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can't touch myself..
i've never touched myself and im grossed out by the vagina and i don't really know how to masturbate so i don't wanna mess anything up down there by trying....i kinda want my boyfriend to finger me but i don't know if it will hurt or anything...ive tried clitoris stimulation when i was dry humping my boyfriend i guess it stimulated it? is that normal? and my other question is, is being grossed out by my own vagina normal?
16/f
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I'm kinda in the same boat as you. I have never maturbated in my life, and I'm in the middle of figuring out how I would really feel if my boyfriend fingered me, nevermind my own self. I can't tell you exactly what it feels like because I haven't experienced it, but I have used a tampon, which doesn't hurt, it's just a little uncomfortable when you're putting it in, if you've ever used one. If you think about a tampon, it's about the size of a male finger, so think about how the feeling would be about putting 1 tampon in or 2 tampons and so on. To some people, I'm sure it's a little painful, but to others, it's just like putting in a tampon which is really no big deal.
Being grossed out by your vagina is normal. I can't say I know many girls who are very "vagina friendly" and talk openly about it... I know "down there" makes for an awkward conversation and just thinking about it kinda weirds me out a bit, to be honest. But girls shouldn't feel grossed out by it. The vagina is very clean and, yeah, it may smell every once and a while, but so do your armpits lol. I hope my answer helped you, good luck, girl!
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well thinking that your vagina is gross is kind of not normal but yet it is. You might not have gotten in touch with your sexual side yet. When getting fingered by your boyfriend, it should not hurt if he uses only 1 and does not just force it in you but it also depends on your body. If you try it and it does not feel right then tell him to stop. Don't be ashamed because alot of woman don't feel comfortable touching themselves. If you use tampons then you shouldn't really feel that uncomfortable.
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It's not normal to think your genitals are gross. Where did you get this perception of them? Were you taught by some adult (likely parents) that they were dirty or that touching them is?
The vagina is actually really interesting when it comes to body parts. First of all, it's the birth canal and secondly it's the only organ on the human body that cleans itself. There's nothing dirty about it. It's quite the opposite.
There is nothing you can do unless using sharp objects to mess yourself up down there. Masturbation is safe, normal and pretty much universal with teens of both sexes of all ages. Statistically they say it's 90% of males and 78% of females that do. However, that may be misleading as females are more discreet about doing it.
I would for now putting fingering on the back burner. It can hurt if he's rough and doesn't know what he's doing. You wouldn't be able to guide him so it could be a negative experience. You need to learn how to do this alone before letting him.
At this site it's a policy that we don't give out "how to" info on anything of sexual nature to protect minors. I'm sure if you used Internet resources or read books about sexuality that you would find info on all of this.
Sex educator Sue Johanson who has a show on The Oxygen Network called "Talk Sex" used to do lectures/sex-ed classes for teens pre-teens. She always suggested that female teens and pre-teens who are grossed out by their own genitals look at a medical diagram of them.
Then she suggested to take a mirror to see them and learn their function. It may help you see that there isn't anything gross going on 'down there".
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I think most girls are grossed out by their own vagina when they are younger because there is so much going on down there. It is always leaking out gross white stuff, and let's face it, it can have a funny smell. The good part is, as you get older the white stuff slows down and the smell evens out. Number one thing you should do is get to know your own vagina. Take a mirror and really check it out. I'm serious. The vagina is really actually a miraculous thing, and guys can't get enough of it. One thing about the clitoris. If you kind of pull it apart a little bit you will notice that there is a teeny bit of white stuff that seems to build up there. This can smell pretty funky. Make it a point to clean it when you are in the shower.
You will not mess anything up while masturbating, although if you constantly give yourself an orgasm through clitoral stimulation it could be hard to climax any other way.
Fingering usually feels pretty good, and it doesn't usually hurt unless the guy has long fingernails. Most of the time it is going to take clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, and many girls never have one through penatration until well into their 20's if at all. Just remember that everything is normal. If you happen to like things one way, it's normal. If you can't get into things another, it's normal. As long as you feel comfortble with what is going on, everything will be a learning experience. I sometimes wonder if girls being grossed out when they are younger by their own vagina isn't just natures way of making sure the species procreates. If we weren't grossed out by our own vagina when we were beginning our sexual experience we would probably get with other girls because that is who we usually hang around with.
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