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how to say no!
ok so tomorrow im going to the movies with this kid. i was going to have my mom drop me off, but the kid is taking the bus so he is going to get dropped off at the bus stop about ten minutes away. so im going to drive so i can go pick him up at the bus stop. but now, apparently the bus can drop him off at the theater. but he told me to "still take my car." so i know he is going to try to 'get with me' in the car. i dont know how i feel about this. i dont really want to do it. but hes deffintily going to try. i dont know how to say no or stop him. i could just say no, but he's very persuasive and he might try to convince me that i want to. but i know that i will regret it afterwards. please tell me how to get out of this situation. i do want to go out with him, i just dont want things to move too fast.
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well, there is the easy way, which is not taking the car, but you're going to have to deal with it sooner or later. I think you are really confused because you fluctuate between not wanting to do it and not knowing if you want to. This definately means that you shouldn't, period. The best way to deal with it is to tell him how you feel. Say that you like him and you want to go out with him, but your not the kind of person who can move that fast. He may hem and haw and try to convince you and complain and all of that, but in the end if you stick to your guns he will actually respect you all the more, even though he would never tell you that. Also, if you decide to kiss him during the movies, or something, you should definately let him know that it isn't going any further then so he doesn't get all wound up. I hope that things go OK. In the best of all possible circumstances you can let him know where it stands before the movie so that way you can sit back and enjoy rather than worry about it the whole time.
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Well, if you don't like him doing this, then you should TELL him. If you already told him this and he still tries, he's obviously not worth your time. You deserve better than that.
Call him before this and tell him. If he shrugs it off, say you're cancelling the "date". And if you go and he forces anything on you, kick him out of your car and you drive away and tell your parents. Or just avoid him. You shouldn't let him take advantage of you. Don't treat yourself this way. There are plenty of sweet dudes out there.
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He has no car and he's that persuasive? He sounds like my drummer...
Tell him something came up at home and even though your parents wanted you to stay home, you have to do that right after the movie because you didn't want to break your date...
and tell him not to be late to practice, we have a show this weekend
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