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Guys think they have no chance with me, but they do!
I'm a 15 year old girl.
So to start off you must know that according to people in my school I'm in the "popular" clique. It kinda sucks because whenever I like a guy they think I'm joking or pulling a prank just because of my "status". It really sucks because now people are like you must have really high standards because you don't like anyone! Which is totally not true it's pretty much the exact opposite! Someone please help me, what should I do?
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Intimidation.
That is your foe. Guys don't want to get shot down, and because you're "popular" alot of guys assume that getting shot down is inevitable.
The first thing you can do, is be more aggressive yourself. If you see a guy you like, smile at him and encourage him to talk to you. Give him openings. LOTS of openings. Young teenaged insecure guys can be really dense and really scared.
The line "I really want to go see this movie, but everyone is busy, so I don't have anyone to go with" with a cute pouty face will generally jar even the most frightened of guys.
Learn to use your body language to encourage people.
- Smiling -
Works amazing wonders. A smile is encouraging, a smile lets a guy know that he isn't doing anything so wrong that you're repulsed by him. Give a guy a smile, and it gives him confidence with you.
- Eye contact -
Also works wonders. Eye contact shows both confidence and interest.
Combo move, look a guy in the eyes, and when he looks back, smile. This is a clear "I like you looking at me" signal.
- Teasing -
Teasing is a good ice breaker. Light teasing about inconsequential things can be a great ice breaker. Be careful about the timing on this, because teasing used too much or incorrectly can discourage a guy. The goal of this is to get him to tease you back. This shows he feels more comfy around you. Don't tease until you can hold a conversation with him without it.
- Physical contact -
No, this isnt about sex. This is about comfort. Many guys have an automatic instinct not to touch a girl if they don't know its ok. Again, I don't mean sex, I mean something as simple as a touch on the arm to get his attention, or a hug, or something of that nature. Be careful with hugs, because if you make a guy feel too much like a friend he might back off from hoping for something more than that.
An example, using teasing above. When he teases you back, swat him on the arm lightly and laugh. It gives you an opportunity to break the touch barrier in a casual friendly way.
Same way, when you walk up behind him and want his attention, touch his shoulder or arm when you say hi, don't just keep your distance.
Like I said, its not about sex or anything like that, its about sending messages that he will (even if only slowly) pick up that say "I like it when I'm touching you and vice versa"
- Blunt delivery -
If you've been paying a guy alot of attention for a week or two and still havent gotten asked out, you can work up the courage to drop a painfully obvious hint. I gave an example above, but you can do that one further by simply dropping into the conversation "So are you ever going to ask me out?" and then smiling and giggling or even just a small smile and an embarrassed blush (you probably will do the second without meaning to if it happens) to let him know that no, his opportunity to do so is not lost to him.
Say hi when you see him, pay him attention, smile and generally act like you like being around him. If he doesn't get the message you may have to resort to blunt delivery, but bluntness can be adorable and generally has about a 100% success rate.
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well show people that you are not a cold hearted girl and tell the guy that you really like him but make sure he does not just like you for your status
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IF you really like a guy, make sure that you tell them that you are not joking and prove them wrong if the question you
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prove them wrong and go out with someone! haha especially if its a really nice person who's not all that good looking. Then people will know that your standards aren't way too high. Haha hope that helped.
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