I am getting married in four months. I have been engaged for four years. However, my fiancee and I have at least two major issues. I just don't know if this is serious enough for me to consider backing down from marriage.
My fiancee and I are not seeing eye to eye on money issues. He feels that when we are married once the bills are paid for each person should have allowance money to spend. The catch is the other person should not ask what the money was spent on.
An example is, he spends money on CD's or a football jersey that's over $200.00. If he used it from his allowance money I should not complain. I'm not ok with this. My parents have been together for over 30 years and consult every detail of their expenses together. My fiancee feels that this is like "reporting" to the mate.
My other problem is that whenever something bothers me (other than money matters), I feel I can't tell him without getting upset.
I email him or try over the phone. This doesn't work. He never wants to hear the bad he only wants things to always be on the upbeat. However, I have issues I want to discuss.
I feel he keeps me from expressing my feelings which turn into resentment. Lately, I have really been questioning my relationship.
Please help me. I'm getting married in four months and am afraid of failing. Please Help ME!!!! Any advice will much be appreciated. I need to hear an expert's advice.
THank you
If there are any major issues that you cannot resolve beforehand, DO NOT GET MARRIED. If they are problems now, they will only get bigger once you are married. As YoungGrandma said, money is the number one reason for divorce.
Being with someone who doesn't want to hear how you feel is bad news. Marriage is hard, very hard and not being able to talk about the problems in it, will alone make it harder for your marriage to work. If you have issues you need to discuss with someone who doesn't want to discuss them, you are going to end up feeling alone and miserable. The marriage vow goes "For better or worse..." right?
If he is going to be your husband, he needs to be able to sit down with you and discuss what is going on. If he won't do that, then you should not marry him.
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i have a wonderful bf of one month. we were friends beforehand for 8 months..we got so close..we have so much respect for one another and such a strong bond.
the problem? last night i was drinking with a bunch of friends..some of our guy friends wound up coming over. i was the drunkest i have ever been..i went up from behind 2 of my guy friends and hugged them from behind and my hand went over their crotch area. a little while later the guilt sunk in and i feel so horrible. i told my bf and he doesnt know what to think, he said we will talk today. my queestion : if this were to happen to you what would you do? what can i do to make this better? im thinking like making a solid promise to NOT drink again for as long as we are together... any other suggestions? what i did..is this understandable or is theere no excuse?
ive liked my bf for soo long..since the summer..and i finally got what i have wanted for so long. i dont want to ruin this relationship!!!!! i DONT cheat..what i did..that wasnt me!! i feel like crap omgg :(
When people are drunk they lose some control over their motor skills. This is why they drop and run into things. This is also why sometimes after a night of drunken fun you wake up with bruises and such and you are never to drive.
Reaction time slows and your sense of perception...forget about it.
You hugged two guy friends and your hand just HAPPENED to run across their crotches. You did not mean to go grabbing for it. There is no reason to feel guilty about it and think that you cheated.
If you had kissed them, or grabbed their crotch on purpose with the intent of arousing them, then yes, you cheated and telling your bf right away was a good thing.
You were wicked drunk and it was an accident. You should have apologized to your guy friends, but there is no reason for this to ruin your relationship or by no means makes you a cheater.
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Ok so I have this friend, let's call her Eva. She has liked this guy named Ray for the past four or five years and he seemed to like her too even though they never talk.
About a year and a half ago, me and Ray's friend, Austin hooked up. About a few months after that we set up Eva and Ray and they started going out.
Now Eva had always been crazy about Ray. She knew where he lived and what songs he liked even though she didn't know him. She wasn't stalkerish but she was obsessed.
So I was talking to my bf a few weeks after Ray and Eva and he mentioned that Ray was crazy about Eva and that he talked about her all the time and kept buying presents to give to her later and everything and I told Eva that and she was happy.
