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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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Ok it was our 8th grade promotion dance and I wanted to dance with my ex- boyfriend just as friends. he wouldnt dance with me(i dont know why) the next day at school in the morning he was being a total jerk, then by the afternoon he was being really nice to me. should I still talk to him or should I ignore him?

(I think I like him more than a friend still)

If he doesn't have the decency to treat you kind and like a lady then he isn't worth your time. Besides he is your ex-boyfriend, stop trying to hold onto an old flame. I wouldn't completely ignore him, that's kinda childish. But I wouldn't go pursue a conversation with him either. If he wants to talk and be nice let him come to you.

Hi, right now I'm 14 and my boobs have stopped growing. I wear like an AA30 which is realy small and embarrasing. I was thinking about over the summer I could try some breats enlargement pills. I searched and the best place I could find is Small Breast Solutions.com Do you think I should try these. I'm sure I want to (for myself) so I can feel what it is like to be a girl. (I know I sound stupid.) I asked my mom and she is okay with it. I know the ingreadients and I know I know what I'm doing. I think it is better than plastic surgery (whith all the bad outcomes.) But I'm not sure about my friends and this guy who is my really close friend. (I told them I had stopped growing.) (Guys how would you feel if a girl you knew was using this?)I'm not going to tell anyone. Thank you so much for advice!

Seeing that your only 14 I would wait before doing anything. You still could have some development ahead of you. I knew many girls that still were growing into their late teens. As for these pills, I would advise against it. They are basically steroids, and could cause you to grow unevenly or even give you health problems. Before doing anything I would consult a doctor.

Well i have just started to date this guy we have been together for almost two months. Now me and him get along great the sex is great and we have alot in common. What i want advice on is that i am a very intellectual person and enjoy the arts and what not anyway im a dork he on the other hand is a skateborder who did not graduate high school. He is not a bum has a good job and i know he loves me alot as i do him. Do u think that ill get bored in the future if he does not stimulate me mentally? (i am a 19yr Female)

Not necessarily. I really do believe that opposites attract. As long as your are filling your mental stimulation somewhere in your life then you should be ok. Your not going to find one person that can fill all your needs. As long as you are happy with him, stay with him.

I have something to say to all advicenators.
Ratings are nice and they help to know what other people think of the advice we give but their not THAT big of a deal.
I'm really tired of seeing everyone asking advicenators to "Rate" them. No I'm not trying to be rude but it seems like that is all everyone thinks about.
The more you give advice the more ratings you get. 80% 90% time people don't rate but as time goes on we all will get ratings.

Thank You for reading what I have to say.

sincerely
advice~gurl

I completely agree! I am tired of seeing people more worried about their "score" rather that the advice they are giving. The rating system is not that importaint, nor that accurate.

I had a great friendship with a girl, but I made the mistake of asking her to open up to me about my past and feelings. My logic was since she's so afraid that my opinion of her would be lowered if I knew about her past, then she would come to some relief in knowing that my opinion of her would never be changed by something she did years ago. She told me, then days later she was furious about me knowing about her past. So my problem is this: I am in love with her, and she's very distant. I never asked her out because she's against dating, but now she is around another guy a lot who also loves her. I don't think she's attracted to me, so there's little hope to begin with (We told each other everyone we had a crush on. She was on my list, I wasn't on her's). This guy is open about his love, and is very touchy-feely towards everyone, especially with her. I'm afraid she'll start dating him, and never really speak to me again. I give her rides from school, and recently she just walked off with the other guy without saying a word. I caught up with them, and she said she was walking home, and had plans to go mushroom hunting. But she walked in the opposite direction of her house and it was starting to rain. I'm not sure if I'm reading too much into this,or if she really doesn't want to see me anymore. So should I tell her how I feel and ask her who she'd rather be with, or should I spare myself the pain and depression that would follow and ignore this or ignore her. If this, then how do I possibly get over her, I don't really have many people I can talk to and I'm so very in love.

I bet she knows of your feelings, and is now keeping her distance because she doesn't want to hurt you. Sadly I think if you tell her how you feel, it will make the situation worse.
Your story reminded me of a Madonna song...

What Can You Lose
written by Stephen Sondheim

What can you lose?
Only the blues.
Why keep concealing everything you're feeling?
Say it to her, what can you lose?
Maybe it shows,
She's had clues, which she chose to ignore.
Maybe though she knows,
And just wants to go on as before.
As a friend, nothing more
So she closes the door.

Well, if she does
Those are the dues.
Once the words are spoken,
Something may be broken.
Still, you love her
What can you lose?

But what if she goes?
At least now, you have part of her.
What if she had to choose?

Leave it alone
Hold it all in.
Better a bone
Don't even begin.
With so much to win,
There's too much to lose.

hey im new im krista davissonand i need
someone to help me out i want to get rated with out sayin rate me plz cuz that sound weird dosnt it? so can anyone rate me im advicebaby13 thanx

The only way to get rated is by the people asking the questions, and 90% of the time they don't rate you. So don't get discouraged, give it some time and just keep answering questions, you'll get some ratings. Not that they really mean anything. I don't think they are too acurate.

