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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

advice

this is deff under the wrong category but whatever.
how can i smoke pot in my room and hide the smell from my parents?

I have to agree with Laura below me.

You may be able to hide it or even cover it up [though that will be very hard and very unlikely], but eventually, you WILL get caught.

And then what?

Will it really have been worth it?

You want to know how I get high? Enjoying life. You should try that.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm 17/f and recently I've been having feelings towards my basketball coach (He's 26). A couple nights ago the whole team including him went out to go bowling. It was like we weren't even there with the team, there was flirting and you know the whole "bet I can beat your score", and random touches when we passed by each other. And it's not just on his part it's me too. What should I do? Should I talk to him about this?

Thanks
Confused Basketball

Don't even involve yourself with this.

We had a girl in my school district who was having relations with a teacher, and he was sent to prison. I'm not really sure how long, or what the charges were, but he lost his job.

And as for the girl? She was the laughing stock of my town [at least of the people her age-- I'm like 4 years younger than her] pretty much until she graduated.

So think about what you're going to do, or maybe wait until you graduate to even consider this.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Was that creepy person thing with the accent and the weird braids, supposed to be a guy or a girl?
I don't think it tells you in the movie.
I'm just curious.

http://www.reelfilm.com/images/50first.jpg

If it's who I'm thinking of, it's a man.

Because that guy is in pretty much all of Adam Sandler's movies.


**EDIT**

Oh.. okay. Well then it's woman ;]

--Jack
(17/m)

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I tend to break out on my cheeks alot. My face is clear everywhere but there and nothing seems to help. I've tried different washes and spot treatments, and they just won't go away. Does anyone have any recommendations for good products that have helped? Or any home remedies too? Thanks!

Hey. I know this sounds weird, odd, strange, etc., but what I'm about to say to you ACTUALLY works:

Get some lemon juice. You got the lemon juice? Alright- now take the lemon juice- and take a Q-tip and dab some lemon juice onto your zit with the lemon juice. Just a thin layer- not the whole bottle, silly! =D

Alright- so doing this at night is the best thing to do- it will really reduce the size and shape of the zit- and you won't know it was there in a few days.

Make sure not to touch it with your fingers after you put on the lemon juice- the oils from your fingers will stop the effect.

Relax- everyone gets zits- so you're only normal =D.

And here's a forum discussion from one of my friends on here that talks a lot about acne:

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=368&userboard_id=35415

From there:

Acne pretty much sucks ass and we all hate them.
I'll pretty much share what I know and my experiences.

So, I used to have really bad acne for like 2 freaking years. It sucked and I hated it. But now I'm better and here are my views on stuff:

Dermatologists are hard to get an appointment with and very pricey. They don't do much except look at you once, then they have their assistants take care of you after the dermatologist her/himself prescribes you acne medicine. It's usually Differin [sp?] and Benzaclin [sp?].

OTC Medicine:
Not all medication work effectively on all people. I've learn that it doesn't work for me or for anyone with sensitive skin. It may work for some people but as soon as they stop the use, acne comes back. Whether it's a cream, gel, or oral medication, they all suck! They dry out your skin, irritate it, increase sunburns/tans, and enlarge your pores. Not your dream skin, huh? And ironically, they sometimes make it worse. And you know what the 'best' part is? They're freakishly expensive! And once you stop the medication, acne comes back and parties like there's not tomorrow. Oral medication also makes your insides bad =/

Acne Products:
Acne face wash, gel, cream, whatever. Proactive seems to be a big one, too. Anywhos, as I've mentioned above, some work for some people while it makes everything worse for other people. It all depends. But most of the time, all those products dry your skin out, irritate it, and/or makes your acne worse. And it enlarges your pores too. Again, not very dreamy. And if they do work, as soon as you stop using them, they come back. Same line second verse.

So what the hell are you suppose to do?
Go the natural, cheap way.