K now theyve been going out for a year and they are so OBSESSED with eachother. Like, Eva thinks about him ALLL the time. Even when shes with me and the girls she says she wants him to be there blah blah blah and when we ask her why she isnt with him she says she wants them to have seperate lives too and she doesnt want to neglect us blah blah. But she's like crazy about him. And he's crazy about her. It sounds weird to say this but its sooo unnatural. They call each other everyday for three hours atleast and text eachother all the time. She keeps going overtime on her cellphone from talking to him and he even proposed to her after going out with her for only like eight months!
Is it just me or is this obsession unhealthy? at the begining, we figured it would wear out or theyd get sick of eachother and get over their "honeymoon" and have a normal relationship but like it's continuous. Evas mum even told me that she was getting worried and wanted to take Eva to a psychologist but Eva said that was dumb cuz she wasnt stalking him or anything cuz he kenw and he loves her as much as she loves him.
so are we just overreacting or is it way unnormal? usually id keep out of this but ive always been involbved in evas life and her in mine since we were 4 and shes always told me not to let politness or anything interfere and she wants me to be honest to her and give it to her straight. Have you ever had any friends who were obsessed with eachother?
This sounds like a dumb question but please, I rate 5s
She found a guy who reacts the same way to love as she does. The fact that is has been this way for over a year could mean that it is real and that is just how they express their love toward each other.
Just remember that you can only see their situation through your eyes and your perception. You may think that it is abnormal (along with her mom and a few others)because you might not be able to imagine being in love that way. I personally, couldn't either, but I wouldn't be recommending a psychologist. I have known several people who were obsessed with someone or another, but it never lasted long and it wasn't mutual.
If she starts to ignore all her friends and family to be with him, then maybe you should worry. If she is willing to hang out with the girls and try to have a life of her own(even though she thinks about him) than it is a sign that maybe they just love each other THAT much.
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ok theres this guy like ireally like. and well i thought he liked me too. like he called me like twice a day all the time. and he would like choose to be with me instead of hanging with all his other friends. and like when his friends would call and stuff. hed just be like im busy right now and hung up. but like its really weird bc these past couple of days hes been kinda i dont know i guess you could say just avoiding talking to me or something. i really dont know i dont get him. one day he likes me the next its like he isnt the same person. but it really sucks bc im completely in love with him. and he just ..is starting to kill me basically. like yesterday he got on, on aim..and he didnt im me..i imed him..and he didnt answer so i was just like screw it w/e. im not going to be like all up in him saying like why arent you talking to me and stuff. im not going to be like this annyoing pest. or w/e. so today he gets on again. and then i asked one of my firneds if he was responding and stuff. and she was like yea hes talking to me. so i was like ok well w/e. and like 2 hours later he signs off. without saying anything to me. so of course i have to think what am i doing to deserve this and stuff. i hadnt done anything to him at all. and i know for a fact in the begginning he liked me. cause hes best friend told me he did. but now im thinking i was just getting my hopes up wayyy to high. i love him more then he'll ever know. like now i cant stand talking to him but yet im still completely in love with him. i love the sound of his voice, and the way he says my name. im just completely head over heels with him. but hes just like ignoring me. and my christmas was defintaly ruined just by him. and i cant get over him cuz he seriosuly was the only thing that meant something to me. i know he needs space. but thats what im giving him. and then i know that once i give him so much space. he just wont be there anymore. and you cant imagine how much i need him in my life. and it sucks cuz i honeslty dont know what i did. and i know i prob. dont deserve it. but i really dont care. i love him so much. so yea. please help!
First off, I have been there. It sucks. All you want is a little attention and it seems as if you get nothing. Every little thing just seems to make it worse.
Second, stop torturing yourself. The more you think about it, the worse it will be. You keep sucking yourself back into this sadness that you don't deserve. I realize that it is easier said than done, so try venting frustration. The way I vent when it comes to stupid boy stuff is I play No Doubts Exgirlfriend and I sing it really loud and jump around as if I were Gwen. It actually helps. Heh.
Here is what you need to do, ask him in person, face to face (not online) if something is wrong. Tell him that this whole ignoring you thing is bothering you since he has never come to you with anything that would spell out a problem. Ask him why he isn't talking to you, but he is talking to your friends.
