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I may be pregnant and the father may leave us...
Hello, I may be pregnant with a seperated mans baby. Now I'm thinking of all the scenarios that could happen and need advice. I want what's in the best interested for my child. Now this man is technically still married and has a child with his wife, they all have the same lastname. If I had the child and was not married, is it wrong to give the child my lastname? What about child support issues? I'd never keep the baby from his dad, but what if the father denies this baby? I would want to put him on the birth certificate but what if he's not there, can he still be put on it? I live in the state of Pennsylvania. Please any advice would help.
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okay first of all make sure your pregnant, then if so talk to the father, tell him the situation and le thim know he is the father and that he needs to help, it sounds like you are fosure keeping the baby but if things start to not work out remember there are always other things you can do as in adouption. No, its not wrong to give your child your last name, talk about the child support issue wit the father in question and same wit if he will take any responsibility for the child. i hope i helped even a little if you want to know anything more about adouption feel free to sk i know alot about it!
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The very FIRST thing you need to do is find out whether or not you really are pregnant. If you are then the SECOND thing you need to do is tell the baby's father. If you decide to keep the baby then he is the person you should talk to about child support.
Make sure that if you ARE pregnant that you explore all of your options VERY CAREFULLY to find out what's best for you and your unborn child. Deciding to have a baby is a HUGE decision and not one that you should just jump into.
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I'm sure both of you were aware of the complications of having unprotected sex. The STD's and HIV/AIDS issues alone should have been enough to make both think twice but that's beside the point now that a pregnancy maybe be involved. My advice to you is to be honest and tell the father about your concerns, regardless of his marital status. You didn't make this baby alone and shouldn't shoulder the responsibility alone. Check with your human resource service (HRS) to find out what steps can be taken to secure support for the child if the father resists in excepting financial responsibility. You can't force him to be a part of the child's life but you can seek his financial assistance. It's not wrong to want your child to bare the father's last name but depending on the state's laws where you are, it may not be his choice in the matter. Check with the state's (paternity) laws before pressing the issue. Having a child alone is never an easy decision but the suffering can be minimized financially if both are participating toward the child's welfare. In otherwords, don't be the martyr for a situation you didn't create alone!
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First of all i found myself in a similar situation, and dont worry give all your problems to God and everything will be ok.You dont have to give the baby your ex last name , especailly if your not married to him , and he doesnt want to know , you will feel prouder giving the baby your own name because you alone fought hard to raise the child by yourself. child support has nothing to do with last names, if needed they will take a partnernity test to prove he is the father, also im not sure you can put the fathers name down if he is not present they will either leave it blank or just put unknown, hope ive been of some help, takecare of yourself and baby.x
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you need to get child support if he is not going to take care of his child you should stop him from seeing his son or daughter cause if he's not going to take care of his child he don't need to see him then he will relize what he has lost and then he will take care of his child inless he is heartless. i wish the bst for you
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Yes, you woukd be able to give your child your last name. Now for support issues whether or not he wants to help raise the child he will have to give your monthly checks to support the baby this is by law so don't worry about that. Well even if the father denies the child is his for your sake and the childs sake make sure when the baby is born you get a blood test done on the potential father that why there is proof he is the father and he has to send you monthly checks for child support. If the father consents to his name being on the birth certificate then yes you can, and im not sure if they do it anymore but if you say the fathers name is whatever they can place it on the birth certificate. Hope this helped.,
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Wether you are married to the man or not, you can give the baby your name. I think you should give the baby your name. And yes, you should be able to out the name of the father on the birth certificate even if he is not there. As for child support, it's up to you and the father how you want to work it out. If he refuses to help, you could take him to court. But it really is up to you on what you want to do. Good luck!
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