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hey iam a 22 year old girl in a muslim coutry where a girl's virginity is very important and an intact hymen has to be preserved till marriage.
now i've had several relationships in which i made out with my bfs & there was penetartion sevral times but i never bled or felt pain the penius goes in smoothly & i did'nt reach an orgasm.i really want to know if iam still a virgin coz i heard tht some people have elastic hymens & tht it does'nt have 2 b broken??? how do i check my hymen & i can't go to a gyno. i really need help please give me some advice. (link)
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Its obviously a big deal in your country. But since the hymen can be broken through a number of activities (riding a bike or horse, exercise, etc.) a guy (not even a doctor) will not be able to tell if you are a virgin by looking at your vagina.
If its ever questioned you can say: My hymen must have broken when I was young. However, that penis went in your vagina, and in all honesty you are no longer a virgin.
If there was no bleeding when you had sex then its likely your hymen was already broken, or was naturally wider. There is no way to tell how it broke.
The hymen is considered a big deal to Muslims because it used to be the only way people could GUESS whether a woman was a virgin and therefore 'pure'. However, modern medecine shows that this is a very inaccurate way of GUESSING. If a woman has a hymen intact then you can say she's DEFINATELY a virgin. If the hymen is not intact then she MIGHT be a virgin.
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I am glad these kids have a place to go where they may get some logical advice about sex (and some bad advice too which is sad)
I am just wondering how many of you "adults" think that too many are having sex too early? To me, they know very little about the consequences--most questions are asked after the fact. Perhaps this shows that sex education is not done early enough and it is not effective enough. What do you think? (link)
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I don't think people are having sex too early. Sex is a marvellous thing, one of the best feelings in the world. It seems unfair to deprive people of that. I think age-related laws are unfair, as they differ from country to country. Who is to say whether someone is mature enough to cope with the implications of sex? There are some very mature 15 year olds out there, and also some very immature ones.
There are risks to sex, and we should provide people with advice to protect themselves from diseases and pregnancy, but I think people can only discover what implications sex will have for them after they've tried it.
Sex education deals mainly with technical facts, like a biology lesson. What needs to be dealt with more are the psychological implications of sex. There should also be room for discussion of the kinds of things people will REALLY be asking, if not aloud!(e.g. how do I get laid? how can I stay with him/her?).
Personally I think sex education is so offputting that it prevents people asking questions at all. This site is great because it lets people ask the things they're REALLY thinking about.
I also think parents have a responsibility to tell children how they were made as soon as they can talk, practically! Too many parents side-step this responsibility.
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Hey guys..
I'm making a CD mix.. and I need suggestions for songs to put on it... my mind is kinda blank, and I can't think about what songs i should put on it...
so far, I've got FOB-"Dance, Dance"
Panic! At the Disco "I write Sins Not Tragedies"
Relient K "Who I am Hates Who I've Been"
Click Five "Just the Girl"
AAR- "Move Along" and "Dirty Little Secret"
any other suggestions??
thanks!
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naughty girl
my humps
holiday
we be burnin
temperature
don cha
we belong together
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I have two tiger barbs in my tank (yes, I know one should keep them is schools). Both fish seem to be healthy and active, but one of the fish lost its coloring days after it was added to the tank. It has taken on a metallic gold/opal color which seems to get worse when the tank light is on. If I leave the tank light off for several hours, the color of the fish darkens almost to natural. It's not a slime or a slick, the actual scales seem to have lost color.
If it matters, I take the fish from my dorm back to my home on occasion. Both fish seem to lose their coloring while I'm home, but only one gains it back when I return them to the dorm. It's very odd, and I was wondering if anyone else had seen this and if they knew how to fix it. (link)
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the best thing i can say is when a fish's color isnt lookin how it is supposed to be, you should buy a light. if it already has one, there are pellets you can put in their tanks that dissolve, and you should ask a petstore persom about that.
