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Website: Lost In The World (Blog)
E-mail: alcross@me.com
Gender: Male
Location: Fort Washington, MD
Occupation: College Student
Age: 18
Member Since: February 6, 2011
Answers: 6
Last Update: February 11, 2011
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18/f okay, before i get to the actual question, i'll give you a few facts first:

my boyfriend and i are both 18
we've been going out for about 2 1/2 years, and we've been sexually active since we were 15. we're not TOO active, like maybe we'll have sex once or twice a month.

onto my question:

lately when we've had sex, i've noticed that all the love is gone. its moreso making lust than making love. in this day and age, i know that sex usually means fulfilling one's needs, but i want to get the love back in bed. i miss the intensity of making love...instead i just feel like i'm trying to give him pleasure. or get pleasure.

what can i do to get the spark back?

There may very well be some tension, or maybe even miscommunication between you and it's taking shape in your sex-life. You should talk to him about it if you haven't already because if you bring it to his attention, whatever is hindering the love from being present could be within him and he just doesn't know it or he could feel the same way and you both can figure out what's going on. I just think it's important that you talk to him and be open about it to get to the root of it together. Best of luck with getting the love back in with the pleasure! ;)

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So, I am very into acting and i'm pretty good at it! I really wanted to know if there were any acting agencies or really anything that can give me a start! Please do not suggest YouTube, because that does not help!

If you have mere raw acting talent why not go straight to casting calls rather than an agency and get a small gig and then start moving forward. I suggest that you get a headshot taken and maybe some other profile pictures and get them printed nicely. If you're willing to make little trips to different cities holding casting calls, DO IT! You can find current casting calls on the web at sites like www.backstage.com

Good luck! I hope to see you on my TV someday soon! ;)

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is there a certain way to find out if my ex boyfreind sold nude photos that i had sent him throughout our 2 year relationship. i would show him everything.

There are two ways that you could find out for sure if he sold the pictures. The first way is for him to tell you himself. It may take serious measures of baiting to get him to if he's a stubborn guy. I'm not sure if you've asked him yourself but if you haven't try that! The second way is to search for them online. If he sold them, I'm pretty sure they would be online.

**I'll also note that typically when photos and stories etc are sold, they are sold to tabloids which means that the picture or story would normally be of a celebrity of some sort. I say this to say that he wouldn't have really had anyone to "sell" them to but he could just upload them to a pornography site that registered members can add content to.

The good news is that it's not likely they were sold to anyone. The other news is that they could be serving as pornography somewhere. But it's not impossible to find out if that's the case by searching yourself. I wish you the best in finding out about this. I hope they weren't distributed. In the future be careful with sensitive with media of this kind! ;)

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hello.im 16 female. so if you have known a guy for a year 4 months 3weeks n 3days and you love them and you think they feel that same like they act like it and say they love you too. and they treat you like a princess n protect you,but they moved to st pete awhile back and you miss them all you do is cry,and you know that there with a girl who isnt right for them and they promise you to get married to run away when there 18...but you cant help but hurt...how do u handle it?

It's very easy to dwell on one situation, sit in it and sulk. While it's bit more difficult to get out of the mode of crying and being sad you should definitely try to bring yourself to being able to talk to other people and meet someone else that can do the same things for you that this guy did. The time that you spend crying could be going into building up another 4 months, 3 weeks and 3 days with another great guy to treat you like the princess that you are. Talking to him about your feelings may help you move on as well. Best wishes and good luck!

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I have an iPhone 3G 4.2.1...I want to jailbreak it. What's a good program for me to use to do this?

Thank you!

When I got my first iPod Touch I used "Ziphone" to Jailbreak it. That was a few years ago. Ziphone is still out and can be downloaded at www.ziphone.org

I'll also add that while the incentives of jailbreaking are fun and give you a lot to brag about, the infamous repercussions aren't really worth it. I'll just say that it is inevitable that you'll eventually have to restore your iPhone. *Also note that jailbreaking your iPhone will void your warranty and could possibly brick your phone and render it unusable.

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20/f. When I was 17/18... I was diagnosed with anorexia and bullemia. During this time which was my senior year in high school/freshman year in college I bleached my hair super, super blonde and my natural color is like a chestnut. It's like an light ash brown. That's the best way I can explain it. I didn't realize how much bleach I had actually used until I saw the picture of my driver's license where my roots were super, super long and the contrast made it look like if they were almost black even tho the color is a pretty light brown. The combination of no nutrition and bleach made my hair fall out. I feel bad about everything, but I didn't know any better and I was going through a phase. The only thing I could think of was going darker. A whole bunch of stylist recommended that it was the best option. I shouldn't have listened. I should have just let my hair grow back but I did look terrible. Half my hair was brown and the other half was blonde and the blonde was turning like an almost orange-y color cuz it wasn't being maintained anymore. To make a long story short, I went from stylist to stylist trying to fix what went wrong and they only made it worst and I had to wear hair extensions. I've had them on for a YEAR and I can't take it anymore. I'm wearing supposedly the best ones because their tape ins their not glued on or anything crazy. but their still hair extensions. I want them off so badly I could cry. My hair has grown a lot in a year and has gotten way fuller. Sure, it still needs some work because I didn't really begin taking care of it (taking my vitamins, conditioning treatments) until about 3-4 months ago. But, these extensions are overwhelming me. My mom has to help me dry my hair because its hard to dry it (especially the tape ins) because you could brush it out and off ur head. My mom just won't let me take them off. I know I"m an adult and I should make my own decisions. But, i don't want to do something behind my mom's back that would hurt her feelings especially after all that she's helped me with. I should be grateful not upset. but, I think it's time to take them off. Help?

You're a young woman so I can imagine how adamant you are about this situation. I agree with you in saying that you shouldn't go behind your Mom's back and take them out. I'm a guy, so there's only but so much guidance I can give about your hair but what I can tell you is that you should definitely find a stylist that won't make it worse. Now I know you've gone from stylist to stylist but those beauticians are not supposed to be merely "stylists" they are to care for your hair as a vet would care for an animal or a daycare would care for a child. Before you allow them to touch your hair, you must know that they can truly help you versus make matters worse. So fully explain your situation and seek a portfolio or have them tell you exactly what they can do for your hair until you're convinced. Once you are confident in one of them, tell your Mom what they said so you can feel good about it. This way, you can move forward and ultimately get rid of the extensions. Either way I'm sure you're a beautiful girl. Best of luck with this! :)

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