friend was with us too but she had to leave early. After that I was alone with him for a few hours. It was awkward at first but we started talking and I felt connected to him. I feel like I started seeing a part of him that I had never seen before. That day I accepted that I liked him and told my friend. So after that we hung out more and I told him that I liked him. I went on a date with him and it was really fun! I mean I was really happy to be with him and everything. So a few days ago he asked me out. But today my mom was talking to me and she brought him up. So she knows something is up with us because we are together a lot now and she basically told me that I should only do something because I want to and not because someone else wants me to. She went on and on and now I'm doubting my feelings for him?!?! But he couldn't have convinced me to like him right? How is that possible? I don't want to doubt my feelings for him but I can't have a boyfriend when I'm not sure how I feel about him. Maybe if I explain it to her I'll feel better but I don't know. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you. (link)
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Haha, thats cute, I have a very similar situation with my husband =). When he first started asking me out I wanted NOTHING to do with him, it took him asking me out for a week straight for me to finally say yes hoping that he would shut up and leave me alone, lol. 9 yrs later here we are. So I really dont think that just by him saying he had feelings for you that you got them. You said you didn't know him very well and you didn't see him very often. Well guess what you have feelings for him b/c your compatible with him. Don't listen to your mom, she just wants whats best for you, and without being in your shoes she doesn't really know the situation. I say enjoy your new boyfriend, have fun and most importantly follow your heart, never second guess it. Good luck, I wish you the best!
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I am 17, My son's bio father is 18 (John), My fiance is 19 (Nate) and my son is 2.
I am going to first list the reasons why my son's bio father isn't allowed to see him.
*When my son was a baby baby he never woke up with him in the middle of the night he just ignored him.
*I have a police report filled against my sons fathers father for saying he was going to preform a sexual act on my son.
*My sons father made the same comment and called him a BAS****
*We had an agreement of him seeing the baby every other weekend and him helping pay for diapers and milk, etc. and two months came around he never helped at all i was providing food and milk for my son.
*He brought him to my house after the weekend, snot running down his face, his feet were black and he was all sticky. thats when i drew the line. and stopped letting him over there.
*he tried to have his sisters jump me and take the baby the police told me to move so now instead of ohio im in missouri.
Which now he wants something to do with him son and trys to call my phone etc.
I am engaged and when married i want my son to have my fiances middle and last name.
I dont have regrets but is my reasons good enough reasons to why i am doing this to better my son. thank you for your advice!
PS. my fiance raises my son as if he is his own child, plays with him, feeds, changes him, calls him son, etc. (link)
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I personally think that every child should have his/her biological parents in their life, only because of what I went through with mine. Eventually growing up your going to have to face the fact that your fiance isn't his biological father. I completely understand why you want to do what you want to do, a dead beat father is the worst. The only way that your going to be able to do this right now is by changing your number (so baby daddy can't call you) and then legally changing your sons name. Now if your baby daddy isn't on the birth certificate you can have your fiance adopt your son which makes things a little easier, if he is on the birth certificate, your gonna have to get him to sign his rights away. When it comes to kids and their parents its a very sticky situation. I know you want whats best for your son and I can also tell that you have tried with his father and at some point realized that it wasn't best for your son to be in his fathers life. I want you to know that this is a person who your son will eventually want to get to know on his own, and when that happens you have to let him make the decision for himself. For now its wonderful your putting him first. I would also suggest being completely honest with your son about the situation while he is growing up, please please please, don't bad mouth his father just explain to him what happened and why you chose to do what you did. That way your not hiding anything from him, and he wont have a reason to resent you (not saying he will, just talking from personal experience) Good luck, hope everything works out for you and your son.
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Hi I am 16.f. My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. He is my first true love, and everyone says 'youll never forget your first love' and everything, like our relationship will never last. But what if I TRULY think he is the only one I could ever be with. I know I am young, and of course I wouldn't get married now, and I have time to think about it but on one hand I can't imagine a future with anyone else, but on the other hand EVERYONE seems to think that just because I have never loved anyone else means I wont last long with him?? Is it possible that I just happened to find the perfect guy right off the bat? Has anyone had an experience like mine?? (link)
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Yes it is very possible to have already met the one. But instead of worrying about the future, or what might happen, focus on the right now. The time you guys are spending together now is more important. Also the feelign of not being with another guy ever is a common feeling when ur with the person you love, and if you guys ever broke up then you would move on from that feeling. Right now though all that you need to worry about or focus on is being together and being happy. Sont let anyone make you second guess the relationship you have with your bf, for 1 they dont know him like you do, and for 2 they aren't in the relationship with you. Good luck hun, many years of happiness to you and your love.
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will try and be as brief as possible.
OK so I have been with my BF now (we're gay) for 2 years nearly and we live together in Sydney, Australia. I emmigrated from London in 2002 and since then I have not been back to see friends or family. This year (in June) I am desperate to go back for 3-4 weeks as a reunion and also to meet my cousin who I have never met.
The problem is I want to do this trip on my own for these reasons:
1) I will be staying with family/friends and it wont be possible for us both to stay (not many old people are really happy about 2 guys sharing a bed etc)
2) I am short on funds, in that I can really only afford the flight, some spending money, but I certainly couldnt afford to stay in hotels for 3-4 weeks.
3) I will be going round to friends i havent seen, some in 10 years or more, and we will be discussing things/people/teachers/events that he would have no idea about - it would be v boring for him.
4) As its my 1st trip back in 7 years, i kinda wanna be selfish - i dont wanna be constantly worrying about what he also might want to do. The time is limited and it probably wont happen for a long time and so I really just want to do what I want to do.