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ok ...is it 100% true that when sperm hits the air it dies???? so if the guy pulled out and just whiped it with his hand could it have make me pregnant? thanks!!! i rate 5s! but please only answer if your sure! thanks! (link)
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sperm dont die immediatly. withdrawal isnt always a good form, because some of the sperm still couldve gon inside you.
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Hey,
I have fair skin and im looking for a bathing suite. Im wondering which color suit will look best and not make me look even more pale or make my skin stand out even more. Like black does that make my skin look even lighter? I will get alittle darker this summer but still pretty light. So i need to know which colors would b best. Thank you!
-marsbars (link)
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dont get brown,green, blue, black, or white.
try red, orange, yellowm pink, and pale.
dont get polka dotted bathing suits, but striped (if not plain)
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My mother is having an affair, thing is. If she gets caught by my step-father, he will kick both her and me out. I have two years of school left, and I need to get good grades to get into further study because i dont have much $$. How do i convince her that she's gambling with my entire future? (link)
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well after those other two answers there isnt really much else to say really, try talking to your mum about it. she will be understanding. if you want more help then talk to someone at school/college, there is always someone there who will gladly listen to your problems. they are there to help. i hope this helps a little, sorry i couldnt be more helpful, but if you need anything email me
the-one-you-love@hotmail.co.uk
love Xx
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im 23 & my g/f is 20.her bestfriend hates me,what am i gonna do? (link)
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your girlfriends friend shouldnt matter, but dont say anything horrible, nasty or rude etc to her because at the end of the day she IS your g/f best mate. have you tried talking to her to see why she hates you? if she is single it could be because her friend has someone and she doesnt (perhaps a bit jelous.) or maybe she just doesnt want your g/f to get hurt.
hope this helps, if not leave a msg in ma inbox or email me/add me to msn on
the-one-you-love@hotmail.co.uk x
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what is some good websites for avitars other then avitarhell.com or msndollies.com ? (link)
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Try:
avatarmagic.com
or
Go to photobucket.com and search for what you want. Example: "summer". There are A LOT of summer pictures on there. :)
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14/f.Im 5'4 and i weigh 95 pounds and im 14.
I really want to know how tall ill be when i stop growing. Does anyone know if you had to guess how tall id be? Or how much ill keep growing? i heard that you stop growing like in the middle of school. Is that true?
thanks! (link)
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I'm not sure, but I heard from my mom's friend (who is a doctor, by the way) that girls usually stop growing about 2 years after they get their periods. :)
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Hello,
I'm just wondering what is the normal weight for a 4'9 age 13 girl? I'm 80 pounds, so is that average...? (link)
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Well, I checked your BMI (Body Mass Index) on www.toneteen.com. The lowest weight you should be and still be healthy is 86 lbs., and the highest weight you can be and still be healthy is 113 lbs. You are underweight.
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my ex dumped me he said it wasnt me it was him ( such an old line ) okies well after he dumped me he went over and asked another girl out he didnt even wait 1 hour before dumping me well i nkow there going out cause there always togther and his hugging her and everything but he dosnt want anyone to know cause he will nkow that i will get upset and um i really like him but he likes her and i know he dumped me for her he said he loves me as a sister but that was an excuse to break up im really upset that there going out and he alwys hugs her and everything in front of me and when i ask him are use going out he says no and im kinda jealous please help what do i do i tried hanging with my friends but whereever we go we see htem togther =[=[=[=[ plz plz help :( (link)
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You need to get over this guy. No girl should be treated like you were. Keep yourself busy by hanging out with your girlfriends or joining a club or something at school. Take your mind off of him. Just think to yourself whenever you see them "it's his loss". He's a jerk. Feel better, sweetie. :)
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does anyone know of a free program where you can make some of the picture black and white and the other color? or a website that shows you how to do it? (link)
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I know that The Gimp can do that, you just have to learn how to use the program and play around with it. Here's the site if you want to download it: http://www.gimp.org/ . I really like this program because there is LOADS of stuff you can do to your pictures, other than making them black and white. :)
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Hey,
I have fair skin and im looking for a bathing suite. Im wondering which color suit will look best and not make me look even more pale or make my skin stand out even more. Like black does that make my skin look even lighter? I will get alittle darker this summer but still pretty light. So i need to know which colors would b best. Thank you!
