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c i have this friend that is in all my classes and we get along so well he is one of my best friends i guess. but i don;t know everyone says that he has a crush on me. but i don;'t think so. my friend was talking to him on the phone and asked him to say if he thought my butt was nice he said on a scale of 1-10 he said a 6. i thought that was mean and thought that if he would of like me he would of said liek more.. i don't know. and he is a type of kid that i could never picture holding my hand it would just be ot wierd. i don;t know how do i find out if he likes me likes me i need some way of finding out. thanxxx

ooh. i use to have that same problem. but maybe he just said 6 because he doesnt want you to find out that he really does like you. dont worry too much about that. and yes the whole holding hands thing i had that problem, my ex didnt seem like the type to hold hands. but after a while he just warmed up and he suprised me and he did all that cute boyfriend stuff lol. but to find out if he likes you, just flirt with him. and if he flirts back, then defintaly go for it. or if your really confident just ask him. you never know. well hope i helped. good luck

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alrite, well .. me & this kids ( we`ll call him *john ) so, me & *john went out for 5 months & it was the best relationship i`ve had ! he was nice & we always hung out.. then things got bad & he dumped me ( over one of my friends ) then asked me back out & i said yes cuz i really like him .. & then he did the same thing again .. & see he has friends in other towns so he started to like this girl in another town .. & they are now going out =\.. & i just broke up with *john`s new girlfriend`s friend .. but now * john has been calling me & like flirting with me a ton, and people say he likes me again ..& i still like him but i don`t know if i should take him back if he askes me back out or should i just stay away from him ??

please help me. i really need to know !

girl you need to get over him. hes just using you until he finds someone else he likes then dumps you. its like your his rebound. and you defintaly dont want that.
what i would do. i would get revenge. lol but i dont know thats just me. i probably would take him back, then do the smae thing he did to you, and at least it will show him how it feels.
but if not, defintaly dont take him back hes not worth it. youll find someone who wont just rebound you like that, and he'll probably love you even more. so get over him, and wait for the next person.
hope i helped

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this is what happened..

an hour and 10 minutes ago my phone rang and my caller ID said it was my boyfriend so i was all excited and im like 'hayy' and my 'friend' answers so im like what? She goes 'hey its ***** im at the mall with *my boyfriends name* ahahhaahahhaha ok bye' im like what the hell that was really mean and i start hysterically crying.
so i call my boyfriends phone and she answers nd im crying nd im like 'can i talk to *my boyfriends name*' and shes like 'why are you pist' nd im like 'because you call me and your like 'oh yea were at the mall and im with *my boyfriends name* and your not haha'

Im like 'can you put him on please' shes like no why are you pist' im like 'can you put him on please' nd shes like no nd im like can you just put him on! and she goes YOUR A BITCH and hangs up!!

so now im crying 10x harder

I call one of my good friends for support and when she answers i hear their voices in the backround talking about it so im like OMG SHES WITH THEM! I say 'are you at the mall' nd shes like 'yea why are you mad at *friends name*' nd im like 'is *my boyfriends name* there' shes like yea nd im like can i talk to him shes like r u crying? im like yea and then she screams '*my boyfriends name* YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS CRYING COME HERE NOW AND TALK TO HER!!"

I hear "*my friends' name* screaming NO NO NO DONT TALK TO THAT BITCH and MY BOYFRIEND IS LAUGHING!!!!! and she hangs up on me like taking the phone from him. so now im crying 10x than before


I call him nd hes like 'why is *'my friends' name* so pist at u' nd im like 'howcome when i ask to talk to my boyfriend i get called a bitch' and hes like 'i dont know because your being..nevermind im not gonna say it *our friends name* you say it' and hands the phone to our friend.


So then our friend says "why are you mad at *'my friends' name* nd i told him nd hes like ohh or whatever and my boyfriend gets back on the phone nd im like 'you know what go go be with them because i dont give a shit. go have fun'

He goes 'no' nd im like YES **** BECAUSE I DONT CARE AND NEITHER DO YOU SO HAVE FUN' nd he goes 'sorry bye' nd i hang up! that makes me 305894085940865 times worse because he doesnt even care


i was crying for so long. this is soo horrible! what should i do? and he always says to me 'what are you doing later/tomorrow want to hang out?' and im always like 'yeah' but we never wind up doing anything and now he goes to the mall with my best friends and he doesnt invite me, neither do me so called 'bffs'. im so effing upset right now. any advice? anything at all. oh and if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all'


thanks for reading all of this. xo byee



oh this is a tough situation.
first off. i think you should dump your friends. they dont seem to be the most faithful people. and a good friend wouldnt do that to you.
second. i think your boyfriend is a jerk. i wouldnt have allowed him to basically humiliate me in front of other people.
third. dont waste your tears on someone like this
get revenge lol its sweet.
fourth. you should defintaly talk to your boyfirned about it, and if he is going act that way in front of his firends he isnt worth it. find a guy that is going to treat you like your everything even in front of his friends, and isnt embarrassed to be affectionate or not cool in front of them. well i really dont know what else to tell ya but i hope i helped

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Hello, I am 15 and me and my boyfriend have been on and off for about 8 months. And now we have broken up again. I love him with all my heart, and I know he loves me to, he just gets really confused with what he wants. He says he just wants to be alone, but then a couple of days later, he realizes that isn't what he wants. and now I know he is just going to do this again. What should I do?

ugh well my advice. dump the guy. if he truley loved you he wouldnt be trying this on and off again thing. its just wasting your time, and in the long run your just going to get hurt. dont set yourself up for your own heartbreak. it sucks you dont want that

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alright.. My boyfriend was saying goodbye over the internet and he said I love you so much and i said i love you more & i'll see you tomorrow & then he said "in that we must agree to disagree." what does that mean?