My ex boyfriend had brought a computer for me when we were living together 2 years ago and i had moved out and then he had gotten another place and we are still friends but his computer had to go to the shop and he gave me the information needed to check on where the computer was because when i kept on calling it was at one place then shipped to another and finally back where it belonged. so i went to go pick it up and the company let me because him and i had brought the computer in together and the woman said he does not care what information was put down because i knew the problems with the computer because he does not know it as i do he was never on it only me and my daughter. so now he is saying that i stole in which i doid not and i helped him through his heart operation 3 years ago and he has a mechanical valve and his own family was not even there not even his friends just me. also the nurses gave me food and a placde to sleep while he was in the hospital so i need help.

I am a little confused as to exactly what you need help with, your grammar is all wrong and makes your question quite hard to read. You will get more responses to your questions if it is clearly written.

Even though it was a gift, I'd say just give him back the computer and be done with him.

Ok, so, my ex BF and I like each other. But there are some problems if we were to be together...we hardly would see each other...like once or twice a week...and we are forbidin to see each other...because of some stuff that happend in the past. Ok so lets say we are going out...there is another problem, i think he likes his other Ex GF still. Everynight he tells her he loves and and good~night. And he hardly ever says that to me. And he see's her everyday because they go to the same school. His Ex and I are friends, and we are thinking he's playing the both of us...but I REALLY like him, although he has hurt my feelings a bit. And she will be moving this June. What should I do? Tell me ASAP!
missc

This guy doesn't sound all that wonderful. If you are forbidden to see eachother, is it really worth all the sneaking around for a guy that isn't totally devoted to you? I'd say give him up. There are lots of guys that will treat you better than that.

im a 14 year old 8th grader...and the guy i like is a freshman and i dont want to get pressured into anything bad... ok so... i like this guy... but iv never really met him...but i talk to him on im... and what i know of him i really like...and he asked me out...what do i do???

I wouldn't assume that just because he is a year older than you, that he would pressure you into anything. And even if he did try, don't let him. I am sure you are a smart girl and know right from wrong.

I would be warry of online realtionships though. You never really know how much truth they are telling you. For now, I would keep your freindship how it is. But if you do one day plan to meet, make sure you do it with a friend or two and meet in a public place.

help im trying to plan a rele awesome party for my 14th birthday!!
there is going to be like around 15 people there, and i need fun games, activites whatever that we can do.
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samantha

Do a scavanger hunt! Break up into 3-4 groups and get a disposible camera for each group. Then make up a crazy list of things they need to collect and pictures to take. It is amazing what you can get people to do. You'll get a great collection of crazy pictures of your friends which also work great for blackmail later on.(just kidding!)

Here is another fun game. Fill up a suite case will all kinds of crazy clothes and accsseories. Then blindfold someone, and give them 1-2 minutes and see how much they can get on. It's a hoot!

I haven't found the help I searched for so I'll ask you: is it OK for me to reply my own question and that way to talk to the others that answered me?

As about the answer you gave me I can say that no metter how young I am (or she is), or how it's just maybe a "puppy love", I can still feel it so I'd really like to do something about it.

If this is the guy that is 13 and likes the girl 2 years younger, then I still stick by my answer. You are both too young to have a romantic relationship. But there is nothing wrong with being her friend. So suck up your nerves, go say hi, talk to her, and really get to know her.

I have 13 years old (almost 14) and I have a tough crush on a girl from my school who's two years younger then me. I'm really going mad because the time is passing and I can't find a way to approach and talk to her. The only thing I do to make her know I love her is staring at her while passing by but I'm pretty sure she hasn't noticed. Help please! (Have on mind that I'm afraid to fail, so I'd either do nothing or something in which I'm sure it'd work. If I fail I'll be avoiding her forever!)

Give yourself some time, your only 13. Which makes the girl you like 11. She is still a little girl, and the both of you are too young to be romanticaly involved. For now I would keep your feelings to yourself. Even if you did tell her, what would you want her to do? Don't worry about time passing by you, you still have lots of it.

For now, just attempt to be her friend. Next time you see her, instead of staring (which is kinda creepy) smile and say hi.

i am 14. Ok... me and my mom are always fighting. (about the smallest and STUPIDEST things) i know it's because we are so much alike, but i just found out we are moving in a month, my parents said they will take me to my high school if i have a good attitude (that means no fighting).. so i need tips on how to suck up to them and to avoid fighting with her.

Treat her with respect. That's all that parents want, respect. You don't always have to agree with her. If you have a dissagrement, instead of arguing, try being more calm, and try talking like an adult. And really listen to what she has to say, and understand her side. The more respect you give her, the more she will give you.

