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Laura/22/England



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He is always busy and takes me for granted?

Relationships are based on communication, so talk to him about it.
If he is always busy, come up with times when you can see each other.
How does he take you for granted exactly? Tell him this and how you're feeling..
If he doesn't change, then you know what to do.

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do know any where a 13 yr. can work other then babysitting and working 4 family members?

You can't really work at stores. You could try places like fruit shops.. I know younger people have worked in them where I live.
You should do the jobs some people don't have time to do. Like gardening, car washes, window cleaning.. use your imagination. Make some leaflets if you want and hand them to your neighbours.

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well i know this dude for 4 years and i like him but is that his a player and i don't know what to do he had ask me out before and i said ''no'' but now i do want to go out with him what should i do? and the thing is that my friend likes him!!!! But people say that we make a cute couple!!!! sincerely confused,

What made you change your mind?
The fact someone else likes him and you're jealous or the fact you've actually developed feelings for him?
If it's the second option, just be bold and tell him. Or hint at him. "Remember when you asked me out before?" "yes.." "what would you say if I changed my mind?"...
Sorted.

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Nose Piercing..serouisly how much does it hurt? and does the stud stick out when it gets peirced?????

On a scale of 1-10, I'd say 3. Just don't take pain killers before, because they thin your blood and then you'll end up a bleeder.
If you pierce through scar tissue, it hurts more.
As for the stud sticking out.. it depends what type you pick. Go for a smaller option if you don't want it to be that big.

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so my bestfriend is Bi, i don't know how to act around her anymore.. write back

Normally.

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Hi. my hair ALWAYS gets all frizzy and tangled and i dont have any detangler! my hairbrush is like ripping out my hair cuz it has soooo many knots! any ideas on how to detangle it and take away the frizz? thanks!

Okay, my hair is curly and frizzy, making brushing a nightmare, which is why I do it straight after washing.
Make sure you use a good conditioner. Conditioner is brilliant for reducing tangles and will leave it silky smooth.
Also, every month, purchase a nourishing hair mask.
Good luck.

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how can I make my boyfriend love to me?

This doesn't make any sense.
Make love to you or love you?
Either way, you can't. It has to come from within and when he's ready.
Be patient. :)

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this is very embarassing! please tell me if i have genital warts or not. i really hope this isn't that! i have a lot of tiny bumps on my penis... i don't know if its genital warts or not. if you know what it could be then please tell me. ill rate 5's!

Having bumps doesn't just mean genital warts y'know :)
It could be something simple like follicles or blocked hair glands - which apparently is very common.

Here are genital wart symptoms:
Does this sound like you?

# Raised, flesh-colored lesions on the genitals, anus, or surrounding skin
# Cauliflower-like appearing growths around the anus or genitals
# Increased dampness or moisture in the area of the growths
# Itching of the penis, scrotum and anal area

If so, then you'll need to see your doc.

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i am skinny from the side, but when I look at myself from the front, I am very wide.
Any way to fix this??
Thanks :)

Wide hips? You can't alter those. Try exercises to make you more curvy if you aren't already and you think it would help your shape. :)

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i'm babysitting these two kids on tuesday, one is a year and a half old, and the other is about 3and a half years old.
this is my first time babysitting so i don't have a rate and i'm almost 15 years old.
how much should i charge per hour?
like 5 or 6$?
thanks

Do you have an option with how much you want to get paid?
Since there's 2 of them and they're quite young, go for $6.
and if they happen to give you more, then good for you. :)

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I might get my eyebrows waxed soon so i would like to know if it hurts badly because i have sensitive skin?

Since it's quick and the area of your eyebrows is small, it's relatively painless. It may sting for a short while afterwards, but it's nothing too bad.
I'd like to point out though, do you have sensitive skin because you feel pain more, or if your skin is broken and cracked? If you have cracked skin, don't go for a waxing option.
Good luck!

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last year i fell and twisted my ankle, and its still swollen from then. how do i make the swelling go down?

So, your ankle is still swollen even though you twisted it 7+ months ago? Are you sure you just twisted it? I'm guessing it was sprained.. Was it quite severe? Is there any chance you could have broken it?
..You should go and show your doctor and explain how long you've had it. Generally, they shouldn't last more than 4-6 weeks at most.
They'll check there's no permanent damage to your ligaments and see if it's normal.

For now: RICE.
Rest, ice, compression, elevation.

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(not sure if its th right topic)...and its bugging me!!When Im home alone at night i feel like someone is watching me in a creepy way...When i get into my car i feel like someone got in the back and we dont know and....when im at a store or walking home from school i feel some one might kidnap me....when im asleep i feel some one will break in a kill my mom or me...sometimes when we get home at night and the lights are all out that when we walk in someone is in there and will try to kidnap..rape..or kill me and my mom...im afraid my mom will die because shes my bff and we couldnt be closer than ever and i feel if my mom dies my world would shatter and id think to myself i hav no reason to live and....well you know....i dont see myself living without my mom and..well im just soooo stressed over this.....PLZ SOMEONE HELP!!!

