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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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I am getting soo fat these days and i cant seem to get the weight down i have been eating good but when i jump on the scale, im still the same weight *sigh* I'm getting more depressed then ever...if I eat only once a day will i lose some weight???? please help!

Don't starve yourself! It will just teach your body in needs to store more fat cells and it will be harder to loose weight later on in life. Eating healthy is a good start, but that just helps you stop gaining weight, not loose it. You need to excersise and burn those fat calories to loose weight. Just 10 or 20 mins everyday can make a big difference.

I am so proud of my sister! My sister is a model, and is best friends with Hilary Duff! She is in the movie Mean Girls, with Lindsay Lohan! I just reveived a modeling contract, but I am sorta jealous that my sis has been acting for 4 yrs! I am going to be in a movie, but hres is so much cooler, and she is so luky! She met Chad from the OC at the movie premeire! Hes sooo hot.

Please Help
Winona

What exactly do you need help with?? It sound to me like you are just bragging and dropping names.

Today I was named captain of my school's cheerleading squad, which is really good until I realized that I have no idea what I am doing. This is the first time my school has had a real squad and if I mess it up they might not have it again. Someone suggested renting a video on cheering, does anyone else have ideas?

Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Don't be scared if you mess up, you can't be perfect, nobody can. You were named captain for a reason, so be who you are. Don't be scared, be confident, the team is following your lead!

I am having a yard sale. And I told my friend who lives next door, that she had anything she was welcome to bring it over.
The promblem is that she is not only bring things over for her but, she has things her family has asked her to sale and her co-workers.
I asked if she was going to be able to help me. She said she would come over for a little while. But won't be able to stay very long.

I am now overwhelmed, I have a 2 year old and a 4 year old, and a yard sale. The first day my husband has to work so he can't help. Do you think it is right that she is bringing stuff for other people. Without asking me? And if so, how can I get her to understand that it is almost too much for me?

What your neighbor did was very rude, and I am sure she has no idea that it was. You should deffinetly talk to her and tell her how much work she has created for you. It's fine to have a friend bring a few things, but it is another when you turn into a Goodwill. Tell her you are feeling overwhelmed with all the items she has added to your sale, and that you would really appreciate some more help. She probably just hasen't realized what she has done.

My friend "Liz" and her boyfriend "Lucas" never talk AT ALL. I hooked them up so this is my problem. He never has anything to say to her, and vise versa. He reallys likes her and i know she likes him. How do I get them talkin?

Signed,
A confused friend

Why exactly do they like eachother? They must not have much in common if they have nothing to talk about. And no it is not your problem. It was nice that you got them together but it is their relationship, not yours, let them figure things out. They are most likely just shy, especially if it is their first boyfriend/girlfriend. They will get the hang of it, if they ever do find something to talk about.

Most people assume that a couple got in a fight if one of them goes to the couch. That is not the case with us. My husband snores sometimes, but hasn't been lately, but when he was, he would go to the couch so he wouldn't bother me. Now he claims he is used to the couch, and falls asleep faster there than on our bed, which is queen-sized. Also, he insists on putting the ceiling fan on when it's not even hot, and I don't like it, so he sleeps on the couch with an electric fan blowing on him. I was just wondering, is this healthy and normal? Am I the only one whose spouse does this? I worry about him wrecking his back sleeping on a narrow couch, and wrecking the couch as well. What do you think? I don't think I do anything to bother him when he is sleeping with me, so what can it be?

I have heard of couples sleeping in diffent rooms because of comfort and for a better nights sleep. So he is not weird. He is just sleeping better on the couch. I wouldn't nag him about his back though, he is an adult. If the couch was hurting his back, he wouldn't be sleeping on it. Although the couch isn't really made for sleeping on every night. If I was a guest, I really wouldn't want to sit on it if I knew it was used as a bed every evening.

If you really want him to come back to bed tell him you miss him sleeping next to you and ask him if he can start trying to get use to sleeping in the bed again. It can get lonely at night.

okay listen my boyfriend id an asshole he treats me like shit and i don't know why he does i treat him with love and respect well i said i would give him one more chance i told him if he pissed me off or he broke a promise it would be done for good well he broke a promise he said he would call and he didn't so i'm really upset and i did break it off! he said it's not his fault that it's his staff's fault but that's a lie! he says he should have just one more chance so should i put up with his shit or just stay away?!?

If he is an asshole then why be with him? You didn't list anything good about him, only bad qualities. Is there any reason to keep this jerk around?? I'd say get rid of him, you should be with someone that makes you happy, not pissed off.

my ex boyfriend broke up with me when his girlfriend before me gave birth to his son and now they have broke up he wants me back i want him aswell and have told him. he tells me he wants me but tells his mates he doesn't and it is really confusing.WHAT DO I DO PLEASE HELP ME

It sounds like this guy cares more about himself before anyone else. He only does what is convinent for him. Forget him, he isn't worth your time.

hello, my question is,

I am a 36yr old female, still inlove with my ex-boyfriend, we have not been 2-gether in almost 2 yrs, is this normal ?, I want him back, I really love him.