This is much better because instead of just wondering over and over in your head, you will find out what is really going on. Hopefully he will answer you and not do the stupid boy thing. If he does do the stupid boy thing, be happy that you aren't with him. You may think he is your world, but trust me, he's not. You have friends, interests, and fun to be had without his sorry ass. And if his sorry ass still ignores you, then I bet that there are lots of other cute boys you can pay attention to. I bet THEY aren't sorry asses. That sorry ass.
Sorry, for some reason I can't stop saying ass now. Ass. Ass, ass, ass, he is an ass.
That was so retarded, you HAVE to be laughing, at least a little.
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Ok, both me and my boyfriend prefer..having it shaved "down there". The only thing whe I try to shave i still have littel studs that don't totally go away. I want it to be completley smooth there. Can I use nair down then? Or what can I use beside waxing it..thnx
Ok, here is the low down...
Nair, smelly and does not work well on coarse pubic hair, it does work, but not as well as you might think. Oh did I mention it smells...like ass!
Nair is not to be used on the VAGINA, since no hair actually grows on the vagina, which you would think other advicenators would know, you should be ok. Hair does grow on the labia or lips, and you can use it there. Just be careful about not letting it get inside you. If it is strong enough to dissolve hair, you don't want it getting anywhere near the senstive skin around your vag.
If you want it completely smooth, the only solution is the ever so painful waxing. It sucks, but that is the only way to keep it pre-pubescent. As you do it more often, it doesn't hurt as bad and the hair becomes finer and easier to remove. It's getting it there that sucks.
The grooming sucks, but the upkeep is worse. Gahh, I personally hate it, but I can't stand the shag either.
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What the difference between a Child Pyschologist and a child Physciatrist?
How much do each of them make?
Whats the amount of schooling?
A child psychologist has a PhD.
Can take about 8 years or so with undergrad and Grad school.
Does not perscribe mediciations.
Uses different kinds of therapy to help children with problems.
Can make around 100$ per hour or so.
A Psychiatrist has a MD.
Can take around 9 or 10 years with undergrad, med school, intern and residency.
Perscribes medications just like a doctor.
Uses medications to help chidren with problems
Makes a doctors salary, probably more than a psychologist.
Anything else?
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16/F.
My 2 best friends have been going out since the summer (don't worry, it's a guy/girl....) I'm really happy for them & all, but sometimes it gets annoying, because whenever I do get to spend time with either one of them (since they're constantly with each other), we always end up discussing the person's bf / gf. They are always asking, "So what does he/she say about me??" & I always end up having to spill the juicy, mushy details of all the "oh she/he's so hot" & all that. I feel less like their friend & more like their spy now! It really makes me feel used. So, my question is... is it wrong for me to want them / encourage them to break up (I know that seems kind of selfish, but....) or what am I supposed to do about this? I rate 5's for non-crap answers. ;)
What you should do is ask each of them individually to stop putting you in the middle. Tell them that it is bothering you. Let them know that you are their FRIEND and not their GO BETWEEN.
It is selfish for you to want them to break up, but it is not inherently wrong. They are acting like idiots and who can blame you. If they want to say mushy crap like that, tell them they need to say it to each other. It is normal to talk about your bf/gf to your friends, but what they are doing to you sounds annoying.
When you are hanging out with them and they start to talk about their partner, stop them. Tell them that you want to talk about you instead. Ha! Or anything else for that matter.
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Oh. My. Fucking. God. I'm going to an audition for the musical "Phantom" by Maury Yeston and Arthur Kopit (NOT the opera by Andrew Lloyd Webber!) and so to get into the whole Phantom the Opera theme, I chose the song "Wishing You Were Somehow Here Again" from the Andrew Lloyd Webber version. I got it down, but the thing is, I don't know what to do about my body. What should I do with it? I know I can't just stand there. Movement just doesn't come naturally for me.
