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Not exactly straighttt...
Well I am not straight and I know it.
I love girls, they are georgeous and ahhhh
But, I have the most amazing boyfriend!
I love him, I mean I couldn't live without him...and I know its for a companion and not just a friendshipppp!
Therefore, I think I am bi...
I mean seriouslyyy, I love boys, they attract me and get me excited, welll....girls do to!:D
The question is how do I come out to my boyfriend and my familyyyy...
I have a game with my friends who are girls where we grab each others butts and boobs, trying to make each other uncomfortableeee...
And I am a little bit weary because I don't want them to think I am copping a feel. I am NOT doing thattt...honestly, my friends aren't my type, I don't think they are attractive AT ALL. Ew.
But that doesn't matter, what should I do?
(oh by the way, my boyfriend is a very commited christian who thinks that homosexuality is wrong and disgustinggg)
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First of all bisexuality is VERY rare. Most young men and women find a member of he same sex attractive at least once in their life time. This can sometimes start at age 9 lasting for a very long while. DO NOT COME OUT UNTIL YOU ARE 100% SURE YOU ARE.
I waited 7 years and I am glad I did.
Also being "bisexual" also includes the willingness to HAVE A REAL RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN.
Women in general are gorgeous, that is undeniable and it is normal to be sexually attracted to them and leave it at that. But putting a label on yourself that will follow you for a while is dangerous emotionally.
Homosexuality is NOT glamorous and coming out is possibly the hardest thing to do.
About your friends... DON'T TELL THEM! Teenagers can be cruel and truthfully it is NONE of their business.
As for your boyfriend a simple "I think we need to break up because it is not working out for me and I am just not attracted to you" works fine and no other explanation is needed.
Let this "bisexuality" sit for a while and determine whether it is real or a phase.
This is coming from a lesbian.
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Oh dear... Christians, homophobic friends and coming out to your family...
I'm bi. I haven't told the family because they're holy-roller Catholics. I don't think I'll ever tell them, because they'd never speak to me again and there are just some things you don't need to tell the fam.
My friends know... some of them were pretty sketch about it at first but they adjusted to the idea over time. Some of them walked out of my life forever. You take your chances when you come out to people.
My boyfriend accepted it. In fact he thought it was hot, but my boyfriend, like myself, is a pagan and they view homosexuality different.
I don't think you should tell any of these people. I've seen coming out go horribly awry and mess up people's lives. It depends on your age though. If you're out of high school then it's just time to embrace yourself. It can be hard and painful but it's just what you need to do sooner or later.
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tell your friends what you just told everyone here. If you really are not attracted to them, let them know-and how hard would it be to just not play that game anymore? that way they wouldn't be made to feel uncomfortable.
No one can tell you how to come out to your family-it's a personal choice..both to tell them and how you do it..but just do it in a neutral environment- I can't imagine them not being understanding and loving-they are your family..
In your boyfriend's case- to have a healthy relationship you have to be honest..and this is a big secret to keep. Now it is your choice whether or not to tell him- but it sounds like you want to come out. If he doesn't understand or thinks it's immoral because of his religious beliefs, there is nothing you can do about that. You guys might break up because of it-but if you do..think about it- how much of a loss is it? I know he's your boyfriend and you obviously care about him..but it's a choice between having a boyfriend who doesn't know the true you and may not accept it-and being yourself.
It all depends on what you want to be.
I hope this helped =]
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