I am a 17 year old senior living in Chicago. When I go off to college i plan on majoring in psychology. This is because i am always told that i give great advice. I am a determined and willing person. I answer any and every question with care and i always give my true opinion. I put myself in that persons situation and answer the question with what ever i would do. I am trustworthy and i never give up.
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Location: Chicago
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Age: 17
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i've never touched myself and im grossed out by the vagina and i don't really know how to masturbate so i don't wanna mess anything up down there by trying....i kinda want my boyfriend to finger me but i don't know if it will hurt or anything...ive tried clitoris stimulation when i was dry humping my boyfriend i guess it stimulated it? is that normal? and my other question is, is being grossed out by my own vagina normal?
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well thinking that your vagina is gross is kind of not normal but yet it is. You might not have gotten in touch with your sexual side yet. When getting fingered by your boyfriend, it should not hurt if he uses only 1 and does not just force it in you but it also depends on your body. If you try it and it does not feel right then tell him to stop. Don't be ashamed because alot of woman don't feel comfortable touching themselves. If you use tampons then you shouldn't really feel that uncomfortable.
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okay, so I am a 17 year old girl and a virgin. I've been in two relationships, only one of which I made out with the guy. Whenever we talked about sex he said that the fact that I was a virgin attracted him. I don't understand why he would say that. Do guys really think being with a virgin is attractive, it seems to me like it would be worse because, well... we have no experience. (link)
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Yes guys do think that is attractive because they like being the only one. They like to know that you don't just give it up to any and everyone.They like having a girl who knows what she wants and not having any experience is partly the good thing for them. Most guys want to be in control when it comes to sex and you not having any experience can help them with that. But if you plan on giving it up to your guy, make sure that he is trustworthy and able to treat you with respect and like a woman before, during, and after the sexual encounter.
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Hello, I missed my period for last month and I don't know why. I have a steady boyfriend but we haven't had sex, he has fingered me though, only once this month,and that was after I was already late. But when we do those things I always go first and then I do him second, with my pants on and wash my hands.
I'm responsible for my actions and the dangers. I just don't understand, it does not seem possible, it seems more possible that I got pregnant from a toilet seat than my own boyfriend.
I had messed up my month of birth control, so I only took like a weeks worth. Could that have done something to my cycle? I am also stressed with school.
Is there any other reasons I could have missed my period? (link)
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well stress is a major part and depending on your age your period is going to be irregular for a while but just relax and it will come in time but also by you being late and your boyfriend fingering you it is possible that you have pushed your period back a little trust me i know from experience lol
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my boyfriend used to finger me for how many times, ang im wondering if im still virgin? am i? (link)
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yes you are still a virgin because your hymen is not broken and a penis has not entered your body. Until then you are a virgin.
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OK well I'm 16/f and I have a new boyfriend who I really like and both of us are really happy to be together. The problem is that we don't go to the same school so that really limits the frequency of us being able to see eachother. I wish I could see him more, but the fact is that I can't because there are certain things, like going to his house alone, that my parents are probably not exactly okay with. I haven't told them that we are dating, because I don't know how they will react. I'm not sure if that would make them more reluctant to letting us see eachother because they'll think something will happen between us, or if it will give me more freedom to date him. My parents are reasonable but still strict. The thing is that my boyfriend is really missing me and making it clear that he really wants to see me. I don't want him to be really upset that we can't see eachother more. I just need some advice on how to make this work in the long run, for both of us. Thank you :) (link)
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if your parents trust you enough they wont have a problem with you dating him but then you can also compromise. Get in good with his family and get him in good with your family that way you guys can be trusted to visit each others homes while parents are still there and then you both can be trusted to hang out alone. You guys might have to tell a little white lie everynow and then. But 16 is the natural dating age and your parents should already be prepared andready to deal with it. Talk it over with them and see what the compromise can be.
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so i have this friend 'jane'
&&her mom does && does && does for her.
she does everythinq she says.
i mean i quess you could call her mom a sort of 'push over?'
then my friend [13years old) starts screaminq && pouts.
im like wtf dude?
i tell her to chill out ; butt she acts like thats okay for a thirteen year old qirl to do.
its almost like when you see a qirl in a movie yell at her mom.
she trys that butt she looks ridiculous.
