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Not sure what to do
So theres a girl that i met a few weeks ago and shes really cute, we've hung out a few times and she likes me. But recently i found out one of my REALLY good friends might be in a relationship soon and i got really jealous and i think is till have feelings for her because i liked her last year and i still think i have liked her all along but im not sure what to do because i dont want to ruin my friendship with her, and crush the other girl, but i really want to let her know how i feel about her. What in the crap do i do?? Im a freshman guy btw.
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I'd suggest backing out and figuring out how you feel about each girl. If you sit back and realize you do like both of them, I wouldn't suggest dating either one. It can just screw up the relationship.
Until you know how you feel, don't do anything. If you like this new girl, and don't feel anything for your friend, then that's fine. If you like your friend, you need to let the new girl know so you don't lead her on. If your friend doesn't feel the same way, don't go back to the other girl, give yourself some time to move on completely.
If you like both of them, don't get with either and find a way to move on.
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People date so that they aren't alone, cus they think it is the status quo of what society expects, that we all are supposed to end up as part of a couple.
But thats not a good reason to be with someone. We need to be a whole person, not lacking in some way and, not needing someone to complete us. It is a wonderful thing to find someone we have lots in common with, we have a spark, a chemistry with that is still there months later after the New Relationship energy has worn off, and whom we enjoy being with, who we find brings a joy to all the normal and routine activities in life simply because they are there at our side. When you find a girl like that, nurture that relationship. For though you may through out life enjoy looking at a pretty woman, no one will capture all your attention love and desire as she does. YOu will have no desire to date or be with any other woman if she's the right one.
In life, we may meet some very nice people who make best friends material but just because they are the opposite sex does not mean that you should go for a relationship. If its just a rumor and the old lady friend is still available, maybe you need to ask her if she's ever felt anything for you beyond the kind of love for a friend, is there any spark or chemistry that she's ever felt? Especially when its someone you spent not just a couple occasions with but hung out alot to gether. If she doesnt feel it, then let her go. A one sided spark isn't enough to have the sexual satisfaction in the long run and ends up with one or both partners looking to others to get their sexual needs met. Big mistake. A great majority of people marry someone like that...because it feels comfortable like an old worn baseball glove, but the spark is missing. you need both friendship and that spark for a successful long term relationship. If you aren't ready for long term and are not that kind of person to want to get that serious, then don't try to claim someone who is searching for a long term partner. Its not fair to them. Not trying to rush you into a major committment here. Its just that some people aren't ready yet and the person they adore is. By time they are ready to commit, the other may not be available.
Thats part of life and you may need to face some heartbreaks like that. But certainly don't change who you are or force yourself into some commitment you're not ready for just to avoid losing someone. Anytime someone changes who they are to be the right person for someone else, the relationship will have problems because of the one who wasn't be true to themselves. It may stay buried in the beginning but it all surfaces in the end and ends up a messy break up. Been there, done that.
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