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Q: What are good ways to mastrabate female!!!

Best way is to buy a water proof viborator, and use it in the shower or bath.
Jelly viborators are the best.
Or always your fingers.

Q: I have thick hair that is about two inches past my shoulders that I want to grow to my boob's haha. I also want to style it a certain way. The hairstyle I like is one that looks like your hair gradually gets thinner at the bottom. Can this be done by layering? (If so, how should I ask my hairdresser to cut it?) Or would it require getting weave?

This is an image of what I kind of want it to look like: http://media.photobucket.com/image/hairstyle/famousactress12/RandomImages/Hairstyle.jpg (But my hair is a lot thicker than this girls)

I already have layers in my hair, if that changes anything. Oh and I'm 17/f, thank you :)

I do hair, so just trim the bottom of your hair, cut the layers higher up, therefore it will grow more. You can to layer the bottom just a bit though :)

Q: i have the same length hair as jenny from gossip girl (really really long and straight)

and i love those half braids and twist she has always.
can anyone tell me how to do them?

thanks

I can do hair, so I hope I can help..
Braid it the finish with a twist then use bobby pins to pin it up :)

Q: What does a orgasam feel like?
how old were you when you first got it?
Can you give yourself one?

Honestly, when I have sex with my guy, it feels like an explosion.
I think I may have been 15.
And, yes you can by masterbating.

Q: Hi.

i am 14 yrs and am 1mth preggers and dont know what i should do. i hate the thought of an abortion and adoptipton but i am only 14 and am still a kid... what should i do, is an abortion the right chioce?

You have to ask yourself what to do.. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't have one, not that I am againist it, but things happen for a reason. I know you're young, and clueless about all this. Anybody can do it though, you just have to make yourself ready for a kid. If you do have it, it will take 2 seconds of having that baby in your arms and your entire would will change. I believe that you could do it. Even on your own, you just have to want it. Nobody can make the choice for you though, sadly..
I hope I helped, I'm always here to talk too!

Q: This is difficult to admit. Usually on when posting this on a different website. I will expound on my past life, and explain how depression and social insecurity have plagued my existence from an ealy age. A lack of social contact leads to a lack of social contact. A pattern emerged where in my younger and more formative years I was focused more on not committing suicide that I was figuring out how to date or having sex. Essentially, thats what happened. When I left for university I burnt all of my bridges at home in the hopes for a better future in another state. I spent the first semester getting drunk with my fraternity. I had to leave the next semester due to dropping out of the fraternity; the story is complex. The old pattern of depression and isolation of high school repeated itself. To say that I hated the dorms would be an understatement. I succeed in moving out last year. Its a year that has been good to me; to say nothing of my anti-depressant prescription and yet. I am still a 23 year old who had never had a girlfriend and totally and utterly inexperienced at the arts of courtship or intimacy. I feel like I have to pack what should have been 10 years of learning into 1 year. Keeping in mind that in the dating marketplace I am horribly undervalued due to my inexperience. In essence: I realize that my life has been rather unusual for a scion of upper middle class parents who is attractive, well off, and (frankly, thank you books!) highly intelligent. I've coped by burying my past; all of it. While continuously not satisfied by my present conditions. Perhaps I have unrealistic expectations? Perhaps I don't have any idea what happiness, or normalcy, or satisfaction mean? But I want this, this simple one thing. I want a relationship. I deserve one. I want to kiss, fondle, love, stare into the eyes of another human being...the things that I deserve just as I deserve my scared dignity! But how?

I'd start out by finding a great person, the type of person that you would love to be with, but be able to be yourself with. You're going to have to be honest. You need to be able to trust the person because it's okay to tell the story there's nothing wrong with that. I understand it 100%.. You need the person to understand too. When you find the right person, you'll know, you'll feel comfortable, be able to tell everything.. Plus have the sexual part. Take that slow though. Even though you're 24, it only happens once. I hope I helped some, and if I can help anymore let me know :)

Q: Hi I have darker blue eyes, not like bright blue. I am white lol but I dont have super tan skin just normal. How can I
make my eyes pop? what kind of makeup and colors and brands work best? I also have lightish brown hair some dark streeks here and there lol. Please help!! :)

As a make up artist, try to stay away from dark colors. Try a purple smokey eye with thin dark linner, only on top. Then make your lashes thicker and fuller :)

Q: 18/f okay, before i get to the actual question, i'll give you a few facts first:

my boyfriend and i are both 18
we've been going out for about 2 1/2 years, and we've been sexually active since we were 15. we're not TOO active, like maybe we'll have sex once or twice a month.

onto my question:

lately when we've had sex, i've noticed that all the love is gone. its moreso making lust than making love. in this day and age, i know that sex usually means fulfilling one's needs, but i want to get the love back in bed. i miss the intensity of making love...instead i just feel like i'm trying to give him pleasure. or get pleasure.

what can i do to get the spark back?

Me and my guy have sex every chance we get. Sometimes it just feel like just sex, and not love. I hate that because we have such a great relationship and we are so close. One day it really got to me, and I started crying out of no where, he flipped. Babe, what's wrong... I said, it doesn't feel like we're making love. We had sex right after that. Perfectly back to normal, so talk it out. And for that spark, spice it up, put him in the mood. Get him so ready, then tease him, have fun with it. Bring the love back.

Q: my boyfriend wants me to squirt during an orgasm how do i do that.