Washing your face:
Wash your face gently only twice a day. Once is okay, I guess. But washing your face when you get up and before you go to bed is a good idea. More than twice a day could irritate your skin. Also, do not scrub your face, wash it gently as if you were washing a baby. Use face friendly products, too. I recommend a brand called Cetaphile. It's gentle on your skin and softens it. PAT your face dry with a clean towel.

Towels and pillow cases:
Try and change them as much as you can. Every day would be PERFECT but hard to do sometimes.

Squeezing:
Not only does that sound disgusting, it is. And it leaves nasty scars. Don't touch your face at all unless you have a slight itch. Don't rest your chin/cheeks in your hands or your arm. Just leave it alone as if it was a $10,000,000 mask that if you touch, you'll get arrested for. Oh, and try to keep your hair out of your face.

Sleeping:
Sleeping plays a big, huge role. Your body starts to renew its skin starting around 10PM and ending around 2AM. So be sure to be sleeping somewhere in between or the entire time. Sleeping early helps, and getting adequate sleep improves your skin and its tone.

Eating:
Milk makes acne worse. It's scientifically proven. Junk foods, sweet, sugars. ALL BAD FOR YOU PERIOD. Avoid/limit them along with sodas even if they're diet. Sports drink contain loads of sugar. Juices, too. Instead, eat healthy foods like veggies and fruits! I've noticed that my skin improve immensely when I turned vegetarian. So maybe give a shot to eating lots of veggies and fruits and other healthy stuff and cut down on meat? Also try and drink green tea [tea bag with no added sugar] or green tea with aloe [again, tea bag with no added sugar].

Masks:
Home made masks are probably the best. Here are few that work and softens your skin:

1. Red ginseng syrupy liquid thing mixed with warm water and a bit of all purpose flour. Make a mask thing with that.

2. Green tea [tea bag] cooled down to room temperature. Splash it on your face for 5min or so. I know it sounds weird but it helps. Or mix it with a little bit of all purpose flour and make a mask.

3. Mix warm milk, honey, and all purpose flour. Make a mask with that.

Only do the mask right after you washed your face. Make sure you don't put on any lotion and what not. Do not leave it on for more than 10-15min because bacteria will become attracted to the mask. Do not laugh, squint, whatever. Just keep your face neutral or you'll get wrinklies. Do not peel the mask off. Slowly wash it off GENTLY with LUKEWARM water. Keyword: GENTLY.

Lotions and make ups and what not:
Lotions/Sunblocks have products that won't clog pores, are fragrance and oil free. I suggest you buy from either Neutrogena or...some other renown company. I use Neutrogena's Oil Free Moisturizing Face Lotion and Neutrogena's Oil Free 55 SPF Sunblock. And Aveeno's 50 SPF Sunblcok [oil free] sometimes.

Make up should be limited to only eye and lip make up. No foundation, no concealer, not blush, no powder. Get my drift? Good. If you MUST wear make up, limit it down to special occasions [School does NOT count] and take it off as soon as you can. Whatever you do, do NOT go to bed with make up on!



--Jack
(17/m)

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How do you make-out?

I know this sounds really lame, and I'm sure it is ;]

But just go with the flow. I don't really have experience in how to "properly" kiss, nor do I have experience with kissing at all! Can you say prude? ;]

Anyway- if it's your boyfriend/girlfriend- just be honest with him/her. Tell them you're nervous and you don't really know what you're doing. Apparently the people who are less-experienced is a big turn-on to some people.

Do what you feel comfortable with. If something feels awkward or uncomfortable, don't do it. If it feels right, ask the person if they are okay with that, and if they are- then you'll be fine.

There really isn't a CORRECT way to do it. Everyone does what they are comfortable with.

From my weak experience- this is what I can tell you:

1. Don't come on strong- it's really awkward for the other person.
2. Don't slobber all over the other person.
3. Don't stick your tongue all the way down their throat.


My friend on here, Laura, answered a question similar to this, and she gave a great answer. I will copy her answer, but know that credit goes to her.

www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542699

Honestly, you could read a book about it, and you'd probably forget everything once you went in for the kiss.


Explore. Do what feels right. Make it fun, playful, romantic, whatever you want it to be. Don't make it all about jamming your tongue down his throat, and try not to drool all over him, because it's generally less than desireable to do so.