what do i tell her so she can stop makinq a complete fool of her ; her mom ; && me in public? (link)
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well for 1 it is nothing that you can do but try and show her how ridiculous she acts and just stop hanging out with her whenever her mother is hanging with you. The way her mother raised her is the cause not you. Her mother needs to show her that she is in control not jane. Maybe you should send an anonymous letter to her mom and give them both a wake up call if you disagree with me just try and explain the situation to your friend gently and see where it goes from there
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16/f
Two weeks ago I invited 7 camp friends for a dinner party which I had on Friday. One of these people is a guy I like who worked in the same group as me and my best friend this past summer at camp (he sort of knew I like him, [long story] and I'm not sure if he still thinks I like him but he might, & I'm pretty sure he didn't like me back but everything worked out cause we talked about it and we'e still friends even though it was sort of awkward for a couple days). I sent an email invitation to all the people I was inviting in the same message on Facebook so I wouldn't have to send a bunch of different emails. People were sending messages back & forth within the message so I know he saw this invitation. Everybody answered within about 4-5 days after I sent it except for him. I sent him a separate message a week after I invited everybody asking if he was coming, and he never answered. Two days before the party, I asked my best friend to ask him, and he never answered her, and he was online all day so I'm sure he saw it. Some of my other friends and my cousin advised me not to say anything else to him, saying if he didn't end up coming it was his loss, or I'd just be pissing him off if I kept bothering him. He didn't show up last night. I briefly checked AIM during the night several times when nothing much was going & saw that he was on AIM, not away or idle, each time I checked. When I told some of my camp friends about it they were surprised saying that that's not like him, and I do agree, because he is a really, really nice person, we're still friends, and we always had fun working together during camp (we haven't talked much since camp ended, but we're still friends). I was also confused because I invited him to my birthday party a month ago that he legitimately wasn't able to come to, but said something to me about it. I'm very confused and disappointed about why he ignored my invitation, didn't show up, and sat on the computer all day instead. I know he doesn't hate me and we're friends, and I'm sure he would've wanted to see other camp people too. What might be a possible reason someone would do that? Should I confront him?
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if it bothers you that much you should comfront him in the nicest way possible. amd maybe he wasn't on the computer all day he might have never logged out. but if he still dont respond just forget about it because the day is over and gone. there will probably be future times that you guys all can hong out again. this is nothing to stress about.
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Okay so this guy doesn't have the same personality as most guys i've been with or liked..so i'm not really sure how to like get his attention. I don't really know him that well he's hung out with me and my friends like once but like i'm..interested in him? I don't have a crush on him or anything cause i really don't know him that well..i hope this makes sense lol. But how do i get his attention??
Or really how do you get any guys attention lol especially if you like see them in the hallway (link)
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the best thing to do is to tell him that you are interested without speaking to him directly. this sounds wierd but you have to use your eyes and your smile. If you see a guy in the hallway that you like make sure he sees you when you do this but look at him with the flirtiest look that you have smile and then glance away. this always works when i do it and this way it draws him in to you instead of you going after him in result of making a fool of yourself. be outgoing but hard to get. take control at all times and make sure that he falls head over hills for you.
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Hi im thirteen & i have these two guy friends that are older then me like one 16 and the others 17 . And they wanna hang out with me . But im not sure if i wanna hangout with them cause im younger and + my mom probally wouldnt aprove of me hanging out with them once she heres there ageses . Everytime they ask me to hangout with them i always have to make up an excuse that i cant that im grounded or something like that ... & there both nice . But i don't know what to do . ?
should i lie and hangout with them and sneak around or should i just keep putting them off . Please help ! Im in a giant state of confusion & id apreciate it greatley .
- torii babiiee * (link)
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if you feel that it is creepy for them to want to hang out with you then dont hang out with them. either tell them the truth on how you feel or lie and say that your mom forbids you to hang out with them. but if you get a perfectly good vibe from these boys then maybe you can hang out with them as long as you have other friends to back you up just in case trouble occurs.
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Hey, im 16f.
You know how when you have a best friend and you tell eachother you will never let a guy come between your friendship? Well, what if your 'friend' totally dumped you as a friend for a guy... and on top of that, this guy she dumped you for is your brother! .. :/ What would you do? Obviously she never was my friend to begin with if she would do this. (link)
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i totally agree with you. this person might have not been your friend to begin with. not trying to start any drama but maybe she was using you to get to your brother or maybe she does not know how to manage having a boyfriend and a best friend. Talk to her and see what the deal is. But come to her gently or drama will start.