-marsbars (link)
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I'd say lighter colours, and pastels. Not white or black or bright colours. White will blend in with your skin tone, and it won't complement you. Black will make you look more pale than you already are, as will bright colours. So, try pastel colours with some sort of stripes or polka dot design. :)
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does anyone know how to get a layout for an advice column because i want a different one then the choices they give me on advicenators? does anyone know a website or something? thanks =) (link)
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go to photobucket.com and type in the sort of background you want (hearts, stripes, polka dots, etc) then right click, properties, and get the adress or whatever its called
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My thighs are rediculously huge. I'm a dancer so I have a lot of muscle in them. But how can I tone them down? I already know how to gain muscle in them I just want them smaller! (link)
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you can make them look smaller by wearing really short shorts. like fergie in the black eyed peas, she has big thighs, but manages to make them look good by wearing good clothing
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I am now 5'5, 116 lbs, not bad but i have a small figure but huge sides without a butt to go along with it. I need a plan to lose weight in my face (i have chubby cheeks), and get rid of my fatty hips by summer. Does anybody know what excercise and foods I should be eating and how long it would take? thank you, i'll rate! (link)
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for 5'5, 116 is not too bad. you should experiment with many sports, because some sports work better for other people (maybe their just not good?) anyways, i would say a treadmill/jogging. try to stay away from sodas and eat more fruits, and energy bars are good too.
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ok so im f/17 ive never had sex before but ive become ill.weak,cough,flem ect and im scared because my friend keeps talking about aids and im scared.Ive been to the hospital as i felt ill can they tell if i have it from checking me over?or from an x-ray?also my vagina feels weird i can't explain.The doctor asked me if i have discharge my mum was sitting there and i was scared to say yes.I get white stuff is it normal?Im really scared someone help me please and an ocassional liquid.They asked when my last period was i said 2 weeks ago but i think it was last month!!!!!hurry with answers please also im waiting for the blood test results and urine. (link)
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firstly calm down, im sure that there is nothing seriously wrong with you, white discharge is normal so dont worry about that. perhaps you just have an infection. going to the hospital was probably the best thing to do as they will be able to find out what is wrong. sit tight and wait until you get the tests back and from then on if there is something wrong the doctors will help you. talking to your mum will help you with tour worries aswell, im sure she knows how you feel. i hope this helps.
love x
ps if you need anymore help or just someone to talk 2 either leave a messege in my inbox or email me at...
the-one-you-love@hotmail.co.uk xx
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my school's not working for me. i cry every day on my way to school because i hate it so much. it doesn't have anything for me. cheerleader and thers no squad, no friends. i noe wat school i wanna go to... tuition is cheaper, i hav friends, thers a squad. wat way could i convince my mom? ty. i rate high (link)
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have you actually spoken with your mum about your current school? if you dont feel like you can talk to your mum i am sure that there is someone at your school that you can talk to (a teacher for example) im sure that if you explain to your mum how much you dont like it that she will understand. if you need anymore advice please email me on...
the-one-you-love@hotmail.co.uk
hope this helped a little. love
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My best friend always has an attitude so everytime I want to do something with someone else she gets all mad. We just got back campping with each other and she didn't do nothing but have an attitude with me and she blames me on everthing,but she kept hanging out with this other girl. It was by b-day yesterday and were soposed to do something together, but I didn't want to because she was getting on my nerves so I told her I don't want to do nothing.Then she e-mailed me saying fine I wanted to do something else anyway and didn't even say happy b-day!
What should i do?
Should we still be friends? (link)
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perhaps you two have been spending to much time with each other. give each other some space for a while and after things have cooled off for a bit, talk to her and see if she wants to meet up and do something that you both used to enjoy doing together! you will get a shock with how much fun you will have. i hope this helps, if not leave me a messege in my inbox! xx luv
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