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i am 11 and so wanna have sex cos i masturbate a lot
and watch porn vids. as a birthday prezzie my bf gave me a sex toy which is basically meaning do you wanna have sex hes 11 too and i felt his penis what do i do (link)
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How did he even get his hands on a sex toy? He would be way too young to buy one. You better hope it's not used.
Well first, it's illegal for you to have sex. Usually the age of consent is 16 but in some places, it's 18.
Second, I'm guessing you're not on birth control. So you can end up pregnant even if he uses condoms.
Third, your body is still growing and sex will hurt a lot.
They tell you not to have sex at such a young age because of the consequences that comes with it. You can end up pregnant. You can end up with STD's. You don't want to look back thinking about when you had sex when you were 11. It's not something people are proud of.
I think you should slow it down. Masturbating is fine, you don't have those consequences to worry about.
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Okay so I went out with this guy whom I actually loved and really cared for 5 times. He actually came home and met my family and I lost my virginity to him. My family loved him to death. Everything seemed to go great. He acted like the perfect boyfriend then he told me he told his family all about me and they were excited to meet me at his graduation. I was excited and nervous to meet them. Finally when it was his graduation time, they came and took pictures with him and looked at me like I was some weirdo as I waited on the sidelines for him to introduce me. After a while of ignoring me, I pull him aside and ask him if they no about me. He shrugs and says 'not really' then ignores me. I tell him I'll be right back and leave the gym and sit behind it and bawl my eyes out.I felt betrayed. After a while my guy friends came by and tried to comfort me.I sent my best friend to get him so I could say goodbye only to find out he left without saying goodbye to me. Weeks past without an email or call from him. Summer break I FINALLY called him and ended it. Now it's 3 months later and I like somebody but I'm not sure if I should even take the risk again. I'm graduating soon and would like to start new but I don't know if I should...
What should I do? I'm afriad to get screwed over again. (link)
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It's life. People aren't always going to be good and treat others right.
So there is a good chance that you will get hurt again. I have to admit, it's really hard. I admire the girls who keep trying even when they've been screwed over several times.
If you decide not to try again, you're not going to end up with anybody and you know that you might miss the chance with your perfect mate.
It's all up to you but I'm sure you're strong enough to try again.
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I am in the 12th grade, worrying about the future of course. I've been looking into this and trying to see what I want. Recently the idea of taking a year off was brought to my attention. Everyone I have asked has thought it is a terrific idea and they had wished they'd done it. I'm afraid that after my four years my life will be in a place where I wouldn't want to leave where I am because I would be beginning working. I would love to, more than anything, go backpacking through Europe and maybe even take a literature class in Athens. My father on the other hand feels it is a horrible idea and we don't have the money (even though I plan on getting jobs where I can and figuring that out on my own. I also have a job now) I guess what I need is not so much an answer but an opinion from someone more experienced is incredibly needed. (link)
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I don't think you'll "find yourself" by going to Europe. Although it can be very educational and if it is something you want to do and it's a huge dream of yours, then go for it.
As for taking a year off from school, that's all up to you.
It really varies from person to person. For some people, once they decided to wait a year, they didn't end up going to college. But for others, they usually take off to save money. Or they go to community college to take a few classes to see what they really want to do instead of spending much more money and end up changing their major several times.
So take some time to think about what you want and what would be best for you.
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I broke up with my boyfriend of two years a month ago. I was feeling distant, alone, and grown up when I started college. It felt great at first. I went on dates, dressed up, got guys' numbers, and had fun. This didn't last long. I began to miss my ex. I dream of him every night, miss his touch, crave his company. I miss him more and more everyday.
I find many things holding me back. For one, we fought a lot. It was mostly my fault, seeing as I struggle to control my emotions and often both physically and emotionally abused him. I know this isn't an excuse, but I grew up watching these behaviors in my household. I was constantly doubting of our future together. I couldn't seem to stay committed, either. But now that I realize that I let go of someone who never gave up on me even when I gave up on him, I miss him like crazy. We still talk every so often, but it's rare. He's apparently talking to a girl online from Georgia (we live in Florida), and when I confessed I missed him, he had many concerns. He wondered if I would really change, and also told me he was thinking of being with his online girlfriend (who, he added, is EXTREMELY insecure, clingy, and doesn't give her all towards him...), and said I truly needed to prove that I missed him and would change. I told him to give me a few months to pick up the lost pieces of myself and find my soul again.
