Rainbow Diva
I m a lesbian woman, but I can lend my ears, heart and mind to any situation given it s one of distraught or curiousity.
I know all the heartaches of being lonely and can help u as we both go through it. NO i do not have all the answers anyone who says that they do is a fool i do believe that u help others and others can help u so i am not perfect and tend to need a helping hand too.
I ve been at both ends and will gladly lend my good and bad life s experiences with u so u can overcome some of the adversity in your life!
NO worries:)
E-mail: Tastyrainbowdiva@aol.com
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Member Since: May 8, 2004
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This site is for advice and to elp people with their confuson.... I believe your response was totally out of line....
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Well excuse me, I am not apologizing for my opinion and that is what this site is all about, basically giving an opinion to a person s situation. Now if you feel my response to something was inappropriate that is fine but, this site to me is about giving a person an opinion on varied situations they may be dealing with and that is what I did and always do!
Thank you for expressing your concern but If you feel i was so inappropriate how come you did not find it appropriate enough to leave your name and the question you feel i answered inappropriately!
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how do lesbians have sex? (link)
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Hi
first of all I (being a lesbian) think it is offensive to even ask a question like that, you wouldn t find me asking how do straights have sex. Anyways if you are so curious to know what lesbians do in the bedroom why don t u find out firsthand instead of having to ask questions like that. And to clichedlust and tinkerbell you both are abviously not lesbians so u shouldnt answer questions u dont know much about!
To all the lesbians out there who were also offended and gay men maybe as well, sometimes people just find the need to be ignorant but of course you and i know this much!
Later
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My girlfriend was without a job, money, place to live a year ago. She asked me to help her and I found her a place to live,and loaned her money. I even bought her a cell phone she said she needed to find jobs. I signed a contract with Sprint in my name and paid all the bills which she promised to repaid me after finding a job. Now she has a job and makes good money but doesn't want to pay me back. I called her asking for my money and she insults me, hangs-up and lies that she dosen't have the money. Meanwhile, she's buying new clothes, ect. HOW CAN I MAKE HER PAY ME BACK??? (link)
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Hello!
Sorry to hear that this young lady is taking advantage of your kindness, but that happens in life all the time.
There really is no way you can make her pay you back in my personal opinion other than going to court, or harassing your money out of her. I think that maybe you should go to her job and try and see her on the job where she can t really avoid you and not just call on the phone. Yeah hanging up is easy to do but if you and her speak face to face it makes her have to come clean about things. I feel that you need to try and meet up with her some kind of way face to face and talk to her explaining how this feels to you being that you were only trying to help in the first place.
I don t know what else to say but you have to be more smart about things and not trust people so easily.
God Bless :)
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im a 14 year old 8th grader...and the guy i like is a freshman and i dont want to get pressured into anything bad... ok so... i like this guy... but iv never really met him...but i talk to him on im... and what i know of him i really like...and he asked me out...what do i do??? (link)
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Hello!
Well judging from the information provided it seems to me that u met this guy online. I think that u shd simply forget about it. I know that may be hard to or easier said then done, but what a person says online can all be a lie and u may actually end up getting into more trouble than u think.
I don t know what u find so interesting in this guy but I feel that u shd keep things the way they are right now and try not to change a thing.
If something is going to come of it then it will and u will not have to even try so hard.
Just focus on being young and enjoying your life your too young to be thinking of getting tied down in a relationship. Being young is all about having a great time and learning fun and exciting things that u can laugh about as u get older.
Just do what u know in your heart is right and if you can tell your parents about it then it s ok!
No Worries:)
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Here's my problem, I am the youngest of 6. I'm 14 a gurl. (the yongest next to me is 24) I have 2 sisters and 3 brothers and about 1 week ago I found out that my brother is gay. he is almost 30 and the fact that he is gay does not bother me atall but I don't even know what is bothering me. My church does not beleive in being gay or anything. I dn't care what other people think so don't go telling that my church is awful.
i think 1 of my sisters is gay and I just am a stake of shock and don't know what to do. I also have a cousin that is gay (my aunts son) I feel like everything I thought was right and everything I thought I knew is out the window. I don't know what to believe and what not too.