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3 or 4 weeks ago, this is a long story, i'll try and make it short. My friend(no longer) touched me in very inapropriate places. My mom thought she was cool by letting me go with him places, im 15 and a half, and he is 18. Thts illegal right? And I didnt really want him to touch me, I was scared, and we were alone, and i was afraid if I tried to get away, he'd hurt me, and if I stopped hangning out with him, he would come and get me, or something. And I just told me mom..I was so afraid, but she realizes tht my so called friend was playing her. She feels horribly bad, but we both cant decide if we should tell my dad. For one thing, my dad is a police officer. Second, my dad already hated my so called friend and offered to arrest him before. And the guy is really creepy, who touched me. He was a ponytail on the back of his head, and is just plain...looks like a child molestor. I was so stupid, talking to him, txting him, hanging out with him, i dont know why i continued to do things with him. He even asked me to have sex and brought condoms on night, when it was dark, he pulled into the parking lot at a nearby lake in some place i didnt know and parked the car. And of course I said hell no, im not on pills, condoms break, hes ugly, im scared, im smarter than this, i dont want to be pregnant, bingo. I wanted to go home. And if I tell my dad, that hes touched me in "wrong" places, my dad WILL arrest him and put him in jail. And I'll have to go to a testimony/trial. And I have been stupid and have been giving his phone number to random people on the internet and my friends, to call him or txt him, saying tht hes a creeper, or giving it to random people, one which sent a picture of their own penis to him, which wasnt entirely my fault, because my friends were over. Is that considered phone harrasment? Im so scared way beyond belief. i live in Ohio (link)
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well if he did not have sexual intercourse in any way using fingers,a penis,etc. then it is not rape. it is in fact sexual harrassment and he can get reported. i think that you should sit down with your mom and dad and tell him and ask him what will happen. But with the phone thing it was not as bad as what he did to you, but you could have just been a little better because you basically stooped down to his level. but if he knows or find out that those are all your friends who has been harrassing him and if you think you might be in danger then tell your dad before any thing happens. Be safe.
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so im 18/f
i have friends, but its that i commute to college, and i only talk to like two of my friends from high school.
i've been talking to this girl, emily. she use to go out with my cousin. she is in 9th grade though, in high schoool. i'm a freshman collge. the thing is, she gets me. she is the only one who understands whats going on in my life, because she is going through something similar too. i just feel weird hanging out with her though. i dont want people to be like wow she is hanging out with a freshman from high school, you know? but i love the girl, she is like becoming one of my close friends! like i said, i can trust her and i know she wont judge me. thats hard to find. but in my mind, i always feel like people think i dont have friends and i'm a loser for hanging out with a freshman. and i mean i really want to hang out with her, she is a nice girl and so what am i to say? oh i cant hang out with you because your like four years younger than me? NO! i want to hang out with her, but i feel stupid at the same time.
any thoughts, suggestions, comments, ANYTHING!? (link)
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well i think that it is a good thing that you found a friend that is younger than you. you shouldnt be ashamed because the best friend that she is becoming is hard to find. no matter what age you will only have a few great friends in life dont lose that over an age difference
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I'm a 15 year old girl.
So to start off you must know that according to people in my school I'm in the "popular" clique. It kinda sucks because whenever I like a guy they think I'm joking or pulling a prank just because of my "status". It really sucks because now people are like you must have really high standards because you don't like anyone! Which is totally not true it's pretty much the exact opposite! Someone please help me, what should I do? (link)
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well show people that you are not a cold hearted girl and tell the guy that you really like him but make sure he does not just like you for your status
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ive been trying to get a little further with my boryfriend. we have been going out for a while and i dont mean to sound sexual but well to bad. like i want to give him a hj thats all i ever done before but i want to give him a bj too, so say im at the point where hes all "ready" lol what do i do now?? how would i go about to performing either bj or hj? (link)
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well start kissing him and take control while kissing him feel for his manhood. It will probably suprise him a bit. Once you get past the kissing point then start off with a little hand action and then go into the bj
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im a really shy and quiet person and im really not confident at all. i just get really nervous talking in front of a big group and even when im only talking to one person i just never know what to say and it gets all awkward...
at my school im known as the quiet and awkward girl...
what do i do to start being confident and stop getting nervous around people and in front of a large group or even in front of just one person?
how do i stop being so quiet shy and awkward??
how do i know what to say all the time? i just never know what to say and can't come up with anything without sounding boring or retarded or just saying oh ok...
please help!! (link)
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in order to build your confidence continuously tell yourself how beautiful and smart you are. Not only tell but believe it and others will too. Never just walk up to a crowd of people and start talking take it one person at a time. Speak up and speak out say hi, hows it going, what's your name. Don't be afraid to take a little rejection, if anyone rejects your nice jesture then that is someone who you wouldnt want to be friends with any way. But dont be to bold either because you will scare people away. Get noticed in GOOD ways and people will start talking to you. Being a little akward is not always a bad thing embrace your akwardness you will be suprised at the response you get.
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