If you come off as confident it'll be a lot more fun. If all evening you're thinking "Oh my gosh, this is going to be bad" you won't enjoy yourself. Follow his lead at first, if you're truly that nervous.


And really, it's almost impossible to find a truly bad kisser. If anything, they might do something you're not used to; give it a chance before you hate it. Who knows, he might be thinking the same thing right now about you!


Over time, you'll develop your own personal style of kissing/making out, and that's not a bad thing. Do whatever feels good/right to you, and gets a positive reaction. For example, some people love a gentle, or less than gentle, bite of the lip, "necking", and other techniques. Like I already said, experiment & make it fun!


From personal experience I'd advise that you brush your teeth and floss, and have some mild mints with you, like TicTacs. Fruity is usually good, and less overpowering. If you're at a party, don't worry too much about what you're eating if you're both eating the same things, but a huge plate of hummus & extra garlic is a bad choice right before kissing =P. That's where mints come in handy for both of you. Casually offer him one if he's been gorging on something stinky.


--Jack
(17/m)

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I have a project to do on the holocaust
and we can choose what kind of visual aid we want to do.
We cant do a poster though, i dont know what to do?

I like the Powerpoint idea, I was going to suggest it.

You could do a skit or a diorama in a shoebox, where you maybe have a model concentration camp?

--Jack
(17/m)

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i like this boy and he the first boy like seen me and my boyfriend broke up and he stop talking to me but he told me that we could talk and chill if i have sex with him

Yeah, don't do it. The guy's a user. He only wants you for sex.

--Jack
(17/m)

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15/f
theres this guy that I've been liking since the end of 7th grade and in 8th me and him started to get closer in a friendship way. In the beginning of 8th grade I told him I liked him and he said that he doesn't want to hurt me if we went out so we didn't like two months later he helped me out with some personal problems and we turned out to be best friends. I was going out with other people and so was he, but I began to feel strongly towards him. He moved in at the end of 8th grade and right now we're going to diffrent high schools, but I still think about him all the time and I love him now. Last month I asked him if he ever liked me and he said yes. Then I asked him why didn't you ask me out and he said he was with this one girl for a while. He use to mention her to me alot and personally I think she's a slut from what he told me. Do you think if he really liked me he would of asked me out? And in your opinion do you think he ever thinks about me as I think about him? Please tell me all of your honest opinions on everything. Thank you

Thanks for inboxing.

Just because you like someone doesn't mean you have to ask them out. I've liked plenty of girls that I've never asked out. It's natural.

It's not like EVERY time you like someone you HAVE to ask them out. The world would go crazy!

He might, but if you two don't talk much anymore, then probably not. I think the smartest thing for you to do is to accept that he moved and that maybe you should move on and start to focus on other things.

--Jack
(17/m)

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i have moderate acne...its pretty much just around my mouth area and like 2 on my forehead...ive been on these pills subscirbed by my dermotologist and she gave me this wash and lotion and ive been using that for like a month and the only thing the wash does it dry out my skin and make me get more pimples...i have clean and clear morning burst (orange with microbeads) and i hear that clean&clear works for alot of people and also that stuff that dries out your skin just gives you more pimples...should i try clean and clear? or something softer for my skin?

Hey. I know this sounds weird, odd, strange, etc., but what I'm about to say to you ACTUALLY works:

Get some lemon juice. You got the lemon juice? Alright- now take the lemon juice- and take a Q-tip and dab some lemon juice onto your zit with the lemon juice. Just a thin layer- not the whole bottle, silly! =D

Alright- so doing this at night is the best thing to do- it will really reduce the size and shape of the zit- and you won't know it was there in a few days.

Make sure not to touch it with your fingers after you put on the lemon juice- the oils from your fingers will stop the effect.

Relax- everyone gets zits- so you're only normal =D.

And here's a forum discussion from one of my friends on here that talks a lot about acne:


http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=368&userboard_id=35415

From there:

Acne pretty much sucks ass and we all hate them.
I'll pretty much share what I know and my experiences.

