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out of nowhere
ok i know my boyfriend would NEVER cheat on me, but weve been dating for over a year. we recently had a "break" but got back together. as soon as the "break" started, he started hanging out with 2 of his ex gfs. hes still hanging out with them now that were back toghether. this is all outta nowhere adn i dont know why hes suddenly calling them and giving them christmas cards. i feel like he treats other girls better than me, and i told him that... he said he was sorry and he will change that. i just want to know im special. why is this ex gf stuff outta nowhere? what does it mean? what do i do? were both 16. thanks!
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Ex's are tricky. It is hard because it is someone that your boyfriend had feelings for at one time. To know that he is talking with them and giving them gifts would unnerve the most secure person.
It boils down to one thing, competition. There is a perceived threat reguardless of whether is it real or not. The thought of ex-girlfriends frightens me tremendously. I also have not had a whole lot of luck with guys. It is all about security. If you know that your boyfriend would not cheat on you then great, you should talk to him and tell him that you are unsure about this ex business. Your relationship is not new, so you have reason to believe that he would not hurt you. I would say if the relationship had been new, that you should talk to him anyway and get the low down. Better to know early then trust someone and get hurt.
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I've dated people who have maintained friendships with their exs. I can't say I've ever really been completely comfortable with it, but it's never been a serious problem. I actually get along very well with one of my boyfriend's ex-girlfriends these days and he regrets ever introducing us.
You've told your boyfriend you are uncomfortable and unhappy, which is good, because he almost certainly doesn't want you that way. If you truly believe that these friendships are innocent then you don't have any reason to be upset.
Don't make any silly demands and try not be jealous. Don't let your insecurities ruin an otherwise good relationship. There is no reason he can't be totally loyal to you and friends with his ex-girlfriends.
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