Hey Spacefem, I got a problem. Im in jr high, 7th grade, and one of my friends is really weird. Shes always gossiping and such, and at my school, teachers crack down HARD on stopping it. Im 100% against gossip, 1 because it hurts people, and 2 because its not minding your own business. Im always telling her to stop it, or shell get in big trouble, and she listens slightly, but 10 minutes later she is doing it again, and naturally, gets in trouble. the other day I reminded her of what would happen, and out of nowhere she bursts out "Just stop telling me what to do!" Which I find odd. Even though I constantly remind her to stop gossiping, she tells me to do way more things than I tell her. Im her note-passer, bookkeeper, saxophone-carrier, and a bunch of other random things. Im wondering, what should I do? Am I really being -that- bossy about her getting in trouble?

I say you should stop acting like her mother. Stop doing so much for her. She is a big girl, she can carry her own things. And she is old enough to know from right and wrong, you don't need to remind her constantly. Maybe if she got in trouble for gossiping, she might learn a lesson.

OK, so there's this girl at school who's not that popular, but this year we've been put in some of the same classes and we got talking. She's quite nice, but embarrassing to be around because she's so loud and shouty! I'm also worried because when I'm hanging round with my friends she always comes over from her own friends to speak to us, and my other friends start laughing at her. Though I feel sorry for her, I wish she'd stop being so geeky and then maybe she could stop embarrassing me in front of my friends. She's also ditching her other friends to spend time with us, so I'm worried she'll end up with no friends at all. HELP!

She is most likely excited that she is beginning to feel that she has more friends. Maybe next time you notice her being a little too "loud" pull her aside, and tell her as a friend that she doesn't have to scream everything she says because people might see that as abnoctious. Right now she seems eager to please, so she might take what you say to heart. As for your friends, next time they make fun of her remind them that she is your friend, and not as bad they think she is. If only the took the time to get to know her. I can't promise that anything will change, but then at least your know tried.

It sounds like you are a good freind, but in the end it is up to her. How she treats and reacts to people is what will determin her friendships. You'll find that as you get older, people become a lot less cliqy and are open to being friends with a larger variety of people. So just hang in there.

can u still swim if you got like 5 stiches in your finger????????

I would deffinetly not recommened it. Pools are full of nasty bacteria, you don't want that getting into your stiches and causing an infection. Talk to your doctor if your unsure, but I wouldn't risk it.

I wanna go get my tongue pierced but im scared that its going to hurt real bad..is it going to hurt??? what does it feel like??? Im 19 but another thing is if my mom finds out she'll be really really really upset and mad at me and i think i might be kicked out of the house...is there anyway i could hide it from her????? PLEASE HELP FAST!!!!

I know a few people who have gotten their tongue pierced, including my sister. They all claim that surprisingly it really doesn't hurt that much. When my sister got her tongue pierced, it took a month before my dad realized. Your 19 and old enough that if you want a piercing you are perfectly allowed to go get one. And what kind of mother would kick their own child out into the street because they got a piercing? I think your overreacting. She may get mad, but tough luck, she'll get over it. You're an adult now and it is time she realizes it.

I have a very screwed up family. But my problem is that my oldest brother is in the Army and has been in Iraq since November. Well, he came back for 2 weeks and I only got to talk to him once while he was here. He was to busy with his wife and 3 adopted daughters. Then I find out on the day he left that he called the rest of my family ie my twin brother, my sister, and a couple other relatives and NOT me! I am the youngest girl in the family and my brother sticks up for me but why would he not call me when he left?

Give your brother a break. He was probably very emotional having to leave his family again. So maybe he didn't remember to call everybody or wasn't able to. Or maybe he did try and you weren't there. Whatever the reason don't take it so personaly, I am sure your brother really does cares about you. He just has bigger things on his mind right now.

Are you supposed to wear underwear while playing volleyball in spandex?

Don't listen to wantzluv83. You really should not be wearing a thong while plaing sports. It sounds painful just thinking about it. I played Volleyball through highschool and I don't reacall this being a problem. I personaly would ware some sort of cotton underware. Spandex does not breath, and it seems kinda unsanitary not to wear underwear when your getting all sweaty.

I am a 14 year old girl. I am moving... not very far... only about 30 minuetes away. well my parents say that i can got to the high school i was supposed to go to, with all my friends... my parents say that they will take me to the school for the first year and then i have to find my own ride or go to the other high school. well my friend think that i'm gonna meet new people and get into drugs... i keep promising her that i won't but her last friend did and that's what she thinks is gonna happen to me! My parents really don't care about what i think. and they don't care if i loose my best friend. What should i do?

Your friend is upset with you for leaving her. She is giving herself reasons not to be your friend. Just remind her you are not moving that far away, and you will still be going to the same school, so there is really nothing to worry about. Why would she think you would leave her for friends that do drugs? She is your best friend and knows you better than to do that.

And I am sure your parents do care and want you to be happy. Thats why they are willing to drive you to the school you want to go to. Don't worry about how you will get there next year, that's a long time away. You'll find a solution.

Good luck, and stop being so bummed!

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