Well, I'm on my way to become a mental health counselor. I like to help people, and I think almost everyone deserves a second chance at happiness. I've been through alot of things in life, and I don't regret it. It's given me experience to help others. I don't have a particular religion, because I believe I do know the difference between right and wrong, and how to lead a good life whilst committing good deeds. Don't be shy to ask me a question :)
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Last Update: January 12, 2010
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About a year back (maybe longer, my memory is fuzzy) I met a girl online. I won't say her name, it's not really relevant. Now, I know the first thing that normally comes to mind when you see 'I met a girl online' is that I'm a sucker and she wanted money. It wasn't like that. I know it for a fact. For the longest time, thing were going great. We had went out for about 6 months and in the time had decided to go steady and had even 'said' we loved each other. Then, totally out of the blue, she broke up with me. I still have no idea why. Even looking back on some recent conversations I couldn't see it. She wanted to stay 'friends', but she stopped getting on to chat with me. Any conversations started were by me. It was like she didn't mind talking to me, but she didn't really want to either. I remember being as funny as I could to her, and as nice as well, but I still have no idea why she broke it off. Even after I asked her, she refused to give me a real answer and instead pawned me off with fake excuses instead of a REAL reason. I would like to be friends with her again, maybe to not only figure out why she broke it off, but also just to be friends. I suspect it had something to do with the difficulty in distance and probably another man where she lived even though she never told me of any. So, what do you think I should do? (link)
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No, I actually do understand where you're coming from. I had a relationship like that, too. It could be alot of reasons, but the most common would be the difficulty of the distance, another individual of interest in proximity of her, or any other issues she may have been having but was too scared of sharing it with you. She might have been scared of hurting you, or facing the fact that she hurt you. Then again, like I said, it could have been anything. I would suggest perhaps creating a small friendship with her with the possibility of growth, but if that doesn't happen, maybe it's meant to occur as such. She may seem like the 'only one' for you now, but there are so many others out there that can make you just as happy, if not more, than you were in the relationship with this girl. You never really know, so keep your eyes and mind open. You might just have looked over a great chance closer to you. I hope it does work out, but please keep in mind that moving on is a part of life and will happen eventually. Everyone deserves happiness. :)
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I was wondering if any one could tell me their experiences with adopting children (or if you are adopted). Do you feel like there is a "bond" missing? Do you wish they were blood? Things like that...And if you are adopted do you feel like you are missing your biological family? (especially kids who were adopted after like age 2 (so that they remember the process)?
Also, does anyone have any experience adopting kids from an abusive home??
Thanks so much!! (link)
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I have a close friend that went through the foster care system..If you're planning on adopting a child from an abusive home or abusive foster home (unfortunately, alot of them are), then just be prepared to deal with possible drama. Depends on the child, though..Pains me to see how the system can treat children so..
You sound very kind, though. I'm sure any child you adopt can see you have pure intentions. And no, love doesn't always come from blood or "family". If you truly love someone, then they ARE family.
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i am a pear shape and no matter how hard i try, my legs are still unproportionally bigger than my top half. i am still a size zero (sometimes 2) in most jeans but i am really skinny on my top half, like i'm skinnier (from the hips up) than my 12 year old sister and i'm 17. i am 5'6" and weigh 110 pounds. is this an unnattractive shape?
and.. are there any good exercises to make my legs thinner? (i already run, do rowing, and tone them with weight machines at the gym) (link)
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You weigh 110 pounds and you're a size 0-2.
What more can you ask for? Just remember, you should be attracting the right kind of guy that shouldn't ONLY be thinking about your body. You can win him over with your personality as well. I'm sure you're beautiful already. Also, tone down the workout; it looks like you're doing TOO much. I hope everything works out for you.
By the way, some girls would KILL for your body. Everyone has a different body, so be proud for yours. Flaunt your features. :)
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I just wanted to know whether you think I have mis carried or not.
Me and my partner have been trying to concieve for a while, then 2 days before my period was actually due, I came on with only light bleeding, and it was very light in colour, and quite painful, and only last 3 days?
I have read a few different articles on the internet and it seems that what I suffered was a miscarriage.
Whats your opinion? Heres some facts:
1. My period is always on time, never late or early,
2 . Always lasts at least 6 days
3 . Normally very heavy
4 . Normally pain free.
Please help me figure out whether a miscarriage was the case, it does say on a few websites, that many women mistake it to just be a period, but with the symptoms so similar, I beg to differ that its a period. Thank you in advance. (link)
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Actually, some women experience this as a pregnancy symptom.
Nevertheless, you should wait the appropriate amount of days and take a pregnancy test. Based on those results, either negative or positive, go see your doctor about this.
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well to start out my mom is an alcoholic...she benge drinks..meaning she'll go on a month spurt of where all she does is lay in bed and drink. this has hasppened for my whole life..i can't remember a time when it wasnt going on. She is also bipolar..drinking is a symptom of this disease but they diagnosed her seperatly. well my whole also she has kind of isolated me from the world..wanting me to spend all my time with her. I didnt all the time but she made me spend mosto f my childhood with her. i am now 16. she still does this. we have been fighting so hard and i cant even tell her when i have a bf. no matter anyway if i did because she wouldnt let me see him. I have no life partly because of her. We have sat down and had numerous talks and deicusions but ir always goes back to normal. i told her that whe needs to get friends but all she says is that i am her everything and thats how she wants it. I DONT want to be all she has for many reasons. 1. im going to leave and move FAR away...so where is that ging to leave her? and 2.i need a life. I stay in my room most of the time because all she does is yell and scream and call me names...yet she wants me to spend time with her nearly 24/7. I awm so low all the time because of everytning she says to me. I ahve told her awnd talked to her about that 2. she apologizes and its ok for a few days and then it goes right back to it. She takes away all my things whenever i dont do something she asks...or even if i bring home nething lower than a b+ (yes that means ANYTHING lower) im not exagerating one bit. this is what i live with everyday and im so tired of it. i want a normal life. my point is Talking does nothing we have sat down and tried...its like it goes in one ear and out the other with her. i need a way out but i dont know what to do (link)
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Lmao, I'm posting this as an answer to whoever commented on my post to this question. This is not directed to the daughter.