5) We tend to argue a lot during normal day to day life - travelling overseas with someone can be stressful and I dont wanna have to deal with arguments with someone constantly while on holiday.
The thing is that he REALLY really wants to go... he said he wants to see my heritage, the people/places i grew up with etc etc. He said that we could stay in hotels but first of all I WANT to stay with my family and also i dont really think he has the money to cover all of that, even though he said he does. This has caused massive fights and neither one of us are able to back down.
I think the main reason he wants to go is that he is quite insecure and couldnt handle not knowing where i was or who i was with or what i was doing. Also there is a bit of envy involved maybe.
Does anyone have any advice on how I could handle this situation?
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Ok well I understand where your coming from. I personally would just let him know that since you haven't been to see your family in many years that the first trip back you would like to go by yourself, let him know that once you guys have more money that you can go together. If he really cares about you he should understand that you would like to visit your family alone for the first time in many years. If your family doesn't know that you are with him, explain to him that you need to see how they handle the relationship first before bringing him, if they know and understand, then maybe tell them its not something they are real comfortable with and need some time to get used to. I would let him know what you said in here about spending time with them and not having to worry about what he wants to do. This trip is for you to get back in touch with people you haven't seen in a long time, not to see the sites. Im sure if you explain to your boyfriend that thats all you want to do, and that you can go back with him another time he will understand. Bottom line is if this is something you want to do alone then he needs to respect that, but if you offer another trip it might make things a little easier for you this one. Good luck, hope it helps. If you need anything else let me know.
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i love my b.f "ted" of 5 months but im not IN love with him. and this other guy "ken". before me and my bf i was talking to ken alot and he was the sweetest, unselfish, most consideriate guys i've ever met. we were talking bout being more then friends but then his phone broke. so we dont talk or see each other ever. and i think im in love with him. i just miss him so much! i have this feeling that im supposed to be with him. If extra info needed just ask. Please help. Im desperate. thank you (link)
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Well if your inlove with ken then I would try to find a way to get in contact with him. Once you have contacted him let him know that you have feelings for him, see if he feels the same. If he does then let ted down gently and see where life takes you with the other guy. But the most important thing is getting back in contact with him before you make any moves with ted. Good luck I hope this helps, if you need anything else just let me know.
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how do you know when you're in love? (link)
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You know your in love when all you think about is that person, when your with that person and it feels like you are the only 2 people in a room of 500, when you feel like you dont want to be with another person in your life, the feeling you get when your eyes meet from across a room, and the best one...... if you get the biggest grin on your face and start to blush a little just from thinking about them. Thats when you know your in love.
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I've been with my current boyfriend for almost two months now, and he's a really nice guy, and he is very thoughtful and emotional. I just don't think there's much of a connection between us. I've had a few other boyfriends before, and whenever I am with him, I don't feel the way I think I should...I don't feel attracted to him, I guess is what I'm saying. But I feel guilty dumping him because he is an amazing boyfriend. He buys the best presents and says the sweetest things to me. So, I'm wondering, is it worth it to dump him and hope someone that makes me feel the way I think I should comes along? Or should I just be happy with what I have? (link)
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Sometimes it takes more then 2 months to get to know someone. I dont know how much time you guys spend getting to know each other but spending time together or talking on the phone for hours is always great in the early stages of a relationship. You also have to keep in mind that the longer your with someone the more you kinda grow together, so I would give it a little more time see where it goes, and if its not getting better then dont feel bad for wanting that one guy that makes ur heart stop when your eyes meet his. That guy is there its just a matter of when. Back to this current guy though, you said you dont feel attracted to him... Ask yourself this.. why did you start dating him to begin with? Im sure it wasn't because he bought you nice gifts or anything like that. So if you know the answer to that question and that answer has changed somehow in the past 2 months it might be worth moving on. Follow your heart and not your mind. Your heart will always lead you in the write direction. Good luck
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sorry in advance if this is to much info haha its so weird writing this but whatever, i really need to know..
so im 16/f and my bf says he wants me to lick his ass haha i know that sounds really weird but yeah. What i wanna know is like how to do it right. Like i guess id be on my knees giving him a bj and then i'd want to go from that to his ass but like you cant really lick a guys as from a front can you? so i guess im asking how to switch from a bj to a rim job... and i looked up positions to do this online and what i found was either on a bed (which wouldnt work it would be either in or outside of a car) or like with him bent over and that wouldnt work either cuz bending over would make him feel like the bitch haha. and also jw how do you give a really good rimjob? and is it like gross? haha thanks lol sorry this is so weird (link)
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Ok, I myself have never given a rimjob but I know people who have. First off let me say that I hope your being safe with everything your doing together. Also, you want to make for sure that HE IS CLEAN before you do it. And if you can only do it in or around a car then there is a way to get around this. First I wouldn't ask him to bed over, but he should be able to move the passanger seat forward a little and he should be able to lay down in the back seat. If he does that then there should be room for you to sit on your knees on the floor. From there have him "spread eagle" so to speak and that will make it easier for you to go from the shaft to his anus. Now for the rim job depending on what he is wanting you to do depends on the comfort level of both. If you dont feel comfortable doing this then I wouldn't personally, but if you do feel comfortable then you need to decide how far your willing to go. If he just wants you to lick it, then you basically just run your tongue around that hole in a circular motion. If he wants a little more then you would stick ur tongue in the hole not all the way just enough for him to feel it (which wouldn't be much). I hope this helps, good luck.
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