Thanks
Cheyenne
Being on stage requires presence. You don't have to have the best voice, but if you have a stage presence that can get you parts. Try watching, renting, or stealing online the Phantom of the Opera. Watch who they move and the way they use their bodies. Watch any muscial.
These people actually become the characters and take on the feelings of the situation. Theatre isn't just about singing. You need to be able to act as well. Practice that before trying out. It is much harder than it looks.
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my boyfriend and i have been together three months,, it was going great untill he started hanging out with this one guy who i'll call Mikey, well i dont really like mikey, he creeps me out, and i told my boyfriend this and he said i was over reating.. well last week i wanted to see my boyfriend and mikey made sure that chris didnt leave him behind.. so he went with us to the mall, well we were with another couple and we decided to go back to my house.. mikey (for unknown reasons) didnt want to go, and makes my boyfriend want to stay with him and not be with me.. (me and chris live and hour away from each other and him and "mikey" live one minute away from each other.. THEY GO TO SCHOOL TOGETHER!!) chris eventually says he'll go and mikey foubnd a ride home.. but all night all chris did was mope because i made his friend mad,, and now when i ask him to do anything with me.. mikey has to go! and i dont like that, and he said that i'll have to deal with it.. i really love chris.. but hes being such a jerk.. i cant leave him because it would hurt me too much. some one please help.. i really really want chris to realize that i'm part of his life stil.. i mean we cant do anything romantic because mikey is always with us.. i dont know what to do.. i hate hate hate mikey for this.. i need help!
It sounds like Chris has decided he likes Mikey...a lot. If you have already talked to him and he said to deal with it, then either you lay the smack down or find a guy who will respect your concerns. Mikey might be some sort of rebellion against coupledom. I have seen that happen before.
Talk to him again. Tell him that you need at least some time with him alone. If he is unwilling to do so, then that is a huge problem and you may end up breaking up anyway.
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My boyfriend hasnt talked to me for like three days. he wont answer my texts or anything so i decided i was going to go to his house and make him talk to me and tell me what was going on so...I txted him and told him that i was coming to his house and he was like no and i was like yea what ever im coming and i only told him so that way if he wasnt there he would tell me before i got to his house so then he told me that he was going to lock the doors so i couldnt get in then i told him that i was going to knock and he said his mom wouldnt let me in then i was like ill tell her its important and he was like no and i was like yea and then i was like corey are we breaking up and hes like 'i dont know' and i was like how dont you know and he was like ya i guess i was like omg are you for real ad he didnt say anything then i got really pissed off and walked my ass over to his house...not good...i was like corey whats going on and he said he didnt know if he wanted to break up with me but he liked the way it felt to not have to talk to someone everynight...i was sitting there thinking you dont talk to me every night you havent talked to me for three days!! but i love this boy so much and we didnt even fight so i dont know why this was so random? should i just let it go or should i try to get him back? and how do i do that if yes
15F
He wants to break up with you. He just doesn't know how to do it. If a guy doesn't return your phone calls/texts and when you ask him point blank his answer is yea or I don't know, he wants out. Crappy way to do it, but that is how he is choosing to tell you.
He said that he likes the idea of not having to talk to someone every night. This screams I need space. Even if you don't talk to him every night, that doesn't mean he doesn't feel that way.
Right now the best thing you can do is stop forcing things on him (like walking over to his house and demanding he speak with you) actions like this will only make this worse. You have one choice and that is respecting his wishes. Give him space. If he still cares for you he will come around, if not, then you should do your best to move on.
If he is going to act like that at all, you should rethink loving him.
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Has anyone ever played magic the gathering? How...mystical/weird/gothic/spooky is it? Does it involve wicca? What is wicca?
Thanks!
I have played it. My parents love strategy games. And out of all of them Magic is their favorite. Think of Magic as a Pokemon for adults. This is a card game that involves battling against one foe or several. The objective is to use creatures or magic to take all of the life away from the other player(s). It involves no real magic. Since there is no such thing as real magic that should be a given.
It isn't spooky at all. It is a card game. The only spooky thing might be the pictures on the cards. It is a competitive game, but it can be fun. It is difficult and has alot of rules.
