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lost the spark?
18/f okay, before i get to the actual question, i'll give you a few facts first:
my boyfriend and i are both 18
we've been going out for about 2 1/2 years, and we've been sexually active since we were 15. we're not TOO active, like maybe we'll have sex once or twice a month.
onto my question:
lately when we've had sex, i've noticed that all the love is gone. its moreso making lust than making love. in this day and age, i know that sex usually means fulfilling one's needs, but i want to get the love back in bed. i miss the intensity of making love...instead i just feel like i'm trying to give him pleasure. or get pleasure.
what can i do to get the spark back?
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Me and my guy have sex every chance we get. Sometimes it just feel like just sex, and not love. I hate that because we have such a great relationship and we are so close. One day it really got to me, and I started crying out of no where, he flipped. Babe, what's wrong... I said, it doesn't feel like we're making love. We had sex right after that. Perfectly back to normal, so talk it out. And for that spark, spice it up, put him in the mood. Get him so ready, then tease him, have fun with it. Bring the love back.
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There may very well be some tension, or maybe even miscommunication between you and it's taking shape in your sex-life. You should talk to him about it if you haven't already because if you bring it to his attention, whatever is hindering the love from being present could be within him and he just doesn't know it or he could feel the same way and you both can figure out what's going on. I just think it's important that you talk to him and be open about it to get to the root of it together. Best of luck with getting the love back in with the pleasure! ;)
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