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Im prude!
Im 14 years old. and im so prude (scared to kiss and stuff) and i was in a relation ship with someone the other day we were going out for a while. he broke up with me because i wouldnt kiss him. He kept asking when hes gonna get his kiss. and i would say idk. and he would hate it . he would get so close to my face to kiss me and i would say stop. Idk what to do. i reallly wanna have my first kiss =/
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When you are ready, then you will know it. Any guy that breaks up for not kissing you today would have broken up with you for not doing something else sexual with him tomorrow. You don't want to be with a guy that is going to pressure you about anything at anytime...that is bullshit. You are not a prude...you are a young girl still and just need some time. Never apologize for being picky or knowing what you do and do not want. It is actually a sign of strength.
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Dont puch yourself to hard sweetie,
its obvious your not ready yet.
IF you are, like you say, and your sure your ready to have your first kiss, try buying some magazines. read kissing tips and practice. [[not in public though]]
but, if he broke up with you becuase you didnt kiss him, he apperantly isnt the goog guy =)
you'll find the right one. one that will love you for who you are, and what you want to do.
not who he wants you to be, or wants you to do.
hang in there sweetie,
you'll find him. and im sure u'll know when you have, but wait until for your first to be when you want it to be,. not when you feel you have to.
the right guy wont make you feel that need and pressure.
-xoxo-
im here to help, ask any time,
Kaila
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Well, to me it sounds like you're not ready to go that far in a relationship yet.
Maybe you should find someone that you really truly like that will treat you right - the guy sounds like a jerk, considering that kissing is all that's on his mind.
You need to find someone that will accept you for you, and nothing more, nothing less.
If someone breaks up with you for not kissing you, that's just flat out wrong. A relationship is based on how you feel about each other and trust, not about how far you go.
I don't necessarily promote dating to anyone under 16, just because it usually doesn't last for very long and if it does, that's a miracle.
Whatever you do, however, I trust you'll make the right choice. :)
And before you do get your first kiss, ask yourself why you really want that kiss.
Is it because all of your friends have already had their first kiss?
Is it because you feel that that's the only way that a guy will like you, because of your past experience with the guy that broke up with you for not kissing him?
Kissing is a sign of intimacy, it isn't a reward or an achievement that you make, or have to make, in order to be well-liked and appreciated.
Follow your heart. You'll know what to do when the time comes - maybe you just haven't found the right person to share that intimate moment with...
If you need anymore help, feel free to ask. :)
Best Regards,
Mariah
P.S. Hang in there - it will get better, trust me, the teenage years suck, but they only make up a small portion of your life. You'll look back on these years and wish that you could still live the memories again. :)
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Make yourself confterble around him, you need to loosen up and find the right position. Let him go 90% and you follow 10% ( he leans in 90 percent and then you just go 10 percent ) Cause he honestly wants to kiss you, and if hes in love with you, you should be happy and want him to show it.
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