So, I used to have really bad acne for like 2 freaking years. It sucked and I hated it. But now I'm better and here are my views on stuff:

Dermatologists are hard to get an appointment with and very pricey. They don't do much except look at you once, then they have their assistants take care of you after the dermatologist her/himself prescribes you acne medicine. It's usually Differin [sp?] and Benzaclin [sp?].

OTC Medicine:
Not all medication work effectively on all people. I've learn that it doesn't work for me or for anyone with sensitive skin. It may work for some people but as soon as they stop the use, acne comes back. Whether it's a cream, gel, or oral medication, they all suck! They dry out your skin, irritate it, increase sunburns/tans, and enlarge your pores. Not your dream skin, huh? And ironically, they sometimes make it worse. And you know what the 'best' part is? They're freakishly expensive! And once you stop the medication, acne comes back and parties like there's not tomorrow. Oral medication also makes your insides bad =/

Acne Products:
Acne face wash, gel, cream, whatever. Proactive seems to be a big one, too. Anywhos, as I've mentioned above, some work for some people while it makes everything worse for other people. It all depends. But most of the time, all those products dry your skin out, irritate it, and/or makes your acne worse. And it enlarges your pores too. Again, not very dreamy. And if they do work, as soon as you stop using them, they come back. Same line second verse.

So what the hell are you suppose to do?
Go the natural, cheap way.

Washing your face:
Wash your face gently only twice a day. Once is okay, I guess. But washing your face when you get up and before you go to bed is a good idea. More than twice a day could irritate your skin. Also, do not scrub your face, wash it gently as if you were washing a baby. Use face friendly products, too. I recommend a brand called Cetaphile. It's gentle on your skin and softens it. PAT your face dry with a clean towel.

Towels and pillow cases:
Try and change them as much as you can. Every day would be PERFECT but hard to do sometimes.

Squeezing:
Not only does that sound disgusting, it is. And it leaves nasty scars. Don't touch your face at all unless you have a slight itch. Don't rest your chin/cheeks in your hands or your arm. Just leave it alone as if it was a $10,000,000 mask that if you touch, you'll get arrested for. Oh, and try to keep your hair out of your face.

Sleeping:
Sleeping plays a big, huge role. Your body starts to renew its skin starting around 10PM and ending around 2AM. So be sure to be sleeping somewhere in between or the entire time. Sleeping early helps, and getting adequate sleep improves your skin and its tone.

Eating:
Milk makes acne worse. It's scientifically proven. Junk foods, sweet, sugars. ALL BAD FOR YOU PERIOD. Avoid/limit them along with sodas even if they're diet. Sports drink contain loads of sugar. Juices, too. Instead, eat healthy foods like veggies and fruits! I've noticed that my skin improve immensely when I turned vegetarian. So maybe give a shot to eating lots of veggies and fruits and other healthy stuff and cut down on meat? Also try and drink green tea [tea bag with no added sugar] or green tea with aloe [again, tea bag with no added sugar].

Masks:
Home made masks are probably the best. Here are few that work and softens your skin:

1. Red ginseng syrupy liquid thing mixed with warm water and a bit of all purpose flour. Make a mask thing with that.

2. Green tea [tea bag] cooled down to room temperature. Splash it on your face for 5min or so. I know it sounds weird but it helps. Or mix it with a little bit of all purpose flour and make a mask.

3. Mix warm milk, honey, and all purpose flour. Make a mask with that.

Only do the mask right after you washed your face. Make sure you don't put on any lotion and what not. Do not leave it on for more than 10-15min because bacteria will become attracted to the mask. Do not laugh, squint, whatever. Just keep your face neutral or you'll get wrinklies. Do not peel the mask off. Slowly wash it off GENTLY with LUKEWARM water. Keyword: GENTLY.

Lotions and make ups and what not:
Lotions/Sunblocks have products that won't clog pores, are fragrance and oil free. I suggest you buy from either Neutrogena or...some other renown company. I use Neutrogena's Oil Free Moisturizing Face Lotion and Neutrogena's Oil Free 55 SPF Sunblock. And Aveeno's 50 SPF Sunblcok [oil free] sometimes.

