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Here's my problem, I am the youngest of 6. I'm 14 a gurl. (the yongest next to me is 24) I have 2 sisters and 3 brothers and about 1 week ago I found out that my brother is gay. he is almost 30 and the fact that he is gay does not bother me atall but I don't even know what is bothering me. My church does not beleive in being gay or anything. I dn't care what other people think so don't go telling that my church is awful.
i think 1 of my sisters is gay and I just am a stake of shock and don't know what to do. I also have a cousin that is gay (my aunts son) I feel like everything I thought was right and everything I thought I knew is out the window. I don't know what to believe and what not too.
My mother has such weird ideas she doesn't care what ian does but she almost act immbarrissed at the fact that she has a gay kids. I sometimes feel that maybe I am (befroe my bro came out) but I know that I never want to explore that part of me.
really was wondering if I could get some advice from some advicenators that have experience in what I'm dealing with.
I Love my bro and I will never turn against him for what he is but I just feel so confused to what to beleive.
signed,
lost
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I can't tell you how much I respect your brother for coming out. i respect your church for their loyalty to their beliefs, even though I disagree. The church and society have two different customs: society changes and church beliefs don't. Religion is great, but don't think they're right if they say gay people are going to hell. I'm not saying you should give up on your faith either. Your mother probably isn't embarrassed, she's probably just afraid for her children. I have a ton of respect for you, it takes a lot to be in this situation. In my opinion, continue to stick with your bro, and don't let anyone else change your opinion of him. Continue to have faith in your God. People can't help it if they're gay. If you think you might be gay, it may be healthy to explore your feelings, but probably not now. Wait until you're older. Or suppress your feelings until they're nonexistent. It's not healthy, but sometimes it's the right choice if your feelings aren't very strong.
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you said your a church goin gal so pray the lord will tell you what 2 do
luv your brother for who he is not what he does
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Hello!
Being that I am a lesbian woman and have had to deal with my family members disagreements and tolerance of my lifestyle I am glad to assist in any way possible.
I am glad to hear that you are not turing your back on your brother. It is a very good thing not to follow what other people think and go on how you feel in your heart. The thing is right and wrong, you already know, i ve dealt with that because i was raised in church. I have come to that point where I just pray and hope for understanding.
I feel that no one can truly help who they are attracted to and tend to have feelings for, you should embrace all of the things your heart desires but do that with knowledge and be safe about it as well. If you feel that you want to experience what it is like to be with a woman, do that, but be smart about it where as not to get your feelings hurt.
I hope that I have helped you in some way and if I can be of any more assistance pls feel free to let me know God Bless and keep you no matter what u decide in the long run
No Worries:)
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