It has somewhat of a stigma attached to it, much like dungeons and dragons. When I was in school only the wierd, nerdy kids played it. I don't see anything wierd or nerdy about it. It's a game.
If you want to learn about wicca here you go, this is a new and exciting tool we have so....
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You know those movies that show a 12 or 13 year old kid with a girl his same age? They're young and cute and share their first kiss with eachother. Like the one in 8 crazy nigts! Well, I get this feeling that lots of girls my age have had that fantasy childhood, and well, i just haven't! In my town the only oppurtunity for those kind of relationships is with the school boys. The only place you can really get to know them is at school. Not throught sports or clubs and whatnot.They're mostly jerks though. I'm 13 and I really can't accept that i'll never have that fantasy realtionship. I think I'm pretty (as told by some boys at camp), I'm very confident in myself when it comes to my body, I'm pretty friendly, and I have a sense of humor. I do tend to get cranky with boys who try to be funny. HELP MEE!!
That's the thing about fantasies, they are fantasies. Things don't happen in real life the way they do in movies. If you have this really high and perfect expectation for things, when they happen for real, you may be really disappointed. First kisses are awkward and fumbly, not elegant and choreographed. When dealing with other people who happen to be human, things rarely go as you plan. But, that is what makes it worth it. You sound confident enough in yourself that you shouldn't worry about getting your perfect first kiss. Focus on finding a guy with whom it will be memorable.
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I have to go for my first "girly" check up alone because I am having problems at school and they are being slowly sorted out but my parents know nothign about it but my health is going down. What I want to know is during this check up do they really look at your vagina and boobs and what do they do to them? Also do they do anythign to your bum? I am really embarrest andits happening in a month please give me some advice.
When I had to go to my first female doctor, I was scared, nervous, self-conscious, you name it. What I didn't realize then is that these doctors look a naked women all day. This isn't some sort of pleasurable thing. Doctors are trained to see body parts and not associate any sexual meaning to them or for attachment to the people to whom the parts belong. Your doctor, will have seen thousands of vagina's before he/she has seen yours. Think of all the creepy old ladies or the really skanky ladies that have come through there....ewwww. That helped me get over some of my awkwardness.
Yes, your doctor will look at your vagina. He will look at your breasts and probably give you a breast exam. Even though you are very young and probably don't need one, they are doing this to cover everything. A breast exam is where the doctor presses around each breast in a circular motion looking for abnormalites. It shouldn't hurt, but if your breasts are tender it might.
Your doctor will also give you a pelvic exam and probably a pap test. This is the whole looking at your vagina part. You will have to lay toward the end of the doctors table with your legs spread outward. They have a place to put your feet so it isn't too uncomfortable. Your doctor will insert a scope like thing into your vagina. It is cold, but it doesn't really hurt. He/she uses this to check out your cervix. I can't remember what it is called at the moment, but I will remember on my way to work, I know I will. Anyway, after that your doctor will probably insert two fingers into your vagina and press down on your lower stomach. what they are doing is checking out your uterus. It dosen't really feel like anything, you mostly just feel pressure.
The Pap exam is when they take a larger than normal Q-Tip and swab your cervix. They send the swab to a lab and check for abnormalties.
That is about it, the exam only lasts about 10 minutes or less and you might be sore afterwards. I was and had some slightly weak cramping feeling. It doesn't last very long.
The worst part is waiting in the doctors office for them to get there and get it over with. Once you have done it, it really isn't that bad. It gets easier each time you do it. Good luck and just realx. You make the exam that much more difficult if you clench your muscles. If you have a walk man or ipod, take it and listen to music to help calm you down. Or your favorite magazine to read during.
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ok i know my boyfriend would NEVER cheat on me, but weve been dating for over a year. we recently had a "break" but got back together. as soon as the "break" started, he started hanging out with 2 of his ex gfs. hes still hanging out with them now that were back toghether. this is all outta nowhere adn i dont know why hes suddenly calling them and giving them christmas cards. i feel like he treats other girls better than me, and i told him that... he said he was sorry and he will change that. i just want to know im special. why is this ex gf stuff outta nowhere? what does it mean? what do i do? were both 16. thanks!