Make up should be limited to only eye and lip make up. No foundation, no concealer, not blush, no powder. Get my drift? Good. If you MUST wear make up, limit it down to special occasions [School does NOT count] and take it off as soon as you can. Whatever you do, do NOT go to bed with make up on!



--Jack
(17/m)

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ok so i need some kissing tips some really good ones

I know this sounds really lame, and I'm sure it is ;]

But just go with the flow. I don't really have experience in how to "properly" kiss, nor do I have experience with kissing at all! Can you say prude? ;]

Anyway- if it's your boyfriend/girlfriend- just be honest with him/her. Tell them you're nervous and you don't really know what you're doing. Apparently the people who are less-experienced is a big turn-on to some people.

Do what you feel comfortable with. If something feels awkward or uncomfortable, don't do it. If it feels right, ask the person if they are okay with that, and if they are- then you'll be fine.

There really isn't a CORRECT way to do it. Everyone does what they are comfortable with.

From my weak experience- this is what I can tell you:

1. Don't come on strong- it's really awkward for the other person.
2. Don't slobber all over the other person.
3. Don't stick your tongue all the way down their throat.


My friend on here, Laura, answered a question similar to this, and she gave a great answer. I will copy her answer, but know that credit goes to her.

www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542699

Honestly, you could read a book about it, and you'd probably forget everything once you went in for the kiss.


Explore. Do what feels right. Make it fun, playful, romantic, whatever you want it to be. Don't make it all about jamming your tongue down his throat, and try not to drool all over him, because it's generally less than desireable to do so.


If you come off as confident it'll be a lot more fun. If all evening you're thinking "Oh my gosh, this is going to be bad" you won't enjoy yourself. Follow his lead at first, if you're truly that nervous.


And really, it's almost impossible to find a truly bad kisser. If anything, they might do something you're not used to; give it a chance before you hate it. Who knows, he might be thinking the same thing right now about you!


Over time, you'll develop your own personal style of kissing/making out, and that's not a bad thing. Do whatever feels good/right to you, and gets a positive reaction. For example, some people love a gentle, or less than gentle, bite of the lip, "necking", and other techniques. Like I already said, experiment & make it fun!


From personal experience I'd advise that you brush your teeth and floss, and have some mild mints with you, like TicTacs. Fruity is usually good, and less overpowering. If you're at a party, don't worry too much about what you're eating if you're both eating the same things, but a huge plate of hummus & extra garlic is a bad choice right before kissing =P. That's where mints come in handy for both of you. Casually offer him one if he's been gorging on something stinky.


--Jack
(17/m)

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Are there ways of telling if a guy thinks your cute or not. I am completely oblivious to guys checking me out i guess. the other day my guy friend told me the whole table was checking me out during lunch and i was standing up the whole time n didnt notice any staring. If its guys i dont talk to so they cant act flirty then how can i get into their mind ?

It's in their eyes. If he looks disgusted- he's probably not checking you out. If he looks intrigued, he possibly is checking you out.

Really, that's the only way I can think of that could help you, unless you asked the guys in question.

--Jack
(17/m)

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well lets start by saying im a guy and im 17 still in college (a 6th form in an upper school really) pretty much all of today i have been thinking about this girl that i know hardly anything about. she added me on msn probably 2 days ago and we've talked a little here and there shes a year under me at school. i work in a big food store were i see alot of famillier faces at the weekend's and after about 6 hours of being at work and thinking about her for most of the day i came down from break and i could have sworn i saw her as i turned the corner coming back out in to the shop, my heart jumped and it pumped hard. then i relaxed it because it was some one who just looked alot like her because she was taller. but anyways if im thinkin about her this much but i dont think i love her what is it? :S its confusing i dont really know enough about her to want to get into a relationship or ask her out or anything... could it just be that i think she could be some one i would like to get to know better? shes really sweet and shy but quite easy to talk to once you get her going :P i dunno what do you think this is?

quick summary:
i dont love her
she is a friend though
i dont really know alot about her
i'v known of her for about a year now since she joind our 6th form
i think about her quite a bit and i dont know why
im confused, am i feeling hope?

iv also not had a girlfreind since year 10 (so its close on 4 years of being single)

You hit the nail on the head when you said:

"Could it just be that I think she could be some one I would like to get to know better?"

