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My Brother
I have a very screwed up family. But my problem is that my oldest brother is in the Army and has been in Iraq since November. Well, he came back for 2 weeks and I only got to talk to him once while he was here. He was to busy with his wife and 3 adopted daughters. Then I find out on the day he left that he called the rest of my family ie my twin brother, my sister, and a couple other relatives and NOT me! I am the youngest girl in the family and my brother sticks up for me but why would he not call me when he left?
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He might not think of you as an individual; he might be thinking of you as still being a baby and a sort of furniture in one of his parents' homes. He might have thought that he had you covered when he talked to other family members. OK, so he didn't have you covered, but he might not know that yet.
Did you call him and talk to him while he was on leave? If not, it's unrealistic to expect him to be the one to take the initiative. There's also a chance, if you left messages, that he didn't get the message. Answering machines break and people don't always write messages down.
So write to your brother and mention that you didn't have a chance to say goodbye. Tell him that you love him. If you've got something nice or positive that you'd like to say to him, then say it. It doesn't have to be done over the phone. Mail call is still a very important Army tradition, and I'm sure your brother would love to receive a letter from you. Just make sure you don't load up on the guilt, OK? Assuming that calling you was something he realized he needed to do, there's a chance that calling you may just have slipped his mind, so give him a chance to correct before you jump to conclusions.
Now, if he blows you off, or if he's still ignoring you a year from now, there might be a deeper problem you'll have to address.
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I guess I have to keep adding info so that people can understand this a little better. This is not the first time he has gone away. He has always called when he leaves. And to the person who said something about my mum, well, she passed away when I was 10 and I am now about to be 21.
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He would b really busy there is a lot of reponablitiy given to ppl who has a family life and in the army he only gets a small amount of time to use the fone and his fone calls and letters are read and recorded to make sure no infornmation is passed back. Dont b to worried hes ur big brother and he loves u , he stickes up for u coz he loves and doesnt want u 2 be blamed.
by friend2all
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since your broyher had to go back mayb it was 2 emotional fot him to call you mayb he was scared he would cry. write him n ask y but b polite
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Give your brother a break. He was probably very emotional having to leave his family again. So maybe he didn't remember to call everybody or wasn't able to. Or maybe he did try and you weren't there. Whatever the reason don't take it so personaly, I am sure your brother really does cares about you. He just has bigger things on his mind right now.
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