I'm terrified. He said he's afraid he'll allow me back in and get hurt. I really want to change. Not for him, but for myself mostly. My bad control of emotions and lashing out and negativity could also destroy future relationships. (link)
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At least you truly want to change, not just for him, but for yourself.
Even if he decides he doesn't want to get back together, you still would like to work on changing correct?
So don't talk to him a lot, when you do, don't bring up the relationship or anything, just act like a good friend like how you were before you started dating and what made him fall for you in the first place.
Then you need to learn self control. You already know that how you were acting was wrong and that it screws up relationships, so remember that. Go buy books that will help you, talk to adults with happy relationships, and learn how to deal with your emotions in a healthy way instead of letting them fall out of control.
Eventually you'll start changing and learning and it will be noticed.
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I can't take acetaminophen and when I get my period I get severe cramps to the point I feel I'm going to be sick and or pass out. Because of my allergy I can't take midol or any of that. I take ibprofen but it doesn't help. Are there any other remedys that could help me? (link)
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I've heard that eating bananas help. Also drinking caffeine like soda or something. Midol has caffeine in it, which is why soda helps.
I also use a heating pad. That helps so much. Or take a hot bath with epsom salt.
It also helps if someone massages you.
If you talk to your doctor I'm sure they can help you out more if these things don't help much.
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I was talking to my boyfriend and I suddenly got a random text from someone. His (Lets just call him Jim) profile picture looked kind of fake and so did his name, so I asked my boyfriend if he knew him. He said yes.
Jim asked me if I was dating my boyfriend, but he asked right away... I thought it seemed kind of weird so I just ignored the message and blocked him.
My boyfriend has some jealous friends that are girls, so I'm kind of assuming it was one of them but my boyfriend said he was just with Jim... Am I overreacting? (link)
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That is really strange. I wouldn't over think it though.
My advice would've been just to block him if he kept trying to talk to him but you already did that. At least you're handling this maturely.
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Okay,
So there's this really cute who works down-stairs at my job, we'll call him Jake. I've introduce myself and we talk, and his been flirting with me. Well i think he has,because usually when we talk he keeps eye contact and smiles. And few weeks ago my department had an open house and Jake came to look around. And came to talk to me, and I was teasing him like he only came for the food, but he was like no i'm came for the smiles and smiled at me. I don't know what to think because I don't want to look much into it, because maybe he has a flirtaous personality, or just being nice. ugh confusing right?! Anyway me and my co-workers were planning on going bowling next saturday, just like casual thing,very fun and I want to invite him but I have no idea how to do without making it sounds like date. And I definitely want him to bring friends or co-workers, to make it not awkward and for him to be comfortable. But I'm already chickening out,and I really don't want to chicken out. I'm just really nervous. I don't know what to do? (link)
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Flirting is really hard to tell when you like someone unless they are being completely forward about it.
Either way, it sounds like he's cool with you and could definitely be interested in you.
So definitely ask him to go bowling. The next time you talk to him, just bring up that you and some co workers are going bowling and he and any of his friends and welcome to join.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. lately I've been feeling like he's holding me back.
I've always wanted to travel and do things with my life. I never wanted to be the settle down get married and have kids type. Right now I work 50 hours a week, I'm barely scraping by. I'm 21 and I haven't done anything with my life at all.
My boyfriend has just graduated college. He lives with me and doesn't have a job, and I'm supporting him, paying all the rent and bills and food and all that. So I can't afford to go out with friends and stuff. Which, for him is totally ok, becuase he's the type that likes to stay in and watch movies.
I just feel that if I stay with him, I'm stuck with this boring life forever. But I do love him for his humor, his personality, his intelligence, the sex is great, and many other things. He is a really great guy. I'm afraid that I've been with him for so long that I've gotten comfortable and wouldn't know how to be with anyone else.