My mother has such weird ideas she doesn't care what ian does but she almost act immbarrissed at the fact that she has a gay kids. I sometimes feel that maybe I am (befroe my bro came out) but I know that I never want to explore that part of me.
really was wondering if I could get some advice from some advicenators that have experience in what I'm dealing with.
I Love my bro and I will never turn against him for what he is but I just feel so confused to what to beleive.
signed,
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Hello!
Being that I am a lesbian woman and have had to deal with my family members disagreements and tolerance of my lifestyle I am glad to assist in any way possible.
I am glad to hear that you are not turing your back on your brother. It is a very good thing not to follow what other people think and go on how you feel in your heart. The thing is right and wrong, you already know, i ve dealt with that because i was raised in church. I have come to that point where I just pray and hope for understanding.
I feel that no one can truly help who they are attracted to and tend to have feelings for, you should embrace all of the things your heart desires but do that with knowledge and be safe about it as well. If you feel that you want to experience what it is like to be with a woman, do that, but be smart about it where as not to get your feelings hurt.
I hope that I have helped you in some way and if I can be of any more assistance pls feel free to let me know God Bless and keep you no matter what u decide in the long run
No Worries:)
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I found out last week that my ex- boyfriend likes me again. so we started talking to eachother and he said that I lied to him, but i didnt. so now he is really mad at me and hes not talking to me what should i do? (link)
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Hello!
U r not giving enough information but based on the info provided, I think that u and him may really have deep feelings and emotions for each other however u do not seem like u belong together.
Maybe u and him shd just be friends and let that be that and maybe in the future if u r destined to be together then u will be.
Don t allow this situation to stress u out life is too short keep ur head up and don t beat urself up treat urself love
No Worries:)
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I'm a 14 year old girl, and I constantly fantasize about older guys...sexually. I haven't done anything about it, but they're in my dreams, while I'm in school, and I've talked to some online. Is this common? Is there a certain reason why I keep thinking about them this way? (link)
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Hello!
The feelings that u r feeling are valid and u shd not feel embarrassed or ashame of them. I think there is only a problem if u at ur age pursue these older guys and they take u up on the offer. U must understand that a minor being involved in sexual activities with an adult or a person over the age of 18 is a crime.
U shd not pursue them and hopefully they won t pursue u because that isn t right. I feel that u r probably just going thru a phase that many people ur age go thru especially when it comes to puberty. Ur hormones r most likely just getting the best of u right now.
No Worries:)
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I have a boyfriend, but I have a crush on someone else,what should I do? (link)
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Hello!
I ve definitely been in this situation before, and if u have it good wth ur man why go anywhere else. Ur looking at someone based on their physical attributes and may not know much about the person. U have a boyfriend that shd be treating u right and loves u, the other guy u have a crush on may be abusive, rude, or boring.
If ur not happy in ur relationship then move on and let ur boyfriend know that ur interested in someone else.
Only pursue the guy u have a crush on if ur not happy in ur relationship, other than that
peeking aint cheating :)
NO Worries:)
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BTW~ this is a question I asked earlier but I'm repeating it cuz I continue to search for more imput. *'s are additions
Hiya!
I'm Annie (13, fem, MD). There's this guy and we used to be together like last year but I gave him the dump. I'm starting to feel that it was a mistake- I mean thinking about it, I can't remember why I dumped him in the first place. It was for my own good, and I know good from bad, don't smoke straight-A's only drink a little is my description. But this guy- he's so amazing. I totally can talk to him really closely and he has all these amazing aspirations for his life. He hangs with me at parties a little but he's a little safe- no kissing, no sex, though he is a druggie. I like the fact that he has very few friends- I admire people who don't require a possie to function. SO anyway, you probably are accustomed to giving guys advice but I really hope you can help me. I need to know if he likes me at all. How can I tell? And if so, what moves should I make, like how fast should I make them, aswell? And what can I do to keep him liking me? Please help!
*muah*
***~I'm pretty cute looking, but I havee kinda small boobs. Would him being predjudice against that be a big factor in the eqation, particularly at this age? Do guys REALLY care about that?
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Hello!
I think that, speaking from personal experience, most people that do illegal drugs and are constant users are abusive.
Maybe he s not that way though who knows...
