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my crush :(
hey, jack!
listen, so i'm having some SERIOUS trouble and i really need your help on what to do! for background info, read the following two questions, both of which were written by me.
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so, just to update you, i've liked this guy for almost a month now and he definitely likes "m." she doesn't like him but they're inseparable and it breaks my heart. i just want to be really good friends with him, you know? he's not a pimp / hot shot kind of guy so i can't just casually be like, "let's hang out -- just the two of us" cause he'll definitely get the hint and i don't necessarily want him to know, nor do i necessarily want to date him. i don't want to tell him how i feel, but my dilemma is that, in a nutshell, three of my guyfriends owe me favors, one of which ("b") is practically best friends with my crush. perfect, right? well not quite. "b" is one of my best friend's boyfriends, and if i tell "b", he'll automatically tell her, and i don't necessarily want her to know. i just want to do something about the situation. i don't know whether to tell "b" or not. some people complain of trust issues with him but he seems like the perfect guy to tell since he's such good friends with my crush.
i do so much to please my crush -- i help him so much with homework (i sometimes do it for him) and i feel happy when he's happy and sad when he's sad except... i get very jealous of HIS crush, "m." she's really kind-hearted and all (i.e., she's not a backstabbing slutty bitch who wears too much make-up) so it's difficult to be upset with her, but i'm just very jealous that he likes her.
i recently got a few friends together to hang out and he couldn't come. i was really sad, but i don't have time to just get a whole bunch of kids together to hang out, you know? i just want to help him as much as i possibly can and make him happy.
please help me, jack. i don't know what to do.
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Hey. Thanks for inboxing.
Here's your main problem, or at least what is screaming out at me:
"i don't necessarily want him to know, nor do i necessarily want to date him. i don't want to tell him how i feel"
If you don't want him to know you like him, if you don't want to date him, and if you don't want to tell him how you feel, well then what DO you want?
I don't really see anything else you CAN do concerning him, besides getting to know him. But it seems like you already kind of do.
So unless you want to date him, you want him to know how you feel, or you want him to know about your crush on him, then there's nothing to do. Which means your crush on him isn't going to lead you anywhere.
So be proactive in the relationship, or it's never going anywhere.
--Jack
(17/m)
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