http://www.liunet.edu/cwis/cwp/library/workshop/citmla.htm
Here is the website I use.

Don't forget that honey makes a great sugar substitute and that it is packed full of anti-oxidants and other benefits...such as reducing allergies.

Talk to your school counselor about your feelings and fears. When you feel overwhelmed and helpless to solve such huge problems, you need some real help. You don't feel connected to your classes, maybe because of a bigger issue you are not dealing with in your life. School is about you, but chances are you have not yet figured that out. Maybe you are rebeling against pleasing everyone but yourself in your life, or maybe you are zoning out for other reasons...I don't know, but you need to get real with yourself and get some good support. This is your life...school and work can be boring...but it is actually your choice to make it less or more boring. If you really engage yourself and pour yourself into it, it will become easier and more exciting when you mentally interact. Take lots of notes...practically write down everything your teacher says to help keep you focused and less distracted. Reward yourself at the end of each class or homework assignment with a well deserved treat, pat on your own back, or something fun.

It is only okay in a certain circle of guys..and by the way most of them lie to their guy friends and exaggerate the number of girls they have been with. Then they lie to the girl that they are wanting to be with by reducing the actual number, because they know girls do not approve. The number of std's on the rise is alarming, so be choosy in whom you sleep with and use a condom every time, because remember he is probably not telling the whole truth.

Great ideas so far in the advice given, so I will just add that you should still talk to your doctor and interview a few plastic surgeons, too before deciding. Surgery could be the answer to your prayers and save your back and neck, too. I do think you should keep excercising, because it will reduce them some...breast tissue is really a lot of fat. At least opt for the best quality minimizer bra you can and learn to find styles for larger chests. Wear only V-Neck tops and shirts with no pockets or decoration on the chest area. Flared jeans and skirts will help balance your top out.

I have heard that a jar of sugar kept outside will lure them back out, but I really have not tried it. If you can seal where they are coming in from with tape or glue that will help..I have done that. Keeping the house meticulously clean is a pain in the butt, but if you do it long enough, they may eventually give up trying to come back and go outside for the sugar jar. Really it may come to buying ant baits that kill the colony and Queen ant. They are invading your territory, and even Peter Singer recognizes that your interests are equal to those of animals.

If you want to know if he really cares for you and is not cheating, than stop having sex with him. He is in total control of you and this relationship isn't he? He is most likely still cheating on you with any number of women if he has before. You have a role in your misery, too. You are making it possible for him to treat you like crap while having his cake and eating it, too. Love, and especially one-sided love is never enough to make a relationship healthy or to make it work. It is suffocating you to carry this burden around. You can try to get him into counseling, but I would be surprised if he went. Do get yourself there immediately and save yourself. Then, you will be free to choose a healthy relationship with someone who is emotionally and physically available and just as invested as you are. Once you realize how unfairly you have been treated, your feelings about this will change...you won't feel desperate and weak anymore. You will let yourself discover your anger, which is the key you need to free yourself and start over as a whole person. Please get into counseling no matter what else you decide. You are still very young and have many more opportunities for real love. Bless you on your journey.

Depends upon your skin, needs, expectations and finances. You can easily find quality make-up in the drugstores like never before, and some companies have high end products in the department stores and make the same stuff under a cheaper name brand in Walmart for instance. Buy the best foundation and skin-care products you can afford, always use spf sun-protection. Better to change out eye-products often...buy cheap and throw them out, rather than buy expensive and keep too long. This will help protect you from bacteria that can cause eye damage. Lipsticks are trendy and you can lose them, so go cheap here, too. Look for Almay and Loreal in the drug stores.

Friends should play no role in your relationship. That goes for now and down the road with other issues. A relationship is about the two people in it and no one else. Time together is one thing to factor in, but not the only thing to consider in making a commitment of marriage. Your ages, life goals, beliefs, the way you two cope with stress together and individually, your family backgrounds, psychological strength, emotional maturity, if you are both mentally healthy, and many other things will determine your success in this relationship.

The best way to get over him is to move on. Everyone feels a connection with their first love...it will lessen over time in most cases however. Date as many guys as possible and have fun...don't waste another moment on a guy who treats you badly.

Okay the silliest thing is that this girl whoever she really is...is missing out on dating guys her own age and just keeping it simple fun. You can always date old guys when you are old, date the young hot ones as long as possible...I mean this girl should.

Candy of course, but also something extra if you can afford it. Cds, bubbles, silly putty...we love this stuff as adults too! Anything you think would put a smile on his face!