13/f
lives in a small town*if it helps
i hate horror movies*if it helps

I wanna be a hole lot confient in myself but i feel like on of this fear could ruin it...

Sounds to me like you're just a natural born worrier! You always think of the worst - I do the same and I definitely went through a similar stage to this and still have the odd feeling something disastrous will happen to me or a family member.
You need to realize the chances of you being kidnapped/raped/murdered in your sleep are so very tiny.
I'm not surprised you get these feelings though, since the outside world IS scary and you do hear of awful things happening in the news. but they aren't common. and if you're wary of your surroundings, you will be fine.
Also, since you're so close to your mother, it's natural you don't want her to die, but since death happens to us all at some point, it's useless thinking about it now. You are only 13, so just enjoy the moments you have together - you'll be having SO many more.
I'm sure this will get better soon and you'll learn to not be afraid of these things and look at life in a more positive way. It isn't to be scared of. Life is to be lived.
If you feel you can't stop these feelings, I urge you to talk to someone about it. Whether it's your mum, a friend, a counselor, etc - because getting it off your chest will help. and make you realize these things shouldn't be denting the confidence you're trying to achieve.

P.S.. don't watch horror films!

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14f


Im used to have really small toes but in the last 2 weeks they have grown alot. So i was wondering since my toes are growing in length does that mean that i can look forward to growing in height?
Im only 5'0 but my mom is about 5'4 and my dads around 5'6 - 5'8. Oh and i started puberty at around 9.

Thanks
:D

You may have started puberty early, but you are still only 14! There's a lot of time left for growing, still.

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http://www.wikihow.com/Easily-Pierce-Your-Own-Nose


does that sound about right? i want to pierce my own nose. i want to make sure the sterilizing is correct

No, it's not right. This is coming from someone who has had 3 nostril piercings.
It actually made me laugh out loud. Nostril piercings do not take 3-6 weeks to heal. They take months - maybe even as long as 12 or more depending on the person.
You also shouldn't use antiseptic ointments on piercings - it clogs them up. All you need to clean a piercing is sea salt soaks.
You need to pierce your nose with a hollow needle. This way you won't be messing around inserting needles, taking them out, then putting jewelry in. It's just totally unnecessary. If you use a hollow needle, it allows you to put the jewelry in at the same time, making it quicker and less likely to hurt.
The sterilizing is also way off. you need an autoclave to sterilize items. I highly doubt you have those. but professional piercing studios will. :) Don't be silly and just get it done properly. Then you can be sure you have the correct placement and jewelry etc.
Good luck whatever you decide to do..

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i was piercing my nose and it started bleeding so i freaked out and stopped. is it bad to stop 1/2 through?

What do you mean by "bad"?
The most that can happen is it'll leave a bit of scar tissue making it harder to pierce next time.
Do yourself a favour and just go to a professional. They know what they're doing, it's quick and simple and you can be sure their equipment is 100% properly steralized, whereas yours most probably isn't.

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On thursday I was at a party & I wanted to have fresh breath so I kept chewing gum, but I guess I chewed too much, because I bit my cheek twice from my jaw being tired. So the 3rd time was HORRIBLE. I was dancin w/ some guy and omg. I could taste the blood, feel the pain.
So today is basically Sunday and it still hurts! I haven't re bit it, but my friend pinched my cheeks just jokingly because he forgot I bit it and wooow. It hurts. What should I do? I feel it throbbing right now. =(

*Try not to bite it any more.
*If it's throbbing, suck some ice.
*You could try products like bonjela.

Oral cuts heal quite fast, so that is the plus side, although they are annoying and painful.
Just give it a few days and you should be fine. :]

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hi so my mum saw some girls clothes in my room and thinks i have been wareing them (i have not worn them they are my gf's she left here) what do i do or say to my mum

Thanks People

Did she tell you she thinks you are wearing them, or do you just think that?
If she says it again, say they're your girlfriends. If she keeps on saying it, she's probably joking. :P

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Can a person smoke cigarette butts found in ashtrays? Is it unhealthy? (yes i know smoking isn't healthy but could you get like a cold from doing it or something?) Im NOT GOING to do it, I'm just curious.

If the person who smoked before you has a cold.. then it could get passed on..
but you can't really smoke the ends anyway :S

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So my boyfriend said that he would like to finger me. But it's just ever since puberty I have had that "ricotta like discharge" in the inside of my vulva (like right in between my labia majora and labia minora). Down there it also happens to be really really red between those labias. But the discharge that actually comes out of my vagina I know is normal, but it's the discharge that is between my vulvas. It's right in between the crease that separates those two labias where the "ricotta like discharge" is. I wash myself down there and stuff, but is it normal? Does anyone else have that?

Make an appt with your doc and explain to him/her, because it may be something which needs clearing up(infection), although if you've had it since hitting puberty, it could just be how yours is - since discharge varies in consistency.. and you could just generally have alot of it.
Since you're complaining of it being red, it could be irritated or inflamed - which again suggests you may have a slight infection.
Since no one here can properly diagnose you, have a chat to your doc and if there is something wrong, it can be easily treated.

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