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got drunk..horrible night
i have a wonderful bf of one month. we were friends beforehand for 8 months..we got so close..we have so much respect for one another and such a strong bond.
the problem? last night i was drinking with a bunch of friends..some of our guy friends wound up coming over. i was the drunkest i have ever been..i went up from behind 2 of my guy friends and hugged them from behind and my hand went over their crotch area. a little while later the guilt sunk in and i feel so horrible. i told my bf and he doesnt know what to think, he said we will talk today. my queestion : if this were to happen to you what would you do? what can i do to make this better? im thinking like making a solid promise to NOT drink again for as long as we are together... any other suggestions? what i did..is this understandable or is theere no excuse?
ive liked my bf for soo long..since the summer..and i finally got what i have wanted for so long. i dont want to ruin this relationship!!!!! i DONT cheat..what i did..that wasnt me!! i feel like crap omgg :(
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If that were me I would probably not be so stupid as to get plastered and start feeling up other people.
You would cheat, though, if you let go of your inhibitions enough.
You can't really say or do anything now that will help your situation, just make sure to be honest and truthful and hope for the best from him. I think you are already very lucky for keeping him as long as you have so far.
Also, to the people said that "you made a mistake" and "you didn't do it on purpose," well, that's not exactly true. You did do it on purpose. You willingly chose to drink. That comes with some responsibilites that you couldn't handle, namely moderation.
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i dont think its wise to not tell him. i think that showed him that you could be honest and upfront about little things like that. he knows that he can trust you to tell him things, even if they arent the biggest deals in the world. when you talk to him just dont be like " it wasnt a big thing, it was a one time thing" cuz if i were a guy. i defintaly would be upset. bc sometimes little things like that can be the biggest things to someone and if your saying it doesnt matter. then it kinda shows a little bit of carelessness/ see what im trying to say? i hope you get it. but yea well best of luck. hope i helped
Dez <3
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You fucked up a lot here. The first thing you did was get plastered in front of a bunch of guys. This was a mistake. The second thing was you rubbed this guy's cock a little bit. You were drunk;it happens and it's not really a big deal. At least you didn't give him a blow job. But the biggest mistake you made was telling the boyfriend. That tells me you weren't drunk enough to forget what happened. If it had somehow come up, you could have simply denied it or said "Well, I was drunk and it was an accident." I'm not coordinated when I'm drunk. And if he's that upset, he needs to get over it, you didn't do anything wrong.
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omg I was going to say EXACTLY what o0hXs0oCHIC was going to say. Wow um thats pretty much it and he should forgive you if he wants you back but if he blows you off knowing you made a MISTAKE then he's probly not worth it.<333
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if your boyfriend cares about you, he'll forgive you. you were drunk, and it was a mistake. promise him you'll never do it again. he has a right to be mad at you, but he should understand you didnt do it on purpose.
Alicia ♥
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you must be someone really honest and caring if you told him about that straight up. I think that he will probably forgive you if he loves you. He should realize that you were drunk and that you love him so much.
good for you that you are completely honest in a relationship.
HOPE I HELPED LITTLE!
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You were drunk...
I know it may seem so wrong, but the best thing you did about it was told your bf...dont you think it could of been a lot worse if you had lied to him?
Your bf, if he knows you at all, he should know that you would never cheat and do something like that. He should respect that fact that you actually told him instead of keepin it a secret. This shows you are an honest person and would never do anything to hurt him. If he knows you as well as he should, ok he might be a little pissed off, but its natural i guess. But he should be able to forgive you.
Dont be too hard on yourself, ok what you did may have been wrong but you told him didnt you. He should be able to see the point that you were completly drunk. Im sure he will get drunk like that one time and he could wind up in the same situation
Hope ive helped a little :-)
Sanj
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When people are drunk they lose some control over their motor skills. This is why they drop and run into things. This is also why sometimes after a night of drunken fun you wake up with bruises and such and you are never to drive.
Reaction time slows and your sense of perception...forget about it.
You hugged two guy friends and your hand just HAPPENED to run across their crotches. You did not mean to go grabbing for it. There is no reason to feel guilty about it and think that you cheated.
If you had kissed them, or grabbed their crotch on purpose with the intent of arousing them, then yes, you cheated and telling your bf right away was a good thing.
You were wicked drunk and it was an accident. You should have apologized to your guy friends, but there is no reason for this to ruin your relationship or by no means makes you a cheater.
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