I'm just so lost right now and I don't think this little explanation does it justice. I don't know what to do. Any and ALL feedback would be great.
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I think you answered your question. You love him, care for him but you're not ready to settle down.
You guys got together young and you're still trying to figure yourself out. That's completely fine. So take a break, go enjoy yourself and do what you want to do. You'll be holding him back from something great if you stay with him and you're not happy either.
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My boyfriend hangs out with his friends everyday and he doesn't care if his friends go on his phone.. Well his friends always text me and it's annoying. I don't even know if I'm texting him most of the time. Should I talk to him about it? (link)
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Yes, definitely talk to him about it. That is an annoying problem.
Don't be mean or anything about it. Just let him know that it's annoying you and you'd like it if it would stop.
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So a bunch of the guys in my middle school (we're all in 8th grade) keep calliing me a slut for the clothes I wear. I've only even gone out with a guy in 6th grade, and I've never even held hands with any boy! But when I call them out on it and tell them to stop, they say I'm always acting b-tchy like this and I don't know how to handle a joke, and that O'm too ugly to be a whore anyway, or 'Thats why you don't have a boyfriend'. It just really pisses me off. additional info- 13, female: I have depression, and my three best friends are all in relationships (two are guys, they both call me a slut, too). and we went out one weekend all as friends (no boyfriends or girlfriends) and the other day I said, 'we should all do that again sometime!' And they laughed at me and said, 'yeah right! we don't want to hang out with you! we're replacing you with -one of the guy's girlfriends'. It just makes me very sad, and I want to kill myself a lot because of this. :( how do I tell them to stop? (link)
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Well you obviously know you're not a slut.
Middle school guys are extremely immature. They don't think before they speak and they really don't care.
Two of your best friends are the guys that call you a slut? They don't treat you like a friend. It's extremely disrespectful of a guy to call a girl a slut. That's not what friends do.
So stop hanging out with them. They're just going to make you more upset and you don't need friends like that.
You should also talk to your parents or a counselor. They'll help you deal with your problems instead of thinking that killing yourself is the way out.
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I was in relation ship with my love n had sex with him n for resons we break up now my marraige is their my question is he will now at frist night that i had sex with some one else plzzz help me (link)
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In other countries, people think the hymen needs to break or you need to bleed the first time you have sex. That's not true.
Being a virgin is just a word to describe someone who has never had sex.
The only time people bleed during sex is when the man isn't doing it right. Like if he does it too hard, fast, rough or there isn't enough lubricant.
So in reality, no, he can't know if you are a virgin or not.
I don't think you should lie to him though.
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I have two passions, and I would hate having to choose between them. For one part I have my artistic side that demands I become a graphic artist or cover a few things in fine arts. Then there's my inner scientist and animal lover that begs for me to become a veterinarian. I am absolutely indecisive as to which path to take so I've been wondering if it's actually possible for me to try and study both...I know it sounds a bit crazed because they are completely different subjects - art and science. I simply want an answer that's not from a friend or teacher. If its not possible - which I am quite sure it is - any suggestions? (link)
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I think you should find out what you're more passionate about. Maybe go to community colleges and take a couple classes on vet medicine and take some art classes. Then see which one you'd want to spend your life doing more.
I was having the same problem as you. Trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. Being a vet was one of them as well. I took a class at the community college on being a vet assistant and I didn't enjoy it as much as I thought I would.
So pretty much, just try them out. Don't jump right in until you are sure.
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im a 13/f that have a friend that thinking about killing himself. He seem like the most happy person. But i just found out that he have problems. We been friends for a long time. But he also liked me too. But i dont like him like that. So he said he had death in his family and also had a really bad relationship. So i dont know how to talk to him. So help me. (link)
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You need to talk to an adult. Either a counselor, your parents or his parents. He needs to get treated and get some help. They'll probably have him go to counseling or therapy to help him get out of that mindset and find ways to deal with his life problems.
A lot of kids won't tell an adult when their friend is cutting themselves or thinking about suicide because they are afraid their friend will get mad. But I know people who regret not saying anything because they're friend ended up committing suicide.
