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sex with an 11 year old
i am 11 and so wanna have sex cos i masturbate a lot
and watch porn vids. as a birthday prezzie my bf gave me a sex toy which is basically meaning do you wanna have sex hes 11 too and i felt his penis what do i do
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The first two advisers have given you could advise so I will go in a different direction.
They both wrote about how being so young sex would hurt a lot. The reason for this is even if you have started through puberty and your body may have started to develop. Your sex organ, your vagina, has not developed to the point it is ready to accommodate a male penis. Your finger, maybe?
I doubt you read the newspaper articles concerning things that happen in foreign countries. So let me tell you the story behind an article out of India where their Parliament is putting forth a law to outlaw underage marriage.
While most of us see India as a fairly western country there are portions of the country that are quite tribal. Where children as young as 8 can be married off to grown men. This is done by their fathers for money, huge sums to them but pennies to you and me.
Recently it was reported that a young child not much younger than you, was married to a much older man On her wedding night she bled to death after her husband, for lack of another term, raped her in consummating their marriage. You see her vagina was not capable of intercourse and yours is probably not either.
The earlier in life you have sex the more painful it will be because your vagina has not become elastic enough to accept a penis comfortable. Also it is not necessary to bleed the first time you have sex if your vagina is ready for sex.
Rule of thumb here would be if you cannot comfortably insert a Tampon you are probably not ready physically for sex.
There is nothing wrong with masturbation. You won't get pregnant from it and you will not get and STDs either. What you will do is satisfy the sexual urges brought on by puberty in a safe comfortable manner in the privacy of your bedroom.
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How did he even get his hands on a sex toy? He would be way too young to buy one. You better hope it's not used.
Well first, it's illegal for you to have sex. Usually the age of consent is 16 but in some places, it's 18.
Second, I'm guessing you're not on birth control. So you can end up pregnant even if he uses condoms.
Third, your body is still growing and sex will hurt a lot.
They tell you not to have sex at such a young age because of the consequences that comes with it. You can end up pregnant. You can end up with STD's. You don't want to look back thinking about when you had sex when you were 11. It's not something people are proud of.
I think you should slow it down. Masturbating is fine, you don't have those consequences to worry about.
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I am actually very curious as to how an 11 yr old got their hands on a new sex toy. I know massagers from drug stores will work for clitoral stimulation but they are not really a sex toy. Hopefully its not a used one.
At your age, the best thing to do is have just masturbation for the meanwhile.
Depending on where you live, like in the States for example the age of consent for sex varies, some are 16, some 17 AND some 18. I will assume you are from the states but if you are not in North America, then do a search for Ages of consent in _________ and put whatever applies.
It gets even more specific by the state. Each can differ. While most only specify that having sex with some under 16 if the other person is 60 mos. or whatever mos. older is a felony. I randomly read some and the wording does not differentiate if the person is older than the other or if the two could be the same age. Its tricky, even if you both agree and want it, the law doesn't deem you capable of making the best decisions for yourself at that age. Actually the good decision making part of our brains doesnt develope until we reach mid twenties. At least you are asking what we think. There are many who write us who want to start at age
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