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Purposing a friendship to my ex-girlfriend
About a year back (maybe longer, my memory is fuzzy) I met a girl online. I won't say her name, it's not really relevant. Now, I know the first thing that normally comes to mind when you see 'I met a girl online' is that I'm a sucker and she wanted money. It wasn't like that. I know it for a fact. For the longest time, thing were going great. We had went out for about 6 months and in the time had decided to go steady and had even 'said' we loved each other. Then, totally out of the blue, she broke up with me. I still have no idea why. Even looking back on some recent conversations I couldn't see it. She wanted to stay 'friends', but she stopped getting on to chat with me. Any conversations started were by me. It was like she didn't mind talking to me, but she didn't really want to either. I remember being as funny as I could to her, and as nice as well, but I still have no idea why she broke it off. Even after I asked her, she refused to give me a real answer and instead pawned me off with fake excuses instead of a REAL reason. I would like to be friends with her again, maybe to not only figure out why she broke it off, but also just to be friends. I suspect it had something to do with the difficulty in distance and probably another man where she lived even though she never told me of any. So, what do you think I should do?
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No, I actually do understand where you're coming from. I had a relationship like that, too. It could be alot of reasons, but the most common would be the difficulty of the distance, another individual of interest in proximity of her, or any other issues she may have been having but was too scared of sharing it with you. She might have been scared of hurting you, or facing the fact that she hurt you. Then again, like I said, it could have been anything. I would suggest perhaps creating a small friendship with her with the possibility of growth, but if that doesn't happen, maybe it's meant to occur as such. She may seem like the 'only one' for you now, but there are so many others out there that can make you just as happy, if not more, than you were in the relationship with this girl. You never really know, so keep your eyes and mind open. You might just have looked over a great chance closer to you. I hope it does work out, but please keep in mind that moving on is a part of life and will happen eventually. Everyone deserves happiness. :)
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