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How to be more outgoing?!
i'm a pretty outgoing person with my friends,but when it comes to strangers i totally bottle up! i have no clue why,but im always so quiet or have no clue what to say! i REALLY want to get to know some new people and make new friends,but i'm not so sure how? i feel kind of weird for asking how to makes friends,but its really hard for me. i love my friends so much, but meeting new people would be awesome too :D. i'm entertaining,once you get to know me,but i feel like people will never see that if im just a quiet weirdo infrount them ! lately i've felt so dazed-no im not tired,hungry,or anything like that.i always feel out of it.help? :]
also,i have a quick question but theres a lot of explaining involed. when drama is going on, i SERIOUSLY get afraid.i have an "obsession" for helping people and making them feel better when theyre sad.like-if one of my friends isnt happy around me i'll do whatever i can-devote all my attention. But when that doesnt work,i seriously get upset and cant shake it off?its a fear for me too see my friends fighting or hearing people talk about someone too :O. i dont know why,but i always try to stray away from the shit talking topics-which i don't mind at all. i just was wondering is there actually a disease for being afraid of drama? wow i sound like a creep, and could it be possible that i'm ocd about making people happy?
the reason i'm asking these two questions together is because i think they might have something to do with one another.i always feel awkward with new people. i REALLLYYY want to fix that,how?
thanks so much for your time, this was long,sososorry!
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Hey there!
Well one way to meet new people is by meeting friends of your friends. In other words, a friendly blind date haha... If your friends have friends who are exactly like them, maybe you guys can all hang out, go to the movies, go bowling.. and just play games. Like... 20 questions! Hehe, you say you're very entertaining, so how about being like that with your friends, and once your friend's friends sees the way youre acting, they can join in and all of you guys can be hyper! this comes from personal experiance because I am the same way you describe yourself.
As for your second question, there is nothing wrong with you. I too enjoy helping my friends and family, or anyone which is why i joined this site. There isn't anything wrong with feeling down when you try to help people and it doesnt work, because it basically makes you feel like a failure or like youre useless... that's how i feel. But just look at it this way, theyre mad... or sad... so it's hard for them to daze out of that world and feel better. So it just takes patience and time... maybe let them cool off...
hope i helped!
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If you think back to how you got your first friends that might help you!
Then again it could be that there is some underlying issue which is holding you back from becoming friends with new people. I am quite shy around people but how I fix that is, I imagine I'm some famous person and that brings me out of my shell. I say look a famous person isn't shy... I'm famous so why should I be shy! And that helps a whole lot!
I study Behavioral Science in College and it sounds to me like you might just have a phobia of some sort, whether it be of aggression,drama,arguing,people I don't know but those two problems are definitely linked. I would need to talk to you more to figure it out, if you'd like me to try help further (If I was any help at all) Then just private message me!!!
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