That's it. So do it; get to know her better.

Sorry, I just like to get to the point ;].

--Jack
(17/m)

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i love this boy so much and we broke up over the summer and i still love him but he like me but as a friend but i think about him everyday and sometime he tell me tht he miss me all the time me and him is atill single from this day but he don't stay with one girl but i miss him i just whish we could get back 2othger

This is going to sound harsh.

Give it up. If he really "missed you" you two would still be together. He doesn't love you, trust me. He's moved on, and really, you should too.

Trust me, there are many guys out there who won't lie to you like this guy is.

--Jack
(17/m)

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13/F Im in love. plz dont lecture bout being to young to be in love. But problem is we lost contact for awhile and he has a girlfriend now. He said he started to love me before. But he talks to me like we used to even though he has a gf and he likes me a little more every day but i dont want him to hurt his gf

My best advice is to just stay clear of this guy until he is not with his girlfriend anymore [hopefully that has nothing to do with you].

Being "that girl" is never a smart move. Plus, the guy is probably really confused right now, and with you talking to him, it doesn't help.

Give him his space until he decides what he's going to do.

In the meantime, stop thinking about him.

--Jack
(17/m)

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alright so, i've been thinking about trying to start talking to my ex again. I'm just not sure how to start about a conversation, i could use all the advice i can get.
thanks ^_^

When I did this, I just started with "Hey, what's up?" and whatnot.

But really, you have two options:

1. Talk about how to move further as friends despite your relationship past.
2. Avoid talking about it, and just kind of do it.


Personally, the first is far more proactive and useful; it gets the point across and leaves everything on the table. There is no confusion and if there is, it can easily be cleared.

But don't start your conversation with "Hey, so yeah, I was thinking, let's try to move past what happened. Basically even though I think you're a bitch..." etc.

Ease into it ;].

--Jack
(17/m)

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hey, jack!

listen, so i'm having some SERIOUS trouble and i really need your help on what to do! for background info, read the following two questions, both of which were written by me.

1. http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=555578
2. http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=555364

so, just to update you, i've liked this guy for almost a month now and he definitely likes "m." she doesn't like him but they're inseparable and it breaks my heart. i just want to be really good friends with him, you know? he's not a pimp / hot shot kind of guy so i can't just casually be like, "let's hang out -- just the two of us" cause he'll definitely get the hint and i don't necessarily want him to know, nor do i necessarily want to date him. i don't want to tell him how i feel, but my dilemma is that, in a nutshell, three of my guyfriends owe me favors, one of which ("b") is practically best friends with my crush. perfect, right? well not quite. "b" is one of my best friend's boyfriends, and if i tell "b", he'll automatically tell her, and i don't necessarily want her to know. i just want to do something about the situation. i don't know whether to tell "b" or not. some people complain of trust issues with him but he seems like the perfect guy to tell since he's such good friends with my crush.

i do so much to please my crush -- i help him so much with homework (i sometimes do it for him) and i feel happy when he's happy and sad when he's sad except... i get very jealous of HIS crush, "m." she's really kind-hearted and all (i.e., she's not a backstabbing slutty bitch who wears too much make-up) so it's difficult to be upset with her, but i'm just very jealous that he likes her.

i recently got a few friends together to hang out and he couldn't come. i was really sad, but i don't have time to just get a whole bunch of kids together to hang out, you know? i just want to help him as much as i possibly can and make him happy.

please help me, jack. i don't know what to do.

Hey. Thanks for inboxing.

Here's your main problem, or at least what is screaming out at me:

"i don't necessarily want him to know, nor do i necessarily want to date him. i don't want to tell him how i feel"

If you don't want him to know you like him, if you don't want to date him, and if you don't want to tell him how you feel, well then what DO you want?

