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Is he flirting or not and asking him to hang
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So there's this really cute who works down-stairs at my job, we'll call him Jake. I've introduce myself and we talk, and his been flirting with me. Well i think he has,because usually when we talk he keeps eye contact and smiles. And few weeks ago my department had an open house and Jake came to look around. And came to talk to me, and I was teasing him like he only came for the food, but he was like no i'm came for the smiles and smiled at me. I don't know what to think because I don't want to look much into it, because maybe he has a flirtaous personality, or just being nice. ugh confusing right?! Anyway me and my co-workers were planning on going bowling next saturday, just like casual thing,very fun and I want to invite him but I have no idea how to do without making it sounds like date. And I definitely want him to bring friends or co-workers, to make it not awkward and for him to be comfortable. But I'm already chickening out,and I really don't want to chicken out. I'm just really nervous. I don't know what to do?
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Look for body language that confirms he is interested or attracted to you. Part of that is finding excuses to get near you. Have you ever had someone standing close to you...and it felt like they were standing too close and it forced you to take a step or two backward? When someone is close enough to be within arms length to reach out and touch us, it puts us in a vulnerable position and the only time we do like it is when the person is someone we are attracted to cus it actually feels good. So if he has smiled and done the eye contact thing, its a good chance that he is flirting. Come on, he is not in the same department and used it as an excuse to be able to approach you and yet make it look natural. He is looking for reasons to be near you...that shows a definite attraction. He won't know if it can develope into a serious liking of you until he spends a little more time around you so going out as a group thing is the perfect opportunity. Don't miss it. Ask him exactly as lightoftruth said. Heres a link to an article about romantic body language that lets you know if someone is flirting and attracted.
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Flirting is really hard to tell when you like someone unless they are being completely forward about it.
Either way, it sounds like he's cool with you and could definitely be interested in you.
So definitely ask him to go bowling. The next time you talk to him, just bring up that you and some co workers are going bowling and he and any of his friends and welcome to join.
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Asking someone out or to hang out can be nerve wracking. But just think, the worst that can happen is he will say no, and you'll move on, and you will regret it if you don't because there's a 50/50 chance that he will say yes!
Hanging out around someone with other friends is the best way to sort of acclimate them to you and what you are like. what I would say is something along the lines of "Hey some coworkers and I are going bowling, we have an open spot if you want to join?"
It's always awkward, and no one feels confident asking someone to hang out. But it'll be worth it if he says yes!
Good luck and best of wishes!
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