Anyone can squirt, you just have to know how to do it, and pull the fingers out fast enough so it goes straight out. He has to know how to do it, there's steps on Google for it! If you want though I will tell you. I used to think I couldn't, but anyone can. It's actually fun too.

Q: So I was dating this guy for about four years on and off. I know I screwed him over alot and I treated him like dirt but I always went back to him cause I knew noone could ever take his place. He was my best friend and I didn't wanna lose him so I made it up to him and we always got back together. But it wasn't just me... He was constantly jealous and constantly starting fights with me for no reason. I use to get so annoyed with him. But about this time last year we got back together after a 6 month split... And he was different he treated me like i wasn't his main priority anymore and when we would fight he'd bring up how I cheated on him in the past.. Its like he turned into me and we switched places and I put up with it cause I thought I deserved it. Then he found out that I had lied to him about something 4 years ago which was pretty vital to our relationship and he won't forgive me.. He's with his ex now and he doesn't love her and he's told me that hell never love anyone or have anything like we had so I ask why we can't make it work but then he makes it seem like our relationship was built on lies and he never truthfully loved me cause of the lie.. I miss him and I want my best friend back but he doesn't want anything to do with me... Idk what I should do.. I've given him 5 months of space and now I feel like I've lost him for good.. I try talking to him but he makes me feel pathetic like I just need to move on... But I don't want to lose him but idk how to keep him...

Here's the thing, for it to be fixed the past needs to be the past! & you two need to start fresh! You have to try to get the through to him. That's all you need. It sounds like the past is the only problem here. Sometimes people can't let go of it though, try your best to get him to though!

Q: So I'm a sophomore and I have a year-long German class for my 3rd block. Back when school started, I had a dream about this junior in my class, whom my friend Taylor and I nicknamed "Limbo" because of it, and it was the most realistic and just...amazing dream of my life. I haven't looked at him the same way since, and my little crush on him has grown. We used to sit near each other and we'd talk and stuff and tease each other but the teacher moved us on opposite sides of the room! So now when I want to talk to him I have to go and sit at the teachers desk [he lets me get away with it since I'm his favorite] but he makes me g back to my seat eventually. ANYWAY, this is a sad case of what I believe to be unrequited "love," if you will. "Limbo" is not very popular, smart, very good a drawing, a smart-ass, socially awkward, a typical 'nerd,' you could say. He even plays WoW, and I certainly don't, but I do play other games. But GOD, he is so good-looking and handsome to me - and to everyone else I show him to apparently. He's straight-edge and I'm SO not [I told him I smoked and have done drugs and he said that smoking is the most disgusting habit and only retards do drugs.] He teases me a lot and I can often catch him looking at me in class. We have weird talks, I can't describe him, but we both have an appreciation for the arts. We both write. And he saw a drawing I did in Art and seemed pretty impressed. I just don't know what to do. I lust after him so bad, but strangely in the most innocent of ways - I just want to...hold him and kiss him and play video games with him and talk to him! I just want to date him so bad, but I fear I have no chance and he doesn't like me. We were kind of talking on Facebook and joking about being cheap whores or something equally stupid and he said "I'm not self-loathing, I love myself more than you." To which I responded, "Excuse me?"
"You heard me!"
And to sound hurt and confused I just said, "Nuh uh meanie ):" I didn't exactly know what he meant. Did he mean, "I love myself more than I love you," or, "I love myself more than you do?" But that's not the real question.
What do I DO? I dream of him everynight, I think about him all the time. I am going NUTS, and everyone who knows I have a crush on him wants me to get with him! They think we'd be cute together and that we're damn near perfect for each other. So, what in the hell do I do? Does he like me? Does he not like me? [I keep getting the feeling that he does and that he doesn't but ugh] Should I throw myself out there more?
Just what, guys? Help a girl out, I'm losing what's left of my mind D:

Sorry this was so long! And be gentle please :3

I didn't even have to finish reading this! I'm most likely sure that he has a thing for you! Take a chance girl :) get him if you want him!

Q: I want to get a hair cut and I want to get it like selena gomez. I really like her hair in falling down video, she has alot of layers and her hair is the perfect length. What can I tell the barber? Or should I print out a picture of selena gomez's hair and show her how i want my hair?

Ps. What is her haircut called?
thnks (:

I do hair! Picture help me times a million! Her hair in that video has many many layers, tell her you want body too! Good luck :)

Q: My boyfriend and I were going out for 6 months, and a few days ago, he said he gave it his best shot, but just wasn't ready for another relationship, and because of his issues, what he was feeling wasn't love. (He got divorced a few years ago and has a kid). He said he still cares for me very very much, he doesn't want to date anyone else and wants me in his life whether I like it or not...thing is, I just don't think I can be in his life as just a friend...at least, not forever. I truly believe he is my soulmate, and that is something I have never been more sure of. I want to wait for him. But I am not sure if I should let him know how I feel...I know I am still in the grieving process, and I know there is denial and a strong feeling of not wanting to let go, but I love him still, and grieving stages aside, I TRULY cannot imagine myself with anyone else but him. Should I be his friend and tell him I want to wait, or should I just be his friend?

Be his friend, help him through this. Don't give up on being with him though! It's obvious that you two care about each other and this is just a bump in the road.

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I work way to much, I write for a paper, I'm going to beauty school, I'm almost done my two minors. I'm starting on my Child Psych degree. I'm such a positive and happy person! I'm blunt and honest! I'm good at advice, I'll answer anything. I've gone so far in life, from where I used to be, I've been through a lot. I can relate :)