I think after 2 years it is time to move on. I am sure he has. If it didn't work the first time, what is different today to make you think that the relationship will work now. I realize you may still be in love with this man, but after 2 years he has become your past, and you have to move foward with your life.

ok well theres this guy i really like a lot but i dont have the guts to ask him out or talk to him and i think he might like me too but if im to nervous how do i ask or get to know him? and i dont want friends doing it for me so thats an even bigger problem what should i do?

You know, this question is asked almost daily. If you look in the "Love Life" topic column you will find lots of answers to your question. And the advice almost always given is to be brave, suck up your nerves, be confident, and ask the boy out yourself. You can do it! Good Luck!

Hi, I'm a single 37 year old mother, My son is 12 and in 7th grade, he is going to Public school. His conduct has been allways A, but for first time in his school years there is a teacher that thinks all the oposite, I have talk with my son and he says he doesn't know why she doesn't like him, his art work is allways under grade and for some reason now and then, his work disapears from the room. I request a meeting once before, but I felt the school counselor cover up the teachear's behavior and the situation got a little better, but know I can't aloud this abuse to keep going on. My son is an artist and is been selling his work for sometime, the teacher didn't know that, when I told her she sayd maybe he is a good sculptor, but nothing else because he doesn't do his work. Now the problem is that my soon wants to enter a school of art and with no recomendation from this woman even with a great portfolio he won't be accepted, I feel frustrated and my son says that her pet (the teachers favorite) allways gets good grades even with unfinish work. Please help me, what to do? I'm going to have a meeting with her next week. I'm an educated woman and treat people with respect, but I want to be severe and upfront after all is my child's future!

Why exactly do you need this womans recomendation? Surley if your son sells his art there are others that can write recomendations, and what about past art teachers? One womens opinion can't stop your son from going to art school. It is obvious that your son is being discriminated by this women. If nothing can be resolved after your meeting with her, I would be talking to the school council members. There should be no favortism in classrooms. Also make sure your son is doing his work, because no matter how good it is, if it is not done ontime, it desevers a lower grade. I wish you and your son luck.

At the moment i am in a relationship where i am selling my house but still living with my ex as i can not afford to move and rent. so i have to wait another six weeks before the sale is complete. During this time i am seeing another guy and we want to live together but due to my circumstances i cant at the moment. He lives with friends as he cant afford a place of his own. but can afford to rent a room with someone but he will have to move away from me and all this is putting a stress on our relationship and all we do is argue and he is very paranoid of not being with me and doesnt trust me or anyone near me as he is very possessive. we dont want to split up and we just want everything to happen over night regards to me settling the sale of my house and living together and i'm going mad. I just want some advice on this situation i'm in and how we can over come this without splitting up....or distancing ourselves...please help!!!!!

I completly agree with MFS. 6 weeks is not that long to wait. I was in a long distance relationship with my husband before we got married, and it was a real test, but proved to us that we were ment to be together. Maybe some distance from eachother might be good for this relationship. Things sound kinda shaky, time away from eachother will show you how much you really mean, or don't mean to eachother. This guy also needs to learn to trust you, otherwise this relationship will never work.

Hi I'm a 22 year old female and I'm desperate for some advice. I'm in the middle of to male cousins. I had a fling with adam about a month ago I found out that he was involved with someone else he admitted it to me and he still wants to go along with it. carlton has come along and he is so nice to me he wants to get to know me even though he seems like mr right it's against my rules to get involved with the same family what should I do?

I would try it out with Carlton. Adam and you only had a fling, and he is involved with someone else. There is no reason for jelousy. If it had been a serious relationship I would be wary, but I can't see it being a big deal if you all act like adults. If it really worries you, ask Adam first if it would be too wierd. You shouldn't denie yourself from a good thing just because you had a little fling with the cousin. How often would you really see each other anyway?

Hello, I may be pregnant with a seperated mans baby. Now I'm thinking of all the scenarios that could happen and need advice. I want what's in the best interested for my child. Now this man is technically still married and has a child with his wife, they all have the same lastname. If I had the child and was not married, is it wrong to give the child my lastname? What about child support issues? I'd never keep the baby from his dad, but what if the father denies this baby? I would want to put him on the birth certificate but what if he's not there, can he still be put on it? I live in the state of Pennsylvania. Please any advice would help.

Wether you are married to the man or not, you can give the baby your name. I think you should give the baby your name. And yes, you should be able to out the name of the father on the birth certificate even if he is not there. As for child support, it's up to you and the father how you want to work it out. If he refuses to help, you could take him to court. But it really is up to you on what you want to do. Good luck!

