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i dont understand
i dated a guy for 2 years. i was in love with him. he slowly changed a lot into his his best friend (a heartless player) and he broke up with me but would still talk to me and tell me he love me and then he would say he didnt and then he would say he did ect. he basiclaly fucked with my head lot. its been 7 months and i havent talked to him in 2 weeks and im starting to realize that hes a terrible guy now. hes completely changed.. and i dont know why i continue trying to be with him? i guess whenver he talks to me i think its because he misses me and wants to make things work again, but i realize that hes just different and doesnt really give a shit. hes fucking heartless. im starting to actually be over it and ive finally realized what a terrible guy he is after all hes done (theres so much more) but for some reason its lyk, i get that hes a bad guy, but hes all i think about? i understand hes not the one for me, why cant i get over this?! i dont want to be with him anymore so why can i not get over it?!! ughhhhhh!!!!!!!!
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Hey doll I get it... it's LOVE right?
You can't get over it because it's not just someone you dated, it's someone you let into your life. Now... there is a void in your life. Your best friend is gone. There is no one to call on Christmas, no one to take with you to a wedding, and oh God don't get me started on Valentine's Day. You have been dealing with the void, but from time to time, something reminds you of him and it's like reopening the wound a little bit.
When you think about him, you seem to remember all these good things about him, maybe even some that never happened. (I often remember slow dancing with my ex in a jazz club, and I KNOW that's never occured.)
It feels like... well... like someone died, and there is a pain in heartbreak that is actual physical pain, and the anxiety is almost too much to bear.
Sound familliar?
That's heartache, and dont let anyone tell you it gets easier when it happens. But it is a good thing. For one, you have proven to yourself that you are a good person, you can care about someone more than yourself. Another is that you can learn from this, you know more about the habits of jerks than you did before. You know what to look for in the next guy... and trust me... if you got HIM... you can get another.
It may not seem like it now, but you are better off, on your own, no one to have to check in with or anything. Hell you can go to a movie tonight if you wanted, or chat up that nice guy in line at the coffee shop and not feel guilty.
Give it another 7 months... then send him a thank you card for letting you free.
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you never forget the people you were in love with. that pretty much explains it all. over time, they pop into your head less and less, it's not that you are still hung up on him, it's just that he changed from the person you once loved, and you're thinking about the person he was not the person he is or became. this will fade over time and eventually he won't be in your head anymore. but you'll never forget him, if you loved him. I can't stress that fact enough. you are probably also still hurt over this and his change, feelings like that don't go away that quickly, so the lingering feelings are probably still raw and in your mind, but trust me, give it some time, it gets better :] talk to other guys and get your mind off him by particiating in different activities with your friends and such, trust me, i knoww haha :] good luck. xxo hope i helped.
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