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what do I do?
OK, so there's this girl at school who's not that popular, but this year we've been put in some of the same classes and we got talking. She's quite nice, but embarrassing to be around because she's so loud and shouty! I'm also worried because when I'm hanging round with my friends she always comes over from her own friends to speak to us, and my other friends start laughing at her. Though I feel sorry for her, I wish she'd stop being so geeky and then maybe she could stop embarrassing me in front of my friends. She's also ditching her other friends to spend time with us, so I'm worried she'll end up with no friends at all. HELP!
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ok... So she's annoying? And she embarrasses you? Would you stop being her friend because your friends don't like her.. If you worry about her, you should talk to your other friends. Tell them they shouldn't laugh at her. Are you popular? The info suggests that you are. If so you probably have some impact on your friends. If you think she won't have any friends at all, to me meaning you will stop being her friend, you should just flat out tell her to stop being so loud. If you are going to stop talking to her anyway, you've got nothing to lose.
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"Stop being so geeky" is a bit harsh, don't you think? I've known people like this before, and basically I had no problems with them because my friends thought he/she were this way as well, meaning we could talk to each other about how we felt about him/her. (Not gossip, just ways to cope with her 'loud shouty' ness.)
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First of all, no one is better than the next person even though in school some people may not feel that way. You may feel that she s embarrassing you now but when u get older and mature you ll know that what ur friends think about someone u find nice, attractive, funny, or just plain fun to be around wouldn t matter.
U need to be your own person and have ur own thoughts and feelings and stop worrying about what other people think. That makes u a follower, and that is LAME!
Do what u feel is right and in the end u ll have no regrets or bad feelings like u are having now!
NO worries mon :)
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well, if you like her you wont care about whether she is geeky or not, and whether if it will make you look cool, or what not. And you cant change her, she is who she is, and you obviosly saw her for who she was and so you shouldnt try to change people it only makes things worse
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She is most likely excited that she is beginning to feel that she has more friends. Maybe next time you notice her being a little too "loud" pull her aside, and tell her as a friend that she doesn't have to scream everything she says because people might see that as abnoctious. Right now she seems eager to please, so she might take what you say to heart. As for your friends, next time they make fun of her remind them that she is your friend, and not as bad they think she is. If only the took the time to get to know her. I can't promise that anything will change, but then at least your know tried.
It sounds like you are a good freind, but in the end it is up to her. How she treats and reacts to people is what will determin her friendships. You'll find that as you get older, people become a lot less cliqy and are open to being friends with a larger variety of people. So just hang in there.
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u cart change her. Im sorry say hi and be nice to her talk to her and dont be mean to her we are alll different. If u dont want her to come talk to u tell her that ur friends are beeing mean to her and u want to keep talking but away from ur friends after school
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