Who else thinks DOCTORS WHO HELP SAVE PEOPLE'S LIVES should be paid more then people on t.v. who only try to look pretty...
GEEZE that's ridiculous if you think about it. Just because everybody knows your name doens't mean you should get millions of dollars for it. DOCTORS are MUCH MORE USEFUL then some stupid snotty celebrities out there...GEEZE!
I can't stand that...
I know not all of you agree...but is there any of you who do??
Please tell me!

Thats great you want to award doctors, but the price of healthcare is already astronomical. There are thousands of people without health insurance and unable to recive healthcare. So your saying you want to raise the cost of healthcare so less people can be helped so the doctors can be paid more?

You can't compare actors and doctors, their money is comming from completely different places. Actors are being paid by rich producers and advertisers, doctors are being paid by us and insurance companies, which we pay for. Yes, it may seem unfair, but thats life. If you want to pay doctors more, it has to come out of your pocket.

And as for these "stupid snotty celebrities" as you generalized, many of them are not that way at all. They give a lot of time and money to different causes and charities that help many people. I think you are being a little unfair.

Hey It's Here To Help a.k.a. Gessyka

YOU'RE SO MEAN Advice1300. I'm going to find a way to kick you off advicenators. You tell people to kill themselves and use profanity towards them?? What is that? You obviously are depsperate...you probably have nobody. Listen if you have anger TALK TO US ABOUT IT! Don't call anyone names.
*stifles laugh* you're sooo....ugh!

Get a life you little baby. People deserve better advice then from someone like you.
Who agrees???

Don't ask Advice 1300 a question...she may pop another blood vessel trying to think of another 'great' insult to your question.

Listen here Gessyka, you are being just as bad as those columnist that are leaving pointless comments. This is an advice column, not a place to tell people you don't like them. If you have a problem, bring it up with the administrator.

Greetings, it's me, the advicenator_admin. Lately I've been receiving more requests to have people monitor the site for unsuitable content. Some people would rather give bad advice. I haven't cared much before, I mean, annoying questions are a problem because everyone reads those, but not everyone reads every advice column so who cares how bad it is? I look at advice columns like your own websites... unless it's really hateful, I see no need to try to ban people. Plus, so far when a columnist joins and decides it's funny to slam everyone and be mean, they've gotten sick of it after ten questions or so. No need to pick a fight when they're dropping out anyway.

What do you all think? Should we ban people with really awful columns? Not display columnists with really low ratings? Ignore everything, and just let the site run free? I want to know what everybody thinks.

I agree with banning those very few columnists that give nothing but rude and obseen comments. It's not advice of any kind, and no one wants to see it.

I wouldn't worry about banning the colmnist with low ratings though. The ratings don't always seem fair, some columnists are just speaking their minds, but people give bad ratings anyway because they didn't like what they heard.

See, I like this guy but I don't know if he likes me . I don't want to ask him because, he's really proud and he can sometimes be a jerk . He's never been a jerk to me though, but one of my friends asked him if he liked me , and he supposedly called me ugly which lead to no . I have tried to get over him and at times I think I'm over him . So when I pay him no attention it's like he's paying me attention, and I totally get pulled back into liking maybe loving him because this has been going on for a year . Do you think maybe I have a chance with this guy . Do you think that I or maybe he is playing a game ? What should I do? PLEASE HELP ME BECAUSE IF I THINK ABOUT THIS ANY LONGER , I AM GOING TO DO SOMETHING REALLY, REALLY STUPID .

He's a jerk that is palying games with you. Come on, he even called you ugly. What do you see in this guy? Do you want to be with some guy that treats you like crap and is a jerk to your friends. I don't know about you, but I see no appeal in that. I promise you there are much nicer guys out there.

At first, this problem seems simple. In my Journalism class, we have a Journalism website. A girl in the class had 5 weeks to write her column. At the very last minute, she asks someone to write it for her. Simple solution for me, right? Just rat her out! Wrong. The girl who wrote the column for the slacker happens to be one of my friends--I sit next to her every day at lunch. What do I do? Do I rat her out, or just keep my peace?

Leave it be, it really is non of your bussiness anyway. It was your friends choice to write the paper for the girl. She did it as a favor, don't get your friend in trouble for it. It may seem unfair that this girl didn't have to do the work, but things like this happen all the time in the real world, don't get so bent out of shape. Besides, no one likes a rat.

All of my friends are really worried about me because I cut myself. My parents don't know I still cut, but they know that I used to. I'm addicted to hurting myself and I don't want to stop. Everyone wants to change me but I refuse to. How do I get everyone to stop trying to get me to change?

You have to understand that what you are doing is unhealthy, and that is why everyone that cares about you is trying to make you stop. Cutting yourself will solve nothing, it just takes the pain away breifey. You need to start finding better ways to deal with your problems. Do you ever speak to a counsler? Just talking out your problems to a non-partial person may help a lot. I know this is not what you want to hear, but I also hope that you do change.

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