Ex's are tricky. It is hard because it is someone that your boyfriend had feelings for at one time. To know that he is talking with them and giving them gifts would unnerve the most secure person.
It boils down to one thing, competition. There is a perceived threat reguardless of whether is it real or not. The thought of ex-girlfriends frightens me tremendously. I also have not had a whole lot of luck with guys. It is all about security. If you know that your boyfriend would not cheat on you then great, you should talk to him and tell him that you are unsure about this ex business. Your relationship is not new, so you have reason to believe that he would not hurt you. I would say if the relationship had been new, that you should talk to him anyway and get the low down. Better to know early then trust someone and get hurt.
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how much is plastic wrap normally from the grocery store? and will it matter if its colored? thank you!
That totally depends on what you are using it for, which you left out of your question. It is usually about $1.50 - 2.50.
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What possible problems could arise with being with a guy that was 17 years older than you? The guy I like is 44 and I am only 27.
The problems I could already forsee are that when I am 37 he would be 55, and maybe he would start to get insecure and think I might leave him for a younger guy my age.
Also, what could a guy that age really have in common with me? He likes fishing and golf, things that bore me to death. He hates a lot of the movies and tv shows I like too. He looks old enough to be my father. And I don't think my parents would approve.
But at the same time, I REALLY like him. He's a really nice guy and makes me feel so good about myself. He has a great sense of humour and more life experience than most guys my age have. He also has a good job, and would never freeload after me.(like some bf's of mine.)
Can anyone else think of any problems that could come from this relationship? And do you think we have a chance for this to work?
Why does this have to be a forever thing? You should not go into a relationship already planning the rest of your life. That just makes it all the harder when it ends.
Is he the one for you? Who knows. You like him and he makes you happy so you should just go for it. Enjoy having him in your life. If things don't work out because of age, then at least you can say you had a good experience with him. Just have fun with him now, decide later if he is what you want.
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my best guy friend (let's call him "k") who is also my ex-boyfriend just got a new girlfriend (let's call her "m"). when me and "k" were going out, he told me he loved me, but i didn't feel the same way so we broke up a week or so later. so now this new girl "m" comes into the picture. he likes her a lot and they are going out. they have gone out for like four days and "k" already told "m" that he loves her and she said it back. i just don't understand how he can tell two girls in such a short period of time that he loves them. it really bugs me because i feel like he just used me so he could say he had a girl. i do not want to let "m" get hurt like i did. what can i do to help this situation? i don't want every girl he dates to feel like she is the only one but he has really told every girl he dated the same thing. i'll rate 5's!
You are right about one thing, love is not a word to be used lightly. I myself have never said it to anyone outside my family and very close friends. Most people are not similar to me and mistake like or lust for love.
He probably means no harm by it, he just thinks (rightly or wrongly) that it is love. He probably thought that he loved you, and now he thinks he loves her.
On what to do, well your option is to do nothing. He is your friend and it is his relationship. It is hard to not want to get involved sometimes, but those are his feelings and whether you believe them or not, it is not your place to intervene. It will just cause hurt feelings and drama.
Think about it this way, he told you he loved and you two broke up because you didn't feel the same way. If you had or thought that you might soon, you would probably still be with him. He wouldn't have broken it off with you, at least by the way you worded your question. So I guess I am trying to understand how you got hurt.
He probably justs wants love. I can understand that. He is probably just getting it the only way he knows how. He shouldn't be made out to be user and I say this because of this...
"it really bugs me because i feel like he just used me so he could say he had a girl. i do not want to let "m" get hurt like i did. what can i do to help this situation? i don't want every girl he dates to feel like she is the only one but he has really told every girl he dated the same thing."