So it's better to have a mad friend than one that is no longer with you. Just be there for him, be supportive and talk to someone.
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14/F hii... So I had my period 1-7th of july and a week after that again. But I haven't had it for three monthes now and I'm really stressed! I'm not pregnant because I'm still a virgin.* And I'm not going to the doctor. I fingerd not more than 6 times in this 3 monthes. Can any one help?* plzZ I'm freaking out!
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I don't really know what advice you need. We're not doctors so we can't tell you why you haven't had your period. Is it normally irregular?
You're supposed to get it once a month so that's why you're supposed to see a doctor. There could be something going on that's completely harmless like stress, changes in diet, illness, ect but it's better to go see a doctor.
I want to know why that's not an option. I mean doctors are there for your health. You should go get checked out just in case it is something serious.
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So I am 14 years old and I write poetry. I have like a thousand notebooks full of my poems. I don't know why but I can't show them to anyone, I'm shy and embarrassed. It's like a secret, no one knows that I write them. So my problem is that I recently won a poetry contest and the prize is 500 dollars and I'll be published in a magazine but I don't know how to tell my parents. I know they will be proud but I like my poetry being a secret (ill be published under the name "unknown") so how do i tell them? (link)
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Well you already know they'll be proud of you so it's not like you have to fear them getting angry or something.
Just come out and tell them. Say something like, "Mom, dad, I like to write poetry and I submitted one of them in a contest and I won."
Just bring it up when you're with them like in the car, eating at the dinner table, sitting on the couch watching tv, anytime really.
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Sometimes I wanna break up with my fiancé sooo bad, He does and says mean things sometimes. he goes on his drinking binge he is trying to recover and has relapsed. Sometimes I get this thought process in my head that I don't wanna break up with him because I am afraid that he will fall in love with someone else. I don't get it I guess... advice desperately needed please. My mind is running in circles
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If you're staying with him just because you're afraid of him falling in love with someone else, it's not the right reason to stay with someone.
This is the kind of thing you need to sit back and think about. You can't change him. You can't make him not say mean things to you and you can't make him stop drinking.
So if you decide to stay with him, that means that you are deciding to be ok with what he is now. You can't expect change. Would you be able to handle him like this when you're married?
My advice would be to end this. I'm sure he has great things about him that make you love him but these things he's doing, it totally outweighs the good and you shouldn't settle for that.
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My boyfriend, well ex-boyfriend, and I just broke up a few days ago after a little over a month of constant fighting and "one last chances". Whenever we see each other, we're happier than ever and it feels like we just started dating all over again (we've been together for over a year), but when we're apart and we dont see each other because of our busy schedules, we argue about stupid stuff that ultimately results in saying hurtful things that we dont mean, breaking up, and then realizing we love each other and getting back. What does this mean? Is it worth still trying or should we just give up? we're 19 and we love each other SO much, but the stupid fights are too much to handle sometimes...HELP! (link)
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There are a lot of couples who go through this, especially young couples. I mean there are plenty of older couples who fight a lot but the majority is with the younger ones because they're still learning about people.
Relationships are just hard in general. I mean it's two people coming together with two completely different personalities trying to get along and agree on the same things.
Your only problem is the fighting. Relationships will always have problems, but it's how you handle them that make the difference. If this is the most serious problem you guys have and it's the only reason why you broke up, then I'm going to tell you to find better ways to resolve conflict. Look into books, talk to older couples who are in happy marriages or relationships. You will have disagreements but that doesn't mean you should fight, obviously, especially if it's over small things.
Also, if you do feel like there is tension and you feel an argument might be coming on, take some time to cool down. Don't just start spewing out things because you're mad, you'll say things you'll regret and don't mean. So just tell him you need a second to cool down, go into another room, get some water, do something else for a bit then come back and talk it out, no arguing. It helps if you write it out.
Good luck. I'm sure everything will be fine.