First of all, do you deny any of the above mentioned things your daughter has said about you? Do you realize what kind of life you're leading her through? She's a teenager, she's just a kid. She's seeing her mother binge drink and in all types of situations that are unneccessary to be put through at that age. By the sounds of it, she's depressed. Do you think this just RANDOMLY happened? Don't be so ignorant. Just because you're older doesn't mean you know everything in life. Alas, I don't know what your family has been through, but that has no reference to your daughter's well-being. Does she look/sound happy? Do you ever really look her in the eyes and ask if SHE'S happy instead of only thinking about yourself?
Do you even let her have friends over or let her go out? Do you realize what you're doing is going to have a permanent affect on this girl? And no, I'm sorry, I'm no doctor. But I am getting my masters in mental health counseling, and hopefully a PhD pretty soon. So I think I know a thing or two :)
Stop drinking. Stop choking her. Stop haranguing her for getting a lower grade than a B+ (working with her helps best). Stop and just listen to her words. You obviously don't know what's best for her by the sounds of it.
There's a reason she wants to get away as soon as she can. And if you are what she says you are, then it'll be healthier for her. Do what's best for your daughter. Jesus.
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ok so tomorrow im going to the movies with this kid. i was going to have my mom drop me off, but the kid is taking the bus so he is going to get dropped off at the bus stop about ten minutes away. so im going to drive so i can go pick him up at the bus stop. but now, apparently the bus can drop him off at the theater. but he told me to "still take my car." so i know he is going to try to 'get with me' in the car. i dont know how i feel about this. i dont really want to do it. but hes deffintily going to try. i dont know how to say no or stop him. i could just say no, but he's very persuasive and he might try to convince me that i want to. but i know that i will regret it afterwards. please tell me how to get out of this situation. i do want to go out with him, i just dont want things to move too fast. (link)
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Well, if you don't like him doing this, then you should TELL him. If you already told him this and he still tries, he's obviously not worth your time. You deserve better than that.
Call him before this and tell him. If he shrugs it off, say you're cancelling the "date". And if you go and he forces anything on you, kick him out of your car and you drive away and tell your parents. Or just avoid him. You shouldn't let him take advantage of you. Don't treat yourself this way. There are plenty of sweet dudes out there.
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Theres this guy that likes me that i like back
but the thing is when he asks me a question i dont want to answer, he thinks i dont like him or im mad at him.
Like he wants to spend more time with me and wants to go to my house
but I cant tell him where I live because my mom doesnt let me out of the house at all and Idk they dont allow me around guys, but I dont want to lose him! He just doesnt understand...... (link)
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Hun, he doesn't understand because you won't explain it to him. If he's a decent guy and he actually wants to go to your house (I'm assuming it's to meet your parents) then you should give him a chance. Tell your parents about it as well. How old are you?
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ok so... i'm not like a perfect kid or anything but I'm not a bad one either. I'm 18 years old and I don't drink, do drugs, have sex, nothing. I never have and I don't plan on it. My 15 year old sister on the other hand has been mixed up in just about everything. She even got a tattoo and tried hiding it forever. My mom used to get on her so hard when she knew she was getting high and stuff. It took a huge turn at some point and I just don't know where. She keeps everything about my sister from my dad and it makes me so frustrated. My sister has this 19 year old boyfriend we'll call Dustin. Dustin in 19 years old and a loser. He doesn't have a job or anything. My sister would say she was staying and then go to his house instead.. at first my mom cared and then she just like stopped. she would tell me and my dad she was at her friends when I knew the truth... and thennnn she had the audacity to let him stay here at our house. Well... about 2 weeks later guess who's pregnant.. yep.. my sister. They think they're ready to "have a family".. how can they have a family when neither one has a job or any source of support besides my parents. Dustin is in and out of jail and it disgusts me. My dad goes to sleep every night at about 8:30 and around 945 or so my mom goes to get her from Dustins and guess who has been coming with her every single night?! I know it shouldn't be my problem but it is. I don't feel comfortable in my own house an I get so stressed from having to keep it from my dad. Whenever I try to tell my mom how I feel it turns into how "I think i'm so perfect and how I build off of her screw ups" My mom always makes it sound like i'm a bad kid and i'm tired of it. I am such a good kid compared to her.. and not because I want to be better than her, it's because I respect myself...... please help me, I would appreicate it so much . (link)
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Wow, just wow...I'm sorry to say this but your mother is pretty ignorant. She probably just doesn't know what to do, so she chooses to ignore it and "hope for the best". I understand your stress, and you're right to feel this way. Your mother has no right telling you those things when you approach her about this. You are 18 years old, but I don't know your situation right now. I suggest you approach your sister about this. Tell her your views on her choices thus far, and that you just want the best for her. However, your sister is the only one that can do something about it. Is there any particular reason why you can't tell your father? I'm very sorry you have to go through this, but at least you're old enough to get away from this. If you have a really good friend that would take you in, I suggest you go for it. Otherwise, this is all on your sister's choices. Sometimes, the advice we need to give to the ones we love will hurt them, and us. But it is a feat that needs to be done. Good luck.
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