I'll rate you

lol ahh thats defintaly cute

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ok.this is a pretty long story so sorry.
heres the basic information
Theres this guy named daniel,we first met at the mall. and then i found out that he went to my school and stuff. so we started talking more and more on aim. and we became like the best of friends ever. and i could already tell from there that i completely was going to be in love with him. because little things would get us both completely jealous. so we just started hagning out more and more. and every time we got a little but more flirty. and it was fun and all. but then like. i told him how i felt about him and it turned out he felt the same. then from there we were unseperable. but its weird we both knew we were completely in love with each other. but we just remained the greatest friends. he was soo adorable. he would do anything to make me happy. then soon i really dont know what happened. one night he askeed me who i liked. bc in my profile it had said "single, but completely in love with him" so of course i thought he was kidding bc the only person i told i love you to was him. so i just thought he wanted to be like reasured that i liked him. so then i said i tell you everyday who i love..its you. and hes like i love you too. and i would do anything for you. and you treat me really good and i just want to make you happy. so i thought ok maybe hes going to ask me out. and then all of a sudden he just says. but i dont think it will work out. i know. complete shocker. but he was like i love our friendship we have and i dont know what i would do if we broke up. so i think we should remain great friends. of course hearing that. i was hurt. cause as many times as he told me he loved me. i guess he really didnt mean it like i did. but i cryed alot then. cause i knew things werent going to be the same. and i couldnt believe he actually told me i love you but we need to be friends. but heres the point. now we barely talk, and when we do he just teases me. and i use to think it was cute. now its just completely annoying. and he just doesnt get it that i dont like it.and its defintaly not the same anymore. were not as good friends as before. and i want to change that completely. i want him to be able to talk to me about everything again, and be the one he can joke with, and stuff. i love him to death. as friends of course. and i really need his friendship. but he just seems to not give it to me. and i really need help to get him back as being at least a regualr friend again. anything will help.rank 5 for any advice

i would say not to worry about it so much. he'll come around sooner or later. or just try to hang out with him more. and just try to remind him of the old times. i really dont know what else to tell you though. good luck! hope i helped.
Dez

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I am getting married in four months. I have been engaged for four years. However, my fiancee and I have at least two major issues. I just don't know if this is serious enough for me to consider backing down from marriage.

My fiancee and I are not seeing eye to eye on money issues. He feels that when we are married once the bills are paid for each person should have allowance money to spend. The catch is the other person should not ask what the money was spent on.

An example is, he spends money on CD's or a football jersey that's over $200.00. If he used it from his allowance money I should not complain. I'm not ok with this. My parents have been together for over 30 years and consult every detail of their expenses together. My fiancee feels that this is like "reporting" to the mate.

My other problem is that whenever something bothers me (other than money matters), I feel I can't tell him without getting upset.

I email him or try over the phone. This doesn't work. He never wants to hear the bad he only wants things to always be on the upbeat. However, I have issues I want to discuss.

I feel he keeps me from expressing my feelings which turn into resentment. Lately, I have really been questioning my relationship.

Please help me. I'm getting married in four months and am afraid of failing. Please Help ME!!!! Any advice will much be appreciated. I need to hear an expert's advice.

THank you

yes i think chicken flavored eggs basically said it all. if you cant communicate with your spouse then your marriage really isnt going to work. marriage is all about communication and successful marriages have communication. maybe talk to him about it, and how you feel, not only about the money matter but also about the whole communication thing. well hope i helped!
Dez

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i have a wonderful bf of one month. we were friends beforehand for 8 months..we got so close..we have so much respect for one another and such a strong bond.
the problem? last night i was drinking with a bunch of friends..some of our guy friends wound up coming over. i was the drunkest i have ever been..i went up from behind 2 of my guy friends and hugged them from behind and my hand went over their crotch area. a little while later the guilt sunk in and i feel so horrible. i told my bf and he doesnt know what to think, he said we will talk today. my queestion : if this were to happen to you what would you do? what can i do to make this better? im thinking like making a solid promise to NOT drink again for as long as we are together... any other suggestions? what i did..is this understandable or is theere no excuse?
ive liked my bf for soo long..since the summer..and i finally got what i have wanted for so long. i dont want to ruin this relationship!!!!! i DONT cheat..what i did..that wasnt me!! i feel like crap omgg :(

i dont think its wise to not tell him. i think that showed him that you could be honest and upfront about little things like that. he knows that he can trust you to tell him things, even if they arent the biggest deals in the world. when you talk to him just dont be like " it wasnt a big thing, it was a one time thing" cuz if i were a guy. i defintaly would be upset. bc sometimes little things like that can be the biggest things to someone and if your saying it doesnt matter. then it kinda shows a little bit of carelessness/ see what im trying to say? i hope you get it. but yea well best of luck. hope i helped
Dez

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I've been in love with this boy for 3 years.
And we broke up.
And He doesnt seem to care,
he wont talk to me.
And I'm dying here..
And its for sure over.
What can I do to ease the heartache..
anything?

I rate high for sincere answers.

Hey, i had this problem a while back too. it defintaly sucks. but what i did, which might help you too. i tryed to just be with the people i felt the closest with, that way i have no time by myself to actually have to think about him. then you slowly realize you really dont need him anymore. and i know you probably already heard this but if he doestn care, then he probably isnt worth it anyway. but really all you can do is just try your hardest to move on and hope to find someone else who will love you even more and treat you the way your suppose to be treated. Cheer up it will get better, trust me =)
-Dez

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