Anyway i feel that the way to know a guy likes u is if u can burp and fart around the guy and he s still there. If ur comfortable being with this guy u shd be able to talk about anything and just share ur worries that u shared on here with him.
Let him know ur insecurities, ur fears, and ur feelings. sex is important in a relationship but it is not so important to the fact that u can t wait. there are other things the two of u can do to stimulate each other, but that s if u and him get serious enough to even get to that point.
Just know that u r perfect the way u r and if he doesnt think so then it s his lost not yours!
WOMEN ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL CREATURES IN THE WORLD AND U R NO EXCEPTION TO THE RULE!
NO Worries :)
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OK, so there's this girl at school who's not that popular, but this year we've been put in some of the same classes and we got talking. She's quite nice, but embarrassing to be around because she's so loud and shouty! I'm also worried because when I'm hanging round with my friends she always comes over from her own friends to speak to us, and my other friends start laughing at her. Though I feel sorry for her, I wish she'd stop being so geeky and then maybe she could stop embarrassing me in front of my friends. She's also ditching her other friends to spend time with us, so I'm worried she'll end up with no friends at all. HELP! (link)
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First of all, no one is better than the next person even though in school some people may not feel that way. You may feel that she s embarrassing you now but when u get older and mature you ll know that what ur friends think about someone u find nice, attractive, funny, or just plain fun to be around wouldn t matter.
U need to be your own person and have ur own thoughts and feelings and stop worrying about what other people think. That makes u a follower, and that is LAME!
Do what u feel is right and in the end u ll have no regrets or bad feelings like u are having now!
NO worries mon :)
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does it hurt when u have sex? like a lot...or is it just emotional stuff that hurts? someone please tell me!!! ...lost...
p.s. im 14 year old female (link)
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Sex for the first time will hurt especially if your with another person that is un experienced. It is an emotional thing as well, you need to be with someone that u can be comfortable with and share ur concerns and feelings. For instance what if all of a sudden you get really scared at the heat of the moment and decide to change ur mind u need to be sharing the experience with someone who is understanding of that.
It hurts, yeah, but if your with someone who knows what they are doing sexually it will be a great thing.
No matter what u do make sure that u protect yourself if you decide to have sex, there are diseases out there and no one is immune! Arm yourself with information about STD s Contraceptives, and contacts.
Good luck and make sure that this unforgettable experience is with someone you truly love and loves u in return u cannot get ur virginity back once it s gone, choose ur first wisely.
No worries mon :)
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I wasn't really sure where to put this, so I picked friendship, since it has to do with a friend.
Okay, so it's indirectly about my best friend. Her name is Lisa. But it's also about her boyfriend. His name is Tyler.
So, recently, Tyler told me that he's wanted to ask me out since he first came to our school in the middle of this year. (I'm a girl, in case you people didn't already figure that out.) I've always liked him, but I never let on. But now, he knows.
So, today, I stayed after school, because I didn't want to go home and clean my room. (It's a MESS.) Well, Tyler ALWAYS stays after school. For reasons unbeknownst to me. (I hope I spelled that right.)
Well, at first, we were just sitting at the picknick table, talking. About nothing, really. Then we got onto the subject of us liking eachother. Which quickly turned into flirting.
I had a metal... Thing, I have no idea what it was... in my hand. Well, Tyler took it. I tried to get it back, wich turned into us holding hands. Which turned into a kiss... Which turned into a make-out session...
Now, Lisa is my very best friend in the whole wide world, and I'd rather do ANYTHING than hurt her... But I think I just did.
We both knew it was wrong. And it was. Now I'm wondering what I should do. Please help me. :( (link)
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HELLO!
First off all things happen for a reason, and no matter what happens this to will pass. I feel that u and him should keep that to yourself because it will only be letting you and him off the hook and clearing your conscience when you two are the guilty ones.
However as a friend your stuck between a rock in a hard place because now your best friend has a man that will potentially cheat on her and not only that but with her best friend, he is not the man for either of you because he is coming between two friends. I feel that if you and her are really good friends no man should come between that.
So you need to leave him alone and so does your friend. Who wants a man that will come between two best friends. Thats almost like sleeping with your sister and I know you wouldnt want a man that wld try and get with ur sister
anyways just go with your heart and you will never go astray
No worries mon :)
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