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okay so im 160 and 5'4
i know thats overweight but im seriously working on it and improving. i honestly dont think im ugly,but i know im not beautiful. i get a lot of comments on my green eyes. so thats good. oh and i have brown and (with a cute haircut:). okay so my problem is last year in eighth grade i had 2 bestfriends and we stopped being friends for whatever reason i dont even know. so this year im stuck with very few friends. and i really want more, a lot more. but the thing is im super quiet and shy unless i get to know you then i cant shut up. so my first question is how can i get more friends and be less quiet and shy?!?!?
alright my second problem is i dont have ANY guy friends and i want a boyfriend SO BAD! you dont even know... so like how can i get guy friends or even boyfriends?!?! like the only guys numbers i have are reletives.. and im 14! thats rediculus...
well the only time guys talk to me is to ask me a question on school work or something because they think im smart just cuz i have glasses. but im getting clear contacts in march(:
so i mean its hard because i want all of this so bad! what do i do. and i cant talk to my mom because i dont live with her, and im a total daddys girl. and he will like chop me up and eat me for breakfast if i even mention dating (well i think) cuz he thinks im a super good girl.
sooooooo ya please help me, im desperate!!
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you sound just like me in ninth grade. except i have blonde hair. haha. anyway, i was really shy and quiet, but since then(i'm a junior now) i've come out of my shell a lot. my advice to you is just to talk more. that's pretty much all you can do. when you see a guy you like or just want to be friends with, talk to him. make a witty remark about something that happened at school that day or something you notice that you two have in common. pretty soon you'll get closer and closer, and beofre you know it you'll have plenty of guy friends! good luck!
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First, your dad knows you are growing up. If he is all you have, then you have to talk to him about it some day. Also, you are only 14, its ok you don't have any guys numbers. The media puts so much pressure on dating, looks, clothing, etc. Honestly, I think you are still fairly young and shouldn't worry about it so much. If you want to make more friends, just try to talk a little more then you do. Talk to peers you know have things in common with you, and you won't have to think real hard for things to talk about. As you expand your circle of friends there will be some boys you'll get to know. Then you can either wait for a boy to make the first move, or you can be bold and be the first to ask a boy out on a date. Goodluck :)
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Hi,
you sound very cute. There are a lot of young girls in the same situation that you are in. I was one of them. The only thing you can do to overcome your shyness is to be more comfortable with yourself and that takes time. You have to be more confident in who you are and have pride in that. That doesn't happen overnight. I assume this has a little to do with your insecurities about your weight. You have to stop telling yourself that you are not beautiful. If you don't think it, no one else is either.
You have to put yourself out there in social situations and just be yourself. There's nothing wrong with standing back and checking out who a person is, but put yourself out there too. Let people see the real you; show them that you can be fun and have a good time. The more you do that, the better you will become at it. You will soon be a social butterfly!
As far as guys are concerned, I wouldn't worry too much. That will also come in time. You will become more comfortable with them in social situations and friendships will form. You will find one that you like and the right one will like you in return. I hope this helped.
Good luck
Ediemarie
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