I'm a little confused..Do you know him? You say you "never see him," and can't even ask for his number by yourself. That is not a good start. You need to get to know him and ask for his number or better yet, give him yours. You don't want to just be the rebound girl, so take it slow.

When you are ready, then you will know it. Any guy that breaks up for not kissing you today would have broken up with you for not doing something else sexual with him tomorrow. You don't want to be with a guy that is going to pressure you about anything at anytime...that is bullshit. You are not a prude...you are a young girl still and just need some time. Never apologize for being picky or knowing what you do and do not want. It is actually a sign of strength.

Good advice so far. There is nothing wrong with being very clear about your wishes. Children do not need to be included in every single thing and should not be. Adult only occasions are fine, whether or not there are breakables...you don't need an excuse. People can get sitters for their kids....that is not asking too much. Showers are boring events typically and especially for kids!

Yes, you must call CPS immediately and also get your kids into couseling. I would take your ex to court again and sue for full custody of the kids. This woman is evil and she is a terrible influence on your young girls.

There is no such thing as boring sex, just boring people. When you two are done with the game of doing it every and any way possible, you will realize that. Sex is the physical expression of your combined energy. Lots of people go through the stage you are in and move onto making the connection more intense, pure, and pleasurable for both people. You don't get to the next stage with gimmicks and books and sex olympics. You do it by getting to know and love the person you are with in non-sexual ways. This will make the most simple act of love-making a much more satisfying experience. Sex begins and ends in the mind. Open your mind to her mind and start doing some new things together out in the world, or you will risk becoming a very boring couple and no amount of sex will cure that.

Whatever the problem is or was, I don't think you should be discussing it with "everyone" you know. He would be humiliated and angry to find out you are telling people something very private about him. A hernia could be the cause, or it could be a few other things. It really does not matter. It is his problem to overcome or live with how he chooses. If you choose to stay with him, respect him and quit talking about him behind his back. He will talk to you about it more when and if he decides to trust you.

The harder you try, the more it is going to look like you are trying too hard, and that is never cool. Relax, and who cares if you are not perfect. Newsflash...either is he. No one is out of your league...that is ridiculous. You need to work on your self-esteem and believe in yourself. A guy, no matter how great he first appears, is still a stinky and simple creature at heart. You are the princess and he is the toad. This is your new mantra. Now, be the princess and don't chase him.

Why is it that girls and women even, are always questioning themselves and their worth? The trend to make your vagina bald is pretty silly if you think about it. It you want to try it once, then fine. Just don't start doing all this nonsense for a guy and thinking that you are not perfect the way you are already. Most guys appreciate a clean and trimmed up area, but your hair is a part of what makes you a woman. Pubic hair is your body's way of declaring your womanhood and sexuality...never be ashamed of that. Rent "The Vagina Monologues" and be proud of your entire self.

"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable. To say something you value deeply to another and to have him or her value it equally by listening to it carefully and apppreciatively is the most universal way of exchanging social interest or demonstrating affection." David Augsburger, CARING ENOUGH TO HEAR AND BE HEARD.


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http://www.coolnurse.com/

http://www.4woman.gov/violence/

http://www.childhelpusa.org/about/programs-and-services/childhelp-national-child-abuse-hotline-1-800-4-a-child

drug/alcohol abuse help go here: http://www.4drugabuse.com/addiction-treatment.html

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/1800-273-TALK(8255)
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a 24-hour, toll-free suicide prevention service available to anyone in suicidal crisis. If you need help, please dial 1-800-273-TALK (8255). You will be routed to the closest possible crisis center in your area. With over 120 crisis centers across the country, our mission is to provide immediate assistance to anyone seeking mental health services. Call for yourself, or someone you care about. Your call is free and confidential. -----------------------------------

http://www.kidscrisis.com/

http://www.teenadviceonline.org/gethelp/numbers.html

You can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline, operated by RAINN, 24 hours a day, free & confidential. 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

For info. on birth control etc.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

The Girls and Boys Town National Hotline is the only hotline that children and parents can call with any problem at any time:
Open 24-hours a day, every day at 1-800-448-3000

Spanish-speaking counselors available; translation services for 100+ languages

TTY line available for the hearing-impaired at 1-800-448-1833

Counselors can help find services and agencies in the callers' local community

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Callers talk to highly-trained, professional counselors who listen and give "right now" answers. They're sympathetic people who have expertise dealing with these and other problems:

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Toll-Free: 1-800-448-3000

http://www.sex-ed101.org/links.html

http://www.anorexicweb.com/anorexicweb.html

Report Child Abuse
Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-4-A-CHILD TDD: 1-800-2-A-CHILD



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