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Why does he keep doing this to me...sorry for the length
I know i have been sending a lot of questions related to this, but right now this is really bothering me and im sorry for bringing it up again.
also i apologize for how long this is going to be
to sum things up, about a month ago i was at my friend's house and her brother who happens to be a freshman was there along with his friend, who i met for the first time that night. we all slept in the basement and watched movies, it was a lot of fun. a week later i realized he liked me, and i liked him too. it was good until he told me he didnt want to go out with me because of basketball, and i did not ask to go out with him so i wasnt sure as to why he said that to me. anyways, tuesday night i told him i was going to my friends house [his friends sister, the house from last time] and i told him he should come but he said he couldnt, he said to go saturday instead because he was going to go saturday. i said okay and was really excited because i thought maybe he liked me again. thursday night he was IMing me and was asking if it would be okay if he made a move on me on saturday and i said yeah. then he asked what i would ler him do and asked if i was prude and i said no im not. he basically was plannning on using me, i know this because first of all he mentioned earlier that he had mixed feelings for me and another girl, the other girl lives at least an hour away..so im not sure how that would work out, but it isnt my buisness. so after he kept asking hor far i would go i asked him your not planning on using me are you.. [obviously a stupud question because he would not say yes, but i wanted him to know i was aware of what he was trying to do..and i dont want to get hurt] he said no im not like that. ill probobly just talk to you, but not a lot because me and [his friend, my friends brother] are going to be hanging out. and i said, we can all hang out togethor.. and then he wrote, yeah i guess. well i gotta go bye
he left me really confused at that point. he also asked my friend on friday night if i liked him and she said she wasnt sure if i did or not, he said he didnt know either and that he would find out saturday night. my friend asked if he had anything planned and he said haha nah. maybe...
well, last night i got to my friends house and he was there with my friends brother. he didnt really talk to me for a long time..it took a while. i was really excited because i thought maybe me and him would do something, because he was almost begging me two days before. well, he stole my phone and ran upstairs with it. i followed him and he ran into the bathroom and tried locking the door. i opened the door and took my phone and was laughing and started walking away. then i started realizing..this was his plan on how to do stuff with me. as soon as i walked away i felt really stupid. and to this minute i wish that i didnt walk away. i wish i stayed with him. because that was my only chance. and i blew it. without even knowing until i walked away...it makes me really sad. anyways, once again, im sorry for the length of this..i just have a lot things to say about it, and i dont know how to express it. well, i was sitting on a couch with my friend in the basment and he came over and put his pillow on my legs and said this is how its gonna work. and then he put his head on his pillow and then his feet on my friend. i wasnt sure if that was a sign or not..i didnt know..then after 5 minutes he just got up and sat at the other couch. i was kind of offended..but whatever. then later my friend and i stole his phone and changed the language to spanish. it was really funny, then he kept asking me to change it back and i said no because i thought it was funny, he did too though. then, he came over, sat between me and my friend, and sat basically, on my foot and right next to me, almost on top of me. that would of been a perfect position for him to kiss me. but his friend was there along with my friend..so i didnt think he wanted to..i really liked it though. but then he got up and sat on the other couch again. i got sad after that again. i thought it was weird how he kept on toying with my emotions like that. and not to mention, he stole my phone 4 times and it was really funny, and i liked it, because i would try and get it from him and grab it but he was so fast. then he would finally give it to me..but then he wouldnt talk to me for a while. it really started confusing me. i did not like it. it also bothered me that he was being very rude about the things me and my friend wanted to do. we went out rented knocked up, fight club, and saw 3. i thought it was going to be fun, but then we asked who wanted to watch knocked up and he goes, that movie, ive seen it so many times ugh. i dont really want to watch it. and i guess that was whatever..then this morning, my friend and i were warching fight club. i sat on the couch that he sat on the whole night, number 1 because i didnt have my contacts in and it was hard to see the screen. number 2, i wanted him to sit next to me. so he came downstaits with his friend, looked around, and sat in a different chair, a single chair. i got offended by that. what makes him think he can just come and snuggle next to me for 5 mnutes but then when i set myself up for it, he just doesnt want to even sit near me. why?! what did i do to make him not like me anymore?/ nobody knows. he also announced that he was texting that other girl he likes, jenna. shes weird anyway..i saw this video of her she recorded..it was weird. and what upset me the most is that he had me right where i THOUGHT he wanted me, and he didnt even take advantage of that, nor did he care. i sort of think he decided he likes the other girl better than me..which also upset me. why wasnt i go enough..im just really hurt and what a letdown he was. making me think he wanted to do all of this stuff with me, and then showing up and barely even talking me. not to mention toying with me and realizing he was in control. it rerally, really hurt me. when i was walking out of my friends house this morning, i saw him and his friend playing basketball. i turned and looked at them, he looked at me for a second but then went back to basketball, he didnt even say bye to me. that hurt. i would really love to know what it was that i did..to make him just not even want to talk to me or even be my friend. im so sorry that this was extremely long
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Well to answer your question, he does want you, but not for the right reasons. He is using you, and from what it sounds like, thats as far as you'll get. Its not wrong to like someone who just wants to tool with you, it happens to people all the time. So dont feel stupid. You sound like a very sweet girl, and i would let go of him FAST! Delete him from your everything, thats right i said EVERYTHING! Including your phone, facebook, myspace, and mind. It will be hard to resist the urge to call him. But by doing this you are taking back your power from him. This whole "relationship" has been a power play. He is just messing with your mind. The good news is, he doesnt like you, OR the other girl. If you like someone that means you care about them and dont want to hurt them. He is hurting you by playing games with your head, trying to get you jealous, and making you feel bad. Mean while he's hanging out and flirting with you-trying to hook up with you, while he has another girl feeling the same way to you. He is obviously to imature and to self-centered to have a relationship at the moment. So my advice, is dont waste your time. Move on, you CAN do so much better, and your worth it. Dont feel bad about not fooling around with him, that was his goal. Let go and hang out with your friends. Be yourself and dont feel the need to over step your bounderies or leave your comfort zone for anybody!
need anymore advice or if you would like to further discuss this, email me:
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You did absolutely nothing wrong. Guys can be idiots a lot of the time and not realize a good thing right in front of them. I say you should move on and find something better because you deserve to be treated way better. And not to be rude but what kind of excuse is "Oh I'm in basketball." That's not a good enough excuse. I wouldn't text him or have anything to do with him for a while. If he gets upset and asks why you won't talk to him tell him your tired of his crap and that if he's lucky in a few months or so you'll consider being friends with him. Hope I helped.
xoxo,
dottie4
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