I don't really see anything else you CAN do concerning him, besides getting to know him. But it seems like you already kind of do.

So unless you want to date him, you want him to know how you feel, or you want him to know about your crush on him, then there's nothing to do. Which means your crush on him isn't going to lead you anywhere.

So be proactive in the relationship, or it's never going anywhere.

--Jack
(17/m)

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15/f
okay my problem is i masturbate but i masturbate with a little back massager thing that vibrates on my clitoris. and im really worried because things have been going quickly with this guy and not only him but ive been in many situations where a guy wanted to finger me but i said no because i was worried i wouldnt be able to orgasm for it. basically im just worried, idk if i would orgasm from just fingering inside.

Most girls don't have an orgasm, and rarely do they have them.

So you probably won't. So there should be nothing to worry about.

I don't see why it would matter much anyway? It's not like the guy would care?

--Jack
(17/m)

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i had cybersex with a girl recently but i found no pleasure in it. It didn't arouse me and i didn't enjoy. word is out and now people think i'm bisexual. could this be true? im not attracted to girls in that way but im just asking could i be lying to myself?

You're just a teenager.

You don't have to decide anything right now. Just relax. Who cares what people say? No one knows you as well as you, and that's all that matters.


--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm writing an essay in English concerning the different life styles of teenagers in high school. If you guys could answer a few questions just to give me a few ideas, I'd totally appreciate it. :)

1. What kind of things do you do? (Sports, clubs etc.)

2. Do you have 1 best friend that you spend a lot of time with or a group of friends you spend all your time with?

3. Does your school have lockers outside? Anything cool about your school-block schedule? Stuff like that.

4. Are drugs and drinking big concerns at your school?

5. Finally, is your high school life fun? Do you spend most of your time studying or hanging out with friends? Do you go out with friends every weekend? What kind of stuff do you do?

You can answer some or all of the questions, I'm just trying to get a few different ideas. Thanks!

1. I am in: International Thespian Society, National Honor Society, Key Club, and Drama.

2. I have like 5 good friends I hang out with. They're in the plays with me, so I end up spending hours on end with them.

3. No, we have lockers inside. Why would they be outside? We have 6 hours in the day. On Wednesdays we have 7, because we have a Cougar Hour, which is like a study hall, kind of. But you can go to any teacher and get extra help, make up tests, etc. It's helpful. Our mascot is the Cougar, by the way.

4. Yeah, our school takes it very seriously. It's automatic 30-day suspension if you're thought to have drugs. I'd say like 70-80% of the people have tried alcohol at least once. I think 40% of people have smoked something at least once. But I think people do all of it for attention.

5. I hated high school in freshmen year and sophomore year. This year, I started to like it more, but then I realized that I'm sick of it again. The people are irritating, and I can only tolerate so much. I spend equal time studying and hanging out. I spend most of my weekends with family. We play board games =].

--Jack
(17/m/Junior)

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so im 18/female

i've always had probelms with my skin, well my face probably since 8th grade or so. i have more of an "oily" face if thats what you want to call it. i have alot of little bumps on my forehead AND around my chin area and sometimes on my cheeks. i dont play sports or anything, dont work out. i dont know why i always get this? it never goes away! sometimes they turn into pimples too. they're like blackheads, alot of them. i wash my face twice a day, once in the morning and once at night. i wash it with noxema. my parents pretty much wont pay for me to get this fixed, and i really dont have the money at all right now with paying for college and my car. is there anything i could buy though that would help clear this? not proactive, my brother tried it and it didnt work at all and my friend also. any face wash, i just need something!!

You're going to laugh.

Lemon juice.

No joke. I put some on this morning, as I do about once a week [the other days, I only wash my face].

Here's a link to a question I've answered similar to yours, and it will tell you how to apply it and whatnot. I am honestly just feeling really tired right now, so I don't feel like retyping it:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367


I hope you don't mind.

--Jack
(17/m)

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