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Ok so here is the situation I have been wit my bf for 3 yrs now. We have a beautiful baby boy and he is always so happy. My bf is an alcoholic and he has slowed way way down but every once in awhile wen something is going bad he relapses n he is mean. In the past it was terrible miserable I can't even find the right words for it. it was a full blown abusive relationship. We broke up he got better and I accepted him to be in our life. for the note he is an AWESOME daddy. So he cheated a lot in the past with about 16 different girls and I still have my fears that he will do it again. I do push and question a lot and he swears he hasn't done it and I haven't heard anything which I usually do because people like to start drama. But it still hurts really bad and he doesn't like to talk about it because it makes him feel like a piece of shit and he feels he has to live in the past. Well anyways that caused tension he went n drank. He started calling me the usual names dumb bitc* c*nt sh*t like that and then it got serious he said to me Your just mad that I cheated on you and stuck my d**k in some other chick and came in her.... then just lost it and started telling me a bunch of bullshit I turned up the music and plugged my ears. We went to some girls grave that we went to school with and he got out and started crying on her grave right in front of me but said she was one of the ones and I was his only one. I don't get that I don't think he loves me Does he love the thought of love, security, bond and everything that a relationship entitles When we fight he goes to extremes to make me feel the worst possible but then for the next month or two we are perfect. Maybe he just loves the fact of the relationship but he actually doesn't love me? Or is it just a drunk relapse and he is mad at me because I demanded him to slow his drinking down and he is mad because it is hard and he relapses and he thinks I will get pissed at him for it when really it can be handled way different and Im willing to work with him when he doesn't treat me like shit. Please help. I love him I love him sooo much and I want all this to stop. Can it be fixed or is it break up time.... In the end I just want what is best for my baby, he is the air I breathe he is my savior baby I love him more than anything and I wanna give him a beautiful life... HELP ASAP (link)
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He has a huge problem. Drinking screws up relationships and while he is still doing it, you won't be happy and he'll still treat you like crap.
You can't make him change. You can only encourage him to do so.
I don't know if he loves you. This all could just be the drinking. But either way, you're not supposed to just take it.
You also have a baby in the picture. You don't want him to grow up with that kind of environment. He may be a good father, but he has a huge problem that can hurt both of you and your child shouldn't have to live with that and neither should you.
My advice would be to not stay with him. Maybe in the future after he has gotten some help and you've gotten over your issues you can possibly see if it's possible.
You can't be in a relationship when you don't trust somebody. You're bringing up the past and still asking him about it, and that's not good. But he also shouldn't be getting drunk or calling you names.
So just let him go. You need someone who wouldn't do things like that to you and someone you can trust.
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a guy in my class has a huge crush on me and he has told me that, i don't want to be mean but i also don't want to go out with him! help!! (link)
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You can be nice while rejecting someone. It will hurt them no matter what but there are ways to let someone down easy.
So be sure to tell him the truth. Don't lead him on or anything. You don't owe him an explanation or anything, just tell him you don't see him like that.
If he ends up asking you again, be firm and clear.
Also, make sure no one is around when you reject him. You don't want to make a big scene or embarrass him. If he asks you out in person, ask to talk to him privately.
Don't be cold, act nice and friendly.
Don't tell him you want to be friends if you truly don't want to be friends with him.
Don't be overly friendly. Like don't keep talking to him afterwards.
Don't tell him through a note or text or something. It's better not to hide behind those.
Just be honest, straightforward and nice.
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So theres a girl that i met a few weeks ago and shes really cute, we've hung out a few times and she likes me. But recently i found out one of my REALLY good friends might be in a relationship soon and i got really jealous and i think is till have feelings for her because i liked her last year and i still think i have liked her all along but im not sure what to do because i dont want to ruin my friendship with her, and crush the other girl, but i really want to let her know how i feel about her. What in the crap do i do?? Im a freshman guy btw. (link)
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I'd suggest backing out and figuring out how you feel about each girl. If you sit back and realize you do like both of them, I wouldn't suggest dating either one. It can just screw up the relationship.
Until you know how you feel, don't do anything. If you like this new girl, and don't feel anything for your friend, then that's fine. If you like your friend, you need to let the new girl know so you don't lead her on. If your friend doesn't feel the same way, don't go back to the other girl, give yourself some time to move on completely.
If you like both of them, don't get with either and find a way to move on.
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