You didn't love him so he went and found someone who would. Upsetting for you, yes. That making him a guy who uses girls, no. If he does something along the lines of trying to get a girl to go as far as he can by saying "I love you" then that would make him a user and worthy of being stoned to death.
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Ok, so I have this one guy friend, who I happen to like. But, he really really likes another girl. And I'm fine with that, but the problem is that this girl only likes him as a friend. Like at the dance they were dates and she was dancing with another guy...and i saw her grab him. And he looked really sad, so i got to dance with him. But out of the corner of his eye i could see he was watching her the whole time and I could tell he was sad. To me it kinda seems like a love triangle. I like him. He likes her. She likes someone else. Does anyone have any ideas of what to do?
sorry its kinda confusing and long
You thought this was long? You actually said alot in a small paragraph. Kudos to you. Most have to write 10 pages and add all of these details that don't matter.
Anyway, If he doesn't like you the way you like him, there is not alot you can do. You can talk to him and have fun when you are around him, but that is about it. He likes someone who doesn't like him back, so the two of you are in the same boat.
He will get over her, that is a given. She will not be the one he dreams of for the rest of his life. Maybe if you show him how awesome you are, he might change his mind, but you should try to get over him in the mean time. Who knows, there may be another guy who likes you, but he sees you staring and wanting after your guy friend so he never says anything.
And your situation is more like a love train than triangle. You like a guy who likes a another girl who likes another guy. See it?
A love triangle would be if you like a guy who liked you, but was dating someone else. I would opt for the love train. They still suck, but are much more fun to say.
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I was really upset about something a guy friend (or so I thought) did to me.
Well I have a mental illness (schizophrenia) and am on a small disablility pension. I don't just sit around on my ass, I volunteer at the food bank and other places to keep me busy.
Well I went to visit my friend at his work one day. And all of a sudden, for no reason at all he starts saying the meanest things to me, like that I was living off the system and wasnt going to better my life. When I started crying and said he was being judgemental he said "you needed to hear this", in the meanest voice.
I havent been back to see him and he hasnt phoned to apologize. I even heard that he has been talking to his friends about me spazzing out.
Why he is being so mean? Do I have a right to be upset or am I overeacting? And should I even give him a second chance?
If someone had been nice to me and then all of a sudden for seemingly no reason turned into a total fucktard, I would be done. I would be hurt and pissed, but I wouldn't even attempt to find out why. That is just me, though. For the most part I don't have to have closure. It is what it is and that is enough for me.
Or if you really wanted to talk to him do what I would do...
Hide some raw meat under his couch. By the time he realizes it's there, it will be too late!
No, I am kidding, mostly that was to hopefully make you laugh. I in no way endorse hiding raw meat in people's couches. Everyone knows the meat is better hidden behind the TV.
Again, don't do anything mean, you would be like him. The thing that makes you better than that is, that, you have feelings.
He hurt them and no longer gets to be your friend. Punishment enough right? Right.
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i have naturally tanned skin and i'm doing my first show.I will be performing dances from disney movies.
my dance teacher said we have to wear lip stick and eyeshadow above the eyelid.any ideas for colour schemes coz without them lipstick sounds pretty granny-like.
p.s. i'm 13 so don't go overbooard on anything and any other make up suggestions to look a bit different would be appreciated!!!
i rate 5's
I have had lots of friends who were performers. They had to cake on the make up because the audience is so far away and the lighting is different.
They used dark colors like dark blues and reds and browns with thick black eyeliner and lots of sparkle.
If you want to be different try a dark shadow (brown or black...if you use black use a brush to apply the shadow, you can control the richness of the black.) and a bright eyeliner...I would suggest liquid liner, it usually shows up the best against the dark shadow. Try a teal or green maybe even red or yellow (if you can find yellow, it is pretty rare) depending on your outfit. You can extend the liner out from the corner of your eye just about as far as you feel like. You could even use multiple colors.
That is what I did for Halloween. I have red shadow and red eyeliner (urban decay, you should check that out) I also have a teal iridescent powder that looks so awesome over black shadow used every bright color I had and it turned out pretty cool.
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