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Invitation Ignored
16/f
Two weeks ago I invited 7 camp friends for a dinner party which I had on Friday. One of these people is a guy I like who worked in the same group as me and my best friend this past summer at camp (he sort of knew I like him, [long story] and I'm not sure if he still thinks I like him but he might, & I'm pretty sure he didn't like me back but everything worked out cause we talked about it and we'e still friends even though it was sort of awkward for a couple days). I sent an email invitation to all the people I was inviting in the same message on Facebook so I wouldn't have to send a bunch of different emails. People were sending messages back & forth within the message so I know he saw this invitation. Everybody answered within about 4-5 days after I sent it except for him. I sent him a separate message a week after I invited everybody asking if he was coming, and he never answered. Two days before the party, I asked my best friend to ask him, and he never answered her, and he was online all day so I'm sure he saw it. Some of my other friends and my cousin advised me not to say anything else to him, saying if he didn't end up coming it was his loss, or I'd just be pissing him off if I kept bothering him. He didn't show up last night. I briefly checked AIM during the night several times when nothing much was going & saw that he was on AIM, not away or idle, each time I checked. When I told some of my camp friends about it they were surprised saying that that's not like him, and I do agree, because he is a really, really nice person, we're still friends, and we always had fun working together during camp (we haven't talked much since camp ended, but we're still friends). I was also confused because I invited him to my birthday party a month ago that he legitimately wasn't able to come to, but said something to me about it. I'm very confused and disappointed about why he ignored my invitation, didn't show up, and sat on the computer all day instead. I know he doesn't hate me and we're friends, and I'm sure he would've wanted to see other camp people too. What might be a possible reason someone would do that? Should I confront him?
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something may have been bothering him, being the only guy, etc. there could be a million and one reasons why he didn't come or respond. maybe iming him on aim next time he is on.. like Hey, what are you doing? or How are you or something to that.
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Maybe he just didn't want to be the only guy at the party. There could have been a lot of reasons that he didn't want to go. It sounds like he is really a nice guy who doesn't want to hurt you, and he isn't sure the two of you are capable of being just friends. i wouldn't "confront" him, but there wouldn't be anything wrong with you going up and saying something like, "I wish you would have been able to come, but I understand not wanting to be the only guy in a bunch of girls"
Sorry-I can't figure out how to put this on a separate box. I would come right out and ask him what's up. It seems odd that he wouldn't have replied, even after you sent the second email directly and he avoided answering your friend. Just approach him in a friend-like manner and ask him if everything's OK with the two of you. His weird behavior could be for any number of reasons,and you'll never know if you don't ask.
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if it bothers you that much you should comfront him in the nicest way possible. amd maybe he wasn't on the computer all day he might have never logged out. but if he still dont respond just forget about it because the day is over and gone. there will probably be future times that you guys all